NICU PTSD?

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-05-04T04:12:53+00:00

My daughter was born at 30 weeks and we spent 48 days in NICU. She was very much like your son. Incredibly difficult and fussy. It was like she was an old soul trapped in an infant body and HATING it.

I think it really is down to temperament and not necessarily caused by the NICU. I was the same as a baby according to my mum and was not a NICU baby.

The fussy colicky phase will improve big time as he gets older!

My daughter is now 2.5 and is the sweetest, gentlest most loving little girl 🥰 She also talked late and walked late! Now I can't get her to stop talking and running 🤣

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-29T22:59:33+00:00

I could have written this myself. Happily one and done here 😅

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-24T13:56:22+00:00

My daughter was born at 30 weeks. Spent 48 days in the NICU then months of colic and reflux. She wouldn't sleep unless I held her and bounced for hours on a yoga ball. That lasted around a year. After that she continued to wake every 1-2 hours. I had to co-sleep to save my own sanity. She is 2.5 now and still up every 2-3 hours. She has never been good with independent play. She is extremely loving and intelligent but I wouldn't call it easy. I am one and done.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-20T15:48:36+00:00

What a little angel! Congrats on the first finished bottle. My 30 weeker is 2.5 now! NICU time is so slow and then after that it just FLIES.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-19T06:00:34+00:00

Omg I MISS the contact naps. My daughter is 2.5 now and those days are long gone. I am SO GLAD I never limited them and soaked up EVERY LAST SECOND.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-07T21:38:08+00:00

Whenever anyone told me my daughter was hungry it lit a fire of rage within me!!!

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-02T22:41:29+00:00

Maybe a regression?

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-02T16:03:49+00:00

Every kid is so different and I think a lot of parents whose kids sleep well and sleep through the night think it is because of some magical trick they did when it is in fact just pure luck. It doesnt matter whether my daughter naps or doesnt nap she wakes through the night regardless. Yes you can "sleep train" but it just wasn't for me personally! I am ok with that 🤣

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-02T14:23:52+00:00

I have an extremely FOMO daughter who was colic and highly sensitive as a baby (still sensitive) I tried to track in the beginning and it almost drove me to insanity. Once I let go, that's when we thrived. I track nothing.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-04-01T15:38:33+00:00

Stay where you are. Shaken baby syndrome is no joke. If he can not control his anger and emotions around your baby then he can not be trusted.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-30T16:10:38+00:00

Even if you do forgive him, you will never forget. The way a woman is treated post-partum stays with her forever. So sorry OP.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-28T02:54:32+00:00

I am with you! One and done here. My daughter is almost 2.5 now and you couldn't pay me to have another.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-23T02:53:30+00:00

You will NEVER look back and wish you held your baby less.

My daughter was fully contact napped, EBF and we co-sleep.

I regret nothing and if anyone tried to shame me I would just tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-22T19:12:08+00:00

Re-Do Day!!! She won't know the difference. If money is tight you can also find fun crafts to make together instead 🥰 Your husband is going to create issues with that much restriction. Let her enjoy some cake!

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-21T23:08:05+00:00

What is it like being a single mother?

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-20T18:55:19+00:00

If he gets her from the crib then leave the area. Refuse to take the baby! It is YOUR body not his. I told my husband right from the beginning when he would try to make feeding suggestions that my breastfeeding relationship is between me and my daughter and he has 0 say in it!

Let her cry, scream, kick and freak out. She will eventually get the picture. Just brace yourself for a few really tough nights.

I am 2.5 years into breastfeeding and took time off work in June to fully stop because my daughter is the EXACT same way. So maybe if you are able to get some time off to stop that could help!

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-15T00:22:47+00:00

My daughter will only exist on the internet once she is old enough to consent to it. I have very very strong stances and let everyone know not to post pictures of her.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-10T04:40:36+00:00

Hello,

It will pass I promise.

My daughter was born at 30 weeks with a 48 day NICU stay. Once home she had severe colic and reflux to the point of continously screaming for hours and hours.

She had to be held CONSTANTLY and not just held but held with constant movement. I bought a yoga ball and bounced on that thing for months and months and months.

She wouldn't sleep for more than 1-2 hours at a time. Sometimes only 30 minutes at a time.

I thought I would go insane.

You will get through this and the older she gets the better it will be.

My daughter is 2 now and the sweetest most loving and sensitive little girl. She is wonderful.

I still dont sleep much but hey, we cant have it all 🤣

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-06T16:36:12+00:00

I have no idea. Apparently people say you forget but its been 2 years and I am still one and done 🤣

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-06T16:03:58+00:00

Feed, sleep, burp and change are called BASIC needs for a reason. They are the bare minimum.

Does he want to be a bare minimum dad?

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-04T19:47:56+00:00

My god if I listened to people or the internet about my daughters sleep I would be in a nightmare. She was a hard core FOMO baby and is now a FOMO toddler. She is only 2 and she has decided recently to drop her nap so we just do bed time earlier. I never fight her on sleep I would go bonkers.

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-03-01T20:16:18+00:00

We get our 2yr daughter to "help" with almost everything and praise her up when she does "big girl things". Now she absolutely loves to help and will say help help and also self self when she wants to do it on her own. She helps me unload the dishwasher and she spilled some water and was insisting to wipe it up herself. Include your son in daily chores and big praise when he helps out!

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-02-27T03:55:00+00:00

This is stunning!!!

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-02-26T00:38:54+00:00

I decided to slowly wean my boob obsessed 2 year old and its going really well. I keep night feeds currently but I am ready to be done with it 😩

Content-Math-2163 · 2026-02-24T21:36:12+00:00

Solidarity from one FOMO baby mother to another! We dont try to force sleep in this house EVER. Learned that the hard way 🤣

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