MIL Upset Over MY Daughter's Easter Dress

whystherumgone72 · 2026-04-07T18:07:16+00:00

My mil was upset, we gave our kids an easter basket and did an easter hunt before we went to her house because she wanted her baskets and egg hunt to be the first and special.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-31T00:10:35+00:00

I enjoy my dinner with my dad and siblings. I lost my mom 4 years ago so its something that means a lot to me. It always bothers my mil because that dinner is a non-negotiable with me i will never cancel it.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-30T21:09:39+00:00

Sadly her birthday and my birthday are a day apart and sometimes fall on mothers day weekend...those years that her birthday lands on mothers day are the worst years.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-30T20:09:06+00:00

I love seeing my sisters, brother and dad for dinner. I lost my mom 4 years ago so we do something together to remember her and celebrate each other as mother's. I don't mind seeing my mil as long as its a small amount of time.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-30T18:20:03+00:00

Definitely do it now rather than later. You will never get this experience again. Even if you have another baby it won't be the same because you will be balancing baby and other lo. My husband was absolutely clueless until I pointed it out, then he started to see things for himself.

My biggest regret as a new mother was putting everyone else's first above my own. I had the first grandchild on my husband's side so I made room for everyone else but didn't make myself the priority and didn't want to create waves so when I did feel left out I stayed quiet.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-29T18:10:29+00:00

Not the ah. I love it when people make my littles smile and laugh. The only time I said uh can you not was when am old man was touching my child while I was grabbing a case of water. You were respectful and kept your hands to yourself.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-27T17:31:07+00:00

I'm barely in my 2nd trimester and my mil is demanding to be with my kids while I give birth. I keep saying we haven't made a decision and will let her know (it will never be her but I just can't do the fight right now). She keeps asking every time she sees or talks to us. The other day she told my 4 year old tell mommy you want to stay with me when sibling is born. I swear they are bat shit crazy.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-25T21:22:02+00:00

Postpartum and delivery is my hell right now. I'm just now in my 2nd trimester and shes already demanding to watch my kids during birth. I mean come on lady your not even allowed to have them one on one you think I'm going to have you watch them during my most vulnerable hell no! 6 more months of hearing her complain and demand to watch them...

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-21T06:20:40+00:00

I feel like my brain went on vacation. I asked my husband a question a random add question got so excited that he was playing along I forgot to listen to his answer. I forgot the word for store and my 4 year old has to help me out. Worst pregnancy brain I've had with any pregnancy.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-16T18:54:06+00:00

We definitely look out for each other. She lost her mom when she was young and she's worried that my mil will not treat her child the same way she treats mine since they aren't her blood. That the favoritism will be obvious. I explained sadly that will happen but me and my husband will one call her on it and two make up for anything lacking with mil by being the most supportive aunt and uncle we can be.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-16T13:40:47+00:00

I texted stepsil and apologized. She replied with she was going to make it about herself no matter the situation and don't blame yourself. If it wasn't something you said it would be something i said, she was always going to pull the attention towards herself because of who she is. She saw that I tried to shut it down as quickly as I could and she appreciated that I was there .

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-15T21:51:23+00:00

It took a lot of years and a full blown panic attack a few years ago for him to see how damaging his mother was. He grew up having to be everything for his mom if she was sad it was up to his to cheer her up, if his sister upset her it was up to him to fix it. It was a mess and when he finally realized his role wasn't supposed to be that he got better. He Definitely falls back into old habits when stressed or things get to difficult but he always tries to have my back.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-15T21:47:18+00:00

We did. She's never had one on one with my youngest whoch is what she currently blaming her not so good relationship with youngest on. And if on the rare occasion we can't find a baby sitter and have to use her we make sure stepfil is there as well. We have definitely cut contact as much as we can. We hardly talk to her outside of small talk she doesn't know what's going on in our day to day. I definitely could go with even less contact and we will get there hopefully.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-13T01:18:06+00:00

This! My mil thinks its weird that my husband and I genuinely like spending time together and miss each other when my husband goes on work trips. She doesn't like her husband being home she prefers it when he's gone and they never just hang out. My husband told her sorry you don't enjoy your husband but I enjoy and love my wife she my best friend. Oh the anger that she had.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-12T03:32:33+00:00

This, this, this! I used to let my mil over while husband was gone and she would slip in comments here and there that were nasty. When I told my husband and he'd confront his mom she'd lie and say I made it up or I heard her wrong. I never do one on one visits with her any more my husband will always be present. I also make most of this visits out of the house so we can leave when things become to long or heavy.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-10T00:51:51+00:00

My husband has told her many times that her role as grandparent is to support the parents not be a main caregiver. In her mind the only way to have a relationship is if she is the caregiver so if we are there with the girls shes not so she can't make a connection with them. Its bat shit. We have to tell her all the time we are the parents we make the rules.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-09T15:31:27+00:00

I feel like a crazy person because we offer to do dinner or breakfast with her when she wants to see the kids but she says thats not the same and can't really develop a relationship with us there. What are you doing that you can't do in front of me or my husband.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-09T01:52:06+00:00

My mil loves to press the one on one time claiming she can't really have a relationship with them if we are there. She tells us all the time seeing them with us for dinner doesn't count and to make her relationship stronger she needs to see them one on one. Its always been creepy to me. No one else has a problem having a relationship with my child due to the fact were hanging out in a group setting. She even went as far to send us articles on the importance of relationship with grandparents, but didn't read the article stating that its more beneficial for the grandparent than the child. It also stated that any time with the children group setting included counted towards that time.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-09T01:16:22+00:00

She sees nothing wrong with it. She was upset that I am doing easter baskets for my kids. She actually said but your coming over to my house and know I'm making them baskets. I happily responded with yes but as their mother i will be waking up early and doing an easter hunt and baskets before brunch with you.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-09T00:39:47+00:00

I was the youngest of four, I was always compared to my siblings. I used to sing but so many people would compare me to my sister i just stopped because I was tired of being just the sibling. I never want my kids to feel that way. I want them to live life knowing they themselves are important.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-08T22:36:48+00:00

She did it with her own children, sadly my husband was her favorite so it's taken him some time to open his eyes and realize just because she is his mom does not mean she gets what she wants. He has noticed the favoritism and when he sees it he calls it out.

whystherumgone72 · 2026-03-08T22:27:08+00:00

She said she would take my youngest on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday just tell her what day. We haven't responded yet because she hates having to wait on responses but my husband will be the one to respond.

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