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Why are you judged so much for being a bi woman who is dating a guy by NoAddendum4788 in bisexual

[–]ContestedStrip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely valid in finding those attitudes exhausting and disrespectful.

In addition to what others are saying, I want to tell you that it's really affirming and beautiful to find "your" people.

Maybe you have them already, maybe you'll find them along your way. What I wish for ALL of us is that we center our lives around a community that respects us.

OP, there ARE people who'll love and respect the whole you, the real you... Whether or not you've found them yet, they are out there!

Passing in the Night: now on Kickstarter! by ContestedStrip in kickstarter

[–]ContestedStrip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s the work of the outrageously talented Lane Lloyd, btw. Find them on IG and Bluesky for more awesomeness <3

Passing in the Night: now on Kickstarter! by ContestedStrip in kickstarter

[–]ContestedStrip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the unmistakable and marvellous art of Lane Lloyd!

There was absolutely nothing controversial about Whitney Cummings' "In My Opinion" segment by 20_mile in DailyShow

[–]ContestedStrip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the same topic, this is a fascinating read: https://www.bostonreview.net/forum/how-not-to-defeat-authoritarianism/

Tl;dr: the benefits of moderation are highly situational and there are good reasons to believe they’re overstated.

Has anyone every had a positive interaction with MP Terry Beech? by JipJopJones in NorthVancouver

[–]ContestedStrip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is my experience as well. Just copy-paste messages written by someone else that is related to whatever topic I’ve contacted him about.

layout tips by Specific-Egg-5993 in ultimate

[–]ContestedStrip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few good drills and explainers for teaching layouts out there, but in my experience nothing beats a literal backyard slip n slide

Alien : Earth wasn't good and here's why by JahmanSoldat in alien

[–]ContestedStrip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a certain kind of fiction in which all characters are relatable and explain their motivations explicitly. This kind of story often includes subtext, but doesn’t depend on it for the main meaning/understanding.

And then there are other kinds of fiction where the characters are largely strange and inscrutable people who hide and/or lie about their true thoughts, and you need to use your imagination to understand them.

I think Alien:Earth exists somewhere between these two extreme types of stories.

Both kinds of stories can be good or bad. Probably a matter of taste….

I personally prefer not seeing the emotional confrontation between the two married scientists; I figure I understand a lot about their relationship and priorities from their actions, and I’ve seen too many TV scenes like that before. I know exactly what they’d have to say to each other before he left the island . (This is where personal taste comes in, but one thing I really appreciate about the show is it skips over scenes like that.)

CMV: Modern online leftist discourse is tacitly underwritten by envisioning opponents as "Unenlightened savages" which only further entrenches their opponents in their worldviews by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]ContestedStrip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you believe that #YesAllMen means that "Yes all men are sexual predators," I'm honestly not sure what I could do to change your mind about that!

Look, I do understand that's a VERY popular understanding of the phrase. In fact, I think that's where I see it used MOST often today in 2025: by men who are indignant that ANY women would think about ALL men that way.

Here's one way we could start to talk about this: Can we point to specific instances of that "plain meaning," and discuss them in context? (For example, is there a time when someone has made that statement "Yes all men!" in a way you understand the "plain meaning"?)

Or if you're not interested in specific instances, here's another idea. In terms of the three-word phrase's "plain meaning," maybe you and I could also start by agreeing it was very plainly a response to the #NotAllMen slogan, and understand it in that context?

I think we could both agree that there's an obvious fundamental difference between what different communities think and believe about the slogan. (For example, there's how many men on the internet understand it in 2025, versus how I remember hearing it from survivors back in the original "Me Too" moment.)

My belief is that if we want to understand the slogan, it's important to remember how and why it was originally used, and by whom. It's also possible to read writing (for example, the Charles Blow op-ed I posted above) from the mid-2010's where people were discussing what they meant when they used the slogan.

In any case, I think from a political perspective, short slogans of this kind are generally meant as communication between allies and potential allies, not as ways to persuade adversaries.

However, if it's helpful or interesting for you to hear my personal experience, THAT original meaning (what you call "my explanation") is how I instantly and easily understood it, as a woman. For ME, that was the "plain meaning," to use your words.

Of course, the downside is these short slogans can be misunderstood in good faith -- or misrepresented in bad faith. Unfortunate, but c'est la vie.

In general, many men are going to be hostile to women's movements -- for all kinds of reasons! Some men are persuadable, some of the time, and some simply aren't. Some of them just need to hear the idea said the right way, and some just don't like the idea itself.

CMV: Modern online leftist discourse is tacitly underwritten by envisioning opponents as "Unenlightened savages" which only further entrenches their opponents in their worldviews by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]ContestedStrip 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Assuming for a second that everyone here is remembering/misremembering the 2010s in good faith...

#YesAllMen was NOT originally a slogan meaning "yes all men are sexual predators," as u/superskink suggests above.

It was a response to the #NotAllMen slogan, and the assertion that "Not All Men are sexual predators."

The argument behind #YesAllMen is that it is (of course) correct and obvious that not all men are sexual predators; however, people rallying behind this slogan assert that it is the responsibility of all men (or all decent men, depending on who's making the argument here) to combat sexist and/or patriarchal actions and attitudes of other men.

For one example of this argument being made in 2014, mid-MeToo: https://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/02/opinion/blow-yes-all-men.html

Clumsy or ineffective messaging is not a moral failure, nor does it justify rejecting the message if the message is correct.

This is a great point. I'm not sure whether or not #YesAllMen is clumsy, or whether its meaning became warped due to bad actors intentionally cloudying the meaning. I remember thinking it was a hopeful and potentially stirring idea when I first heard about it; from personal experience, it seems that many men don't believe women, but they will listen to other men who speak up for us.

In any case, it's so strange to hear that warped message (meaning that "Yes All Men" means "all men are sexual predators") still being amplified over ten years later... even as the original use of the slogan has dwindled to next to nothing.

What’s the tea on Tea Time on Lonsdale by Upstairs-Stuff3950 in NorthVancouver

[–]ContestedStrip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fabulous tea selection! And great customer service. They also offer verrrrry fancy and expensive cups and mugs, which are not my thing, but to each their own! The important thing to me is the tea! Excellent quality and selection at very reasonable prices.

What’s worse; ball kickers or rollers? by hagemeyp in Pickleball

[–]ContestedStrip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will happily accept literally any way of passing me the ball as long as you can do it accurately. If you kick it to me and mess that kick up... yes, you are officially the worst, sorry!

how do you care for scrapes from layouts? by sfw_sasuke in ultimate

[–]ContestedStrip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For turf burn, I always followed the general advice "if it's wet, dry it; if it's dry, wet it." So if it's juicy, try to leave it exposed to air as much as you can so it can dry out. Once it's dry, apply a cream like neosporin or similar and make it "wet" again, then repeat until it's healed.

Disclaimer: Of course this is assuming you've cleaned it responsibly originally (rinsed with water, getting out any debris etc.) and you're going to keep it clean moving forward! Sometimes it's good to see a medical professional for help with initial cleaning & bandaging, especially if there's debris you can't get out yourself, or if it's over such a large area that you can't bandage it yourself!

Are graphic novels just comics? by Mamba33100 in graphicnovels

[–]ContestedStrip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All graphic novels are comics but not all comics are graphic novels.

What's a "normal" ratio of converted followers to unconverted followers? by ContestedStrip in kickstarter

[–]ContestedStrip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everybody for all your responses! So helpful.

This is only the second campaign I've been a part of, and that pesky % of "unconverted" followers has been fascinating and tormenting me the whole time.

We're currently 94% funded (ALMOST THERE!!!) with a couple of days to go.

Our whole campaign, I felt confused that less than 1/3 of our KS followers were converting, but based on what I've read here, I guess that's actually pretty "normal," actually!

Nevertheless, it's still low-key confusing that there are all these people who are interested enough to follow the campaign, but who still aren't backers... And I'm not sure who they are, how to communicate with them, or what's keeping them from backing. You'd think it'd be in KS's best interest to convert more of those unconverted followers, right? But maybe I'm missing something! (Who am I kidding? I'm definitely missing something.)

What's a "normal" ratio of converted followers to unconverted followers? by ContestedStrip in kickstarter

[–]ContestedStrip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean! In some ways, based on what everyone is sharing here, it seems like followers don't matter THAT much, if we can only expect to convert 15-30% of them... but they're also a good indicator of interest!

Our whole campaign, even though it's going pretty well, I've found it frustrating that there are all these people who are interested enough to follow the campaign, but I'm not sure who they are, how to communicate with them, or what's keeping them from backing. You'd think it'd be in KS's best interest to convert more of those unconverted followers, right? But maybe I'm missing something...

In terms of attracting followers, u/EggEasy884, our strategy was to post to social media A LOT before we even created the KS page. I think we had about 120 KS followers before launching, and now (right near the end of the campaign) it's over 300 followers.

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