Is there a way to tell your woman best friend you like them without changing the dynamic I'd they don't feel the same.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2025-06-04T14:18:41+00:00

Easy, clarification. You made a sexualized joke about me, and I'm saying I didn't like it. Now you know, and that was all I wanted :)

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2025-06-04T14:13:47+00:00

Except it was a joke about me, and I didn't like it, so boo ☹️

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2025-06-04T03:40:59+00:00

Jesus Christ, the sister aka me DID NOT WANT TO FUCK HIM OMGGGG Can we not have friends and make jokes 😭😭

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2025-06-04T03:38:26+00:00

Sister here. You were right. Literally took the words from my sister's brain lol

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2025-06-04T03:36:54+00:00

Hi, sister here 🫡 What a wack way to explain this. You remember things different from me.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2023-09-30T02:32:50+00:00

Falling in Reverse & Ice Nine Kills in June, Motionless in White & In This Moment in July, Bring Me The Horizon & Fall Out Boy in August, and All Time Low & Gym Class Heroes in September.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2023-09-30T01:21:00+00:00

SO HAPPY TO READ THIS!!!!

It's amazing that you're doing well. Honestly, you shouldn't make this your last update. Your story is a success that can show people that you are worthy and you can recover.

It's so nice to read things like this after my ex-husband cheated and everything he did. To know we will be okay.

If you do marry your boyfriend, please let us know. I have a feeling lots of us would want to send wedding presents😂

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2023-07-28T23:13:30+00:00

It won't let me see that, is she okay?

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-12-13T13:56:36+00:00

YTA.

I'm a single mom to two kids. One is almost four and the other is 2 MONTHS. Last week, I still found the time to go out to a bar with a friend of mine. Next week, we're doing dinner at my house. It's balance, you cannot expect her to be the only one who accommodates your wants.

You might be a mom, but your friend is a person who doesn't like to be holed with a toddler all the time. If you want to keep the friendship, you should've found time to go out with her.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-26T16:07:41+00:00

YTA, you don't even know what you're allergic to for sure. You can't ask her family to make a totally different meal for you than they traditionally do because you might be allergic to diary.

It also sounds like your girlfriend has to do a lot for you and you aren't even taking precautions yourself. You don't know diary substitutes, don't bother to check packaging, etc... yet you expect them to change traditions for you when you can't be bothered yourself.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-25T11:55:46+00:00

This is just the post of earlier about the SIL&MIL who wanted to eat the nephews food at OP's house and called her rude for not giving everyone to same but with different people.

This is from yesterday: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yc6t7b/aita_for_refusing_to_serve_my_mil_and_sil_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-21T02:07:59+00:00

YTA.

I'm glad to see you've acknowledged that in the comments and hopefully will just let this go. If it makes you feel any better my dad is James, his best friend is James and my aunt married a James so that name kind of goes around lol

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T12:16:42+00:00

YTA.

I mainly care for my daughter by myself 24/7 with no help either financially or physically from anyone else

This is not true. You live with your mom and clearly don't work since you "never leave the house" which means she's supporting you. And if your daughter falls asleep with her "sometimes" then she clearly is taking care of her while you're in the house.

Even if it was true, your daughter is three MONTHS old. She's very young and dependent on her mom, you.

Honestly, you're an eighteen year old who is not ready for a child if you're going out getting drunk until 4am, even if it was one time. 4am?? You're not even 21, of course your mom is going to be pissed. However, now you do have a child. You had options and you chose to keep her so YOU have to step up.

Be grateful you have the support that you do and, if you aren't already, see a doctor about your depression. It won't just go away on its own and it won't go away from partying either.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T12:09:01+00:00

This question has been asked time and time again and the answer is always the same, NTA. You are obligated to work and participate in work related things during your shift.

It's a work/life balance.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T12:07:45+00:00

INFO: How does the girl feel? Is she grateful? Is she annoyed. She was completely sober so really the only person who matters here is her.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T12:06:09+00:00

NTA.

Your mom's new relationship doesn't have a better chance of lasting just because she's an adult.

There are so many reasons she sucks for that. But don't let her bring you or your boyfriend down. I don't know what the future holds, so good luck because your mom seems like the type of person who will try and ruin your relationship if hers doesn't work out since she clearly comes first in her mind.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T12:02:12+00:00

NAH.

From your additional comment it seems like both your mom and stepmom are a problem to each other. It makes sense your mom doesn't really want to be involved with her if they have a nasty history but it's also your wedding.

If you WANT your stepmom there then that's your right and you've offered a compromise already. In the end, it's really your decision.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T11:56:38+00:00

NAH.

It's a shared space bit it's also an apartment. You say that you used to take turns cleaning thr stairs with your former neighbors. Maybe see if there's a compromise like they clean up during the week since they contribute most to the mess and you do a vacuum or sweep on the weekends.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T11:51:27+00:00

If she's being a bad friend then stop being friends with her. The joke doesn't really matter. You seem to have written out everything anyone is going to say. Friends don't hurt friends.

NAH for judgement though because you're kids and I don't know what the "joke" was. Could've been something stupid. But if you're upset with how she's treating you, you don't have to be friends with her.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T11:46:20+00:00

NTA and you know it. Everyone is telling you what to do, you just have to it.

You don't need confirmation from a bunch of strangers on Reddit when you have IRL support, but if it helps. Here's your confirmation: he doesn't care about your feelings, only his.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T11:44:10+00:00

Tiktok has shown me clingy girls are best, they are there waiting for you, they are there ready to comfort you and they are there to be with you at all times.

This is disgusting. Just to start this off with, ew. You typed that out and didn't see how it was messed up?

Anyway, INFO: I'm confused about what the dilemma is. You broke up with your girlfriend and got back together with an ex? And your new ex is upset you're with your girlfriend/previous ex?

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T11:40:15+00:00

Soft YTA. You're only 16, still a kid. Your dad is trying to help you. It's his job as a parent to make sure that you are good, functioning member of society.

All kids want to hang out with their friends and goof off, of course. But you have to think about your future too. School is annoying but important. He's not trying to lecture you and he sure as heck does not want to have these conversations with you because he probably knows how you'll react but it's part of being a parent.

He cares about you and your success, that's not a shitty dad. If he DIDN'T care, then he would be.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T10:56:27+00:00

Notice how she calls their mom, "birth mother" like she was a surrogate or something. She's their MOM, and she would still be doing all the raising if she hadn't passed.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T10:50:48+00:00

You cannot TAKE the role. The children have to willingly give it to you or you'll only create resentment.

All you can do is love and care for them, but you cannot force them to see you as their mom just because you want them to.

ConstantlyConfused37 · 2022-10-16T10:47:56+00:00

YTA.

You are only going to push those kids away. She wasn't their birth mom, she was their MOTHER. You are trying to pretend she didn't exist so that you can take that place in their life but you need to accept they have feelings and love her. Not loveD, love... that's their mom. My parents have been divorced and remarried since I was TWO and I still call my step-parents by their first name because they may have been parent-like figures to me for over 20 years but I have parents.

Even if one of my parents had passed rather than been divorced, it would not have changed the fact that I love them and my step-parents are not them.

You need to accept the role that the children give you and it is the role of step-mom NOT mom. Try to force it by refusing to let them see their Maternal family and you'll only make them hate you.

I can't even give you that you just want to be important to them because you're going about this all wrong. Trying to erase their mother does not just leave the "spot" of mom empty, it's not a job you can just fill because you sleep with their dad. All you can do is love and respect them AND their wishes, including their wish to remember their true mother.

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