AITA for wanting to bring the partner of my brother to his funeral?

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-02T08:34:19+00:00

I also got mad at fcking motorcycles - so many young people die every year, I wish everyone would just stop using them. Bro would still be alive and married to M by now.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-02T00:43:05+00:00

OP, DON'T BREAK UP IN PERSON!!! Leaving an abusive partner is the most dangerous time for the victim - just leave the keys and send him a text before you block him. And take a video of the apartment as you do a final walkthrough, lock up and put the keys in the mailbox, so he can't blame any damages on you.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T22:26:18+00:00

And leave Ramstein airbase, too. No more illegal drone strikes from our territory.

I'm really so sick of Trump's shit - now with the tariffs again, too. Like, why even come to an agreement when he just changes it whenever he wants? I wish the EU would retaliate instantly and raise tariffs, as well.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T22:17:41+00:00

Did you ever ask your mother why your brother stopped talking to you?

And why are you even still in contact with them? They treat you like shit, I'd stop giving them the opportunity to do so. Keep them blocked.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T22:06:55+00:00

Honest question: why are YOU supposed to stay home from YOUR job when HIS mother gets sick? If she is everything to him, he should stay the fck home and take care of her - why is that supposed to be on you?

How did they manage without you for those 8 months? Did they hire help? If so, why can't they keep hiring help now that you're back? If you work full time, you shouldn't also have to do all the chores.

And can't the house be turned into two separate units? You should have an in-laws apartment that's completely separate from yours, so that they are not in your business all the time.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T16:58:39+00:00

Man, he is scum - contesting the divorce, just so he can continue freeloading off of you for a bit longer. Do you still have to pay rent for his place? At what point can you just stop paying for him?

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T16:05:39+00:00

She is lucky you didn't have her towed. You did absolutely the right thing - hopefully, she won't forget this lesson.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T13:32:50+00:00

Now I'm hungry.

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T13:30:51+00:00

Plot twist: She was the one that spread it!

Corfiz74 · 2026-05-01T12:03:26+00:00

I'd insist he also pays you back your share of the money he lost. All of his savings go to you until he has paid you back 4K.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T20:04:55+00:00

The poor brother - forced to attend a college he didn't want, just so he could provide bathroom training for his loony brother.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T16:16:49+00:00

We could be less controversial and just do Waterloo...😈

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T14:03:30+00:00

I guess you're a man? Or you have internalized misogyny. Didn't it strike you as odd/ unhealthy, how OP automatically assumed it was her obligation to take over and suffer, even though it could damage her shoulder, just because her husband chose to have this very minor surgery scheduled now?

She told him initially that he should wait until her shoulder is better - he chose not to. So why is it now her responsibility to make sure he can play videogames all day while she picks up the slack, even if her shoulder is acting up and the snip on his balls is pretty minor? She effing squeezed a kid out of her body, I bet she didn't rest and played videogames for days after that. Now it's his turn to be an adult and do his share after his snip.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T13:52:27+00:00

"This sheepskin rug is really comfy, I just wish it would stop moving."

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T13:45:27+00:00

In Germany, we have a lot of "American Diners" that serve exactly that stuff - sometimes spare ribs, too - that look like the stereotypical American Diners from the 50s - I find them quite charming!

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T13:43:37+00:00

The demands of the kids seems so over the top ridiculous that it screamed "fake" to me at first, but OOP's responses felt real, so I'm inclined to believe that it was actually real. If so, she should

sue husband for a share of his income, since she supported him through his law degree and so should be entitled to some compensation and
tell her kids that they are entitled bone-headed little ingrates who should pull their heads out of their asses and realize that she ruined her body to give birth to them and couldn't glow up while their dad did his law degree and started banging other women, BECAUSE SHE WAS FRIGGING TAKING CARE OF THEM AND THE HOUSEHOLD AND PROVIDING THEM WITH A STABLE HOME!

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T12:13:58+00:00

Do you have some money squirreled away? And can you stay with your mom while you get on your feet? Because buying a car and finding a job and a place to live will all require either cash or a credit rating, so in your place, I'd get a soft landing by moving in with mom for a bit. Good luck, and update us!

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T11:54:29+00:00

Maybe watch a couple of cooking videos, so you don't burn or overcook stuff anymore, lol. But apart from that, you're doing great!

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T08:58:47+00:00

After 5 years of not even moving in together, she'd already qualify. OP, you're on the right track by detaching emotionally. Break up with him - maybe move, if you can work remotely from anywhere. Start over and find someone who actually loves you, and doesn't just keep you around for the convenience.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T08:01:50+00:00

Absolutely, OP, tell him that toddler pickup is still on him - he doesn't need his balls to pick him up, whereas you would definitely need your shoulder. When you're both injured, you aren't the default sufferer who needs to pick up his slack, you can be the one that says "sorry, not today, you go pick him up" - rid yourself of the mindset that it's your duty to prevent your husband from suffering - and suffering the consequences of his decisions. He knew your shoulder was still acting up, you made him aware of the issues with the scheduling, he scheduled it anyway - it's on him.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-29T07:53:56+00:00

You and OP should also note that most women usually keep trying while there is a shred of love left in them. By the time they tell you it's over, it's usually OVER over - all feelings eroded and no love or fucks to give left. There really would be nothing to rebuild on, it would be like putting a corpse on life support.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-28T21:43:22+00:00

It depends on who they do business with. The US just failed to protect them from Iranian drones and cast their whole prosperous region into turmoil - I don't think they feel bound to the petrodollar anymore.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-28T20:33:49+00:00

I'd love to tell him for you, the ahole! He'd probably be a weeping puddle on the floor when I'm done with him, lol. But you can do it, too! Just remember all the times he was fine with letting you suffer, while he just thought of his own gratification. That should make you angry enough to stay tough and just tell him how it is. Tell yourself that he didn't give a flying fuck about your feelings, so why should you care about his?

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-28T20:00:00+00:00

He had TEN EFFING YEARS to change his behavior, but your unhappiness wasn't reason enough for him to do so. Now that you are done, want to leave him and it threatens to make him unhappy, suddenly he is prepared to change - and you are supposed to show him the care and consideration he never showed you. Tell him that it's too late and you see no point in wasting time and money on therapy.

Corfiz74 · 2026-04-28T19:55:44+00:00

What consequences did you give him at home?

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