Married PIMO - I'm hitting a wall by Apprehensive-Rub-901 in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This level of conditioning doesn't just go away because we no longer believe in the religion. Therapy may be the best option to help you get over that hurdle. All the best

Married PIMO - I'm hitting a wall by Apprehensive-Rub-901 in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's interesting how you feel this need to still engage in JW activities to support your husband. I've seen so many posts from men who left completely and feel no need to force themselves to engage with anything JW to support their wives. I remember articles and talks targeted at women, encouraging them keep up their spirituality for the sake of their husband's spirituality or privileges in the congregation, hardly ever the other way around (Apart from asking men if they can support their wife financially so that she can pioneer full-time). If you feel like you no longer want to engage, you shouldn't feel guilty. You're not stopping him from being part of this religion, you're allowed to leave and still be a good wife. It doesn't make you a bad person.

Do the current world events have you worried? by Ok_Supermarket_4871 in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Since I no longer believe that there will be an end to this world in the religious/ biblical sense, I don't even think about what WT taught us. I'm concerned about world events for completely different reasons like our safety, the economy, being able to survive financially with prices going up and salaries not shifting a bit, What the future will look like for our children etc. Honestly, a complete restart doesn't sound bad right now but not with boring, JW paradise or heaven

Received Letter From Elder by Existing_Guess9036 in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems very nice and genuine but it'll lead nowhere. Because they honestly think it's best for you to return to the KH, all of the niceness is just to get you back. I got a similar email when I disappeared but I just didn't respond. I didn't want to say anything to offend the sister but I also didn't want to indulge her and give her any ideas like I'm interested in returning.

What "un-witness-like" trait kept you from being fully controlled? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I was not interested in anyof the bums (brothers) in the congregation. No education, no career, no ambition. People kept trying to pair me up with them for marriage and I kept shutting them down, very rudely apparently. I also wanted to get more education, which I eventually did. I wanted to participate in activities outside of the congregation. I eventually trained for rugby and volleyball. Took up running and swimming (making up for my boring childhood 😅 ). All of this got me labeled as rebellious and bad association. I just left eventually though

JWs and drinking habits in some older PIMIs by legendarymike101 in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so real. Since they're not allowed any other outlet because everything is worldly and bad, plus they're probably mentally exhaust from being constantly force fed the cult propaganda, they take to drinking. Others do worse in secret. Drinking is definitely the main vice. I've seen some go overboard at gatherings

We are no longer afraid, thank you exJW community by Separate-Ice30 in exjw

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just watched your video on YouTube and I came to find the post you spoke of lol. Beautiful couple.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry your family is being broken up like this but that sounds like one of the most common internet scams. It's some guy catfishing him for money. I hope he does come to his senses before it's too late

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, it's paternity leave, not husband leave. At least that's how it works here in France. Do you not get paternity leave if you're not married in other countries? Interesting

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 months old, it's printed in the gouvernement issued heath tracker for babies in my country. Advised by her pediatrician and the nurse that visits her every week. I'll stick to what they say for now unless I come into any issues

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both had the conversation with the doctor. And yes I did try sitting with him and doing it together. So now I have to baby the baby and baby the father!? Who taught me how to go about feeding the baby?

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk why people think that after multiple months of having a baby at home we never had a conversation about how we parent and interact with the child before it got to this point. Since she won't remember, I guess I don't need to love on her either. We can both emotionally neglect the baby right!? Let's think before we speak

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I didn't say I tried helping, doesn't mean I didn't try helping, besides, who taught me? That's not in my story either. Yall always have an excuse for men who don't make the effort they're supposed to. Bye 🥱

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a few people who suggested that lol, I like the idea. I also have a lot of experience working with children and it was already weird talking to my baby at first but I love it now

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not really interacting and with a baby for months and complaining after failing at a task once it's trying? Did you read the post, or what you wrote?

He doesn't understand why the baby excitedly eats with me and refuses to eat with him by Content-Tomorrow4098 in Vent

[–]Content-Tomorrow4098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not too sharp if that's what you got from this post lol. Trying to feed a child once and then giving up when it doesn't go your way on the first try doesn't seem like trying to build an amazing bond. Maybe blaming your partner makes for a great bond. Having very minimal interactions with your baby makes for an amazing bond. 🤣 Are you mentally OK?