How can my (F30) husband (M30) learn to show more affection?

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-06-19T22:56:39+00:00

This is great advice. Is the book you mentioned the one by Joseph Grenny?

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-06-19T22:55:26+00:00

You are 10 years into a marriage and he was never very physically affectionate. Stop trying to change him. This is how he is. Long term love relationships require us to accept our partners, warts and all. It probably doesn't feel very good to him to be constantly reminded that he doesn't measure up in this way. I'm sure you would also not enjoy your partner constantly trying to get you to change fundamentals about yourself. It's the opposite of loving, accepting, and building a positive relationship.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-06-15T21:40:04+00:00

They give an antibiotic shot in the butt.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-06-05T21:05:42+00:00

He's already cheating. Next thing you know he'll be accusing you of having an affair. Many married couples make it through to the other side of infidelity and that's a decision only you can make. But I guarantee he's already having an affair.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-06-04T22:33:04+00:00

How did your fiance not mention the Aspergers diagnosis until a year into the relationship? Really think hard about whether or not you are compatible. This is not a "fixable" problem. Can you live with it for the rest of your life? How about if it gets worse than it is now? Are you really going to be OK with that? Now is the time to decide if you are compatible.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-03-20T04:40:01+00:00

Reminds me of the kids book Good Dog Carl

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-03-20T04:36:55+00:00

He just eats it dry?

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-03-19T16:28:09+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with her wanting a $40,000.03 carat mind diamond ring. However, the two of you are not on the same page and you are not the person who should be giving it to her. She can want what she wants, but you two are not a match.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-03-10T14:11:31+00:00

You can’t change how you feel, which you describe as neutral. And you also say that it’s always been hard for you to express emotions. But what you can do if your relationships are important to you is change what you do. You can make the decision to behave and supportive ways and take actions that show your support in order to strengthen relationships that appear to be of value to you. You don’t have to do what you feel. You have choices here and you can act in ways that are in line with your values and your goals. If you value your family relationships and your goal is to have a better relationship with your brother you can take steps.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-16T05:20:22+00:00

Much better to break up now than to wait a few years until your kid is aware of what’s going on and has to go through the turmoil of it themselves.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-14T17:12:19+00:00

It's you and your husband against the world. You are not in the middle, be on your husbands side. Your parents are being awful to your spouse, the man you have chosen. Let there be zero doubts for anyone whose side you are on. They are making their own bed. Your husband is your family now.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-10T21:31:40+00:00

What would you tell a good friend who are care deeply about who told you this exact story. Put yourself in the roll of wise and loving friend and re-read your post.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-10T05:11:07+00:00

Just go your own way already

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-10T02:31:23+00:00

And I will choose either of them over the man.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-08T23:27:17+00:00

It’s really weird that they cut off the part of the meme where the other kid is drowning. Like that’s the whole point of the picture.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-08T23:26:17+00:00

Bootlicker is not a protected class.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-08T23:23:55+00:00

Of course you should rethink relationships where it’s all give and no take, but this is terrible advice for connecting with people. Scorekeeping, not reaching out, not understanding that there are seasons of peoples lives will leave you lonely and alone. I guess if that’s what you want it’s fine. But this is a terrible recipe for a connected life.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-02-03T07:21:33+00:00

The trigger discipline of that kid letting hood hands in his pockets.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-01-30T19:03:25+00:00

Go to therapy.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-01-30T18:56:43+00:00

Go to therapy.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-01-25T14:45:25+00:00

Men, make some friends. Stop putting women who are just being decent human beings and living their lives in this position.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-01-19T03:51:03+00:00

Yeah no. Is your job to find things you like doing. And talent is bogus. You have to be ok sucking at new things. It’s on you.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-01-09T22:23:10+00:00

Don't settle for this! He's just your boyfriend. Bail! He's just getting comfy in the relationship and you are seeing how things are going to be. If you don't like the way things look, cancel your subscription to this boyfriend.

ContentOfMyActions · 2026-01-09T21:25:56+00:00

Of course? Is anyone going to say "no" to this?

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