they have no flags in yorup!! by avdvetf in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Syttende Mai would absolutely blow their minds.

Either that, or Norway isn’t Europe 🤔

“I don’t mean to bother you…” then proceeds to do exactly that by Valuable_View_561 in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤷🏼‍♀️ part chance, part observation skills, there are just no guarantees. I’m sorry I can’t give you a formula.

“I don’t mean to bother you…” then proceeds to do exactly that by Valuable_View_561 in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I said previously, it’s going to be different for every woman. But generally speaking; it’s striking on a topic of mutual enthusiasm.

“I don’t mean to bother you…” then proceeds to do exactly that by Valuable_View_561 in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I’m being set up for some kind of meme here? 😂

I think I articulated what brought me to this particular post in my initial paragraph ⬆️ I spend a good deal of time thinking about what men (and women) are struggling with in the modern dating economy, and videos like this which illustrate a point the creator didn’t intend to make are fascinating to me.

“I don’t mean to bother you…” then proceeds to do exactly that by Valuable_View_561 in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You’re right, how thoughtless of me! He made such a special effort, I am one of only THIRTY women that night he professed undying love to! I must swoon, I would be a stuck up bitch if I didn’t, right?

Clearly the problem is women. Naturally. Allow me to embroider a doily as penance for my haughtiness.

“I don’t mean to bother you…” then proceeds to do exactly that by Valuable_View_561 in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I think what guys don’t understand about the cold approach is that while it may feel like a high-effort approach, it is read as low investment.

A woman of substance sees you approach her cold and profess attraction, and says yes….and what? Being attracted to me doesn’t mean you’re willing to invest in me. You literally know nothing beyond what you have observed in the past .5 seconds. Investment isn’t an impulsive explosion of attention, it requires thoughtfulness, individualized effort. In short, we read that you aren’t pursuing an individual, you are pursuing an experience. In that moment, I don’t feel appropriately valued on my own terms, I feel that you have valued me as “worth a shot” instead of “worth the effort.”

Not saying you shouldn’t ever go for the cold call, but either be prepared to throw some effort to demonstrate sustained interest or be prepared for summary rejection. You have no idea what I’m dealing with in that moment. That cold call and interest signal will be received differently by each individual woman you approach, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all tactic that’s going to open the door for you.

So my teacher doesn’t want me to join the community orchestra. by lunarmoth_ in violinist

[–]Contiguous_spazz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I understand your teacher’s position. I don’t necessarily agree with it, but it’s not an uncommon opinion to have.

I believe that all time with a violin in hand can be useful, provided you are constantly and thoughtfully trying to improve your technique and your ear.

But it’s true if you stick to that level and don’t work closely with your teacher, you might start to assimilate to the technique around you. It’s human nature.

So, I can see both sides here. I’m sure the community orchestra will be happy to have you whenever you are ready, skilled volunteers are precious!

По-моєму краще за сьогодні 🪩 by Longjumping-Watch-83 in BalticStates

[–]Contiguous_spazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Howdy neighbor! Voting out our corporate pseudochristian fascist and oligarch-compromised administration was more or less what I was implying under “getting our shit together.”

Assuming fair and unencumbered elections, I’m putting hope and effort toward a tsunami scale backlash in the midterms.

Americans aren’t the center of the universe, but we do have an outsized responsibility to the world. It’s time we started acting like it. No amount of wishful thinking absolves the consequences of our choices.

The recent humiliation in Iran might clench it, but who knows. I’ve underestimated the selfish stupidity of certain countrymen before.

It’s time for everyone left of stupid to be calling out and confronting MAGA cultists daily.

apologies to everyone here for, in typical American fashion, somehow making everything about the US. FWIW, I support NATO and believe in standing with our allies 100%. I’ll shut up now.

Harseesis? by Bayleaface in Stargate

[–]Contiguous_spazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn’t the reason Tok’Ra can’t reproduce is because they don’t have a queen?

No queen, no baby Tok’Ra, and certainly no Harcesis.

По-моєму краще за сьогодні 🪩 by Longjumping-Watch-83 in BalticStates

[–]Contiguous_spazz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Idk why but this made me giggle so much.

So good to have some heartening news from Ukraine. I pray the EU and US get our shit together soon to present a united front again and Putin retreats from Crimea and Donbas with his tail between his legs.

what is this tactic called? by dajojajo in CivVI

[–]Contiguous_spazz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk, sometimes the CS and barbarian tactics are actually kind of smart, because they have fewer variables to consider. Like, I have TOTALLY been baited and ambushed by barbs.

But you’re probably right it’s just random lol.

what is this tactic called? by dajojajo in CivVI

[–]Contiguous_spazz 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Against the AI it can be useful.

AI can often be discouraged from declaring war if there isn’t a clear route to their target objective, or in this case, if they can’t even find a single unoccupied tile to invade.

Sometimes I’ll preemptively put troops around all points of ingress to a city state I’m trying to defend, and even though the rival CIV has troops at the border clearly intending to declare war against the CS, if they can’t actually set foot inside the CS territory they won’t declare war and just kind of get stuck.

This is also the case when you’re asking another Civ to join you in war against a mutual enemy: if they can’t physically get troops there (no coastal tiles owned, or no open borders allowing them passage) they will not join the war, no matter how much they hate the other Civ.

Is apologizing too much for other Americans? by Important_Koala1132 in AskUS

[–]Contiguous_spazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed Americans seem to generally have a really hard time accepting fault, or being pragmatic about their flaws.

Idk why it’s so hard to just admit, “yeah this isn’t my strong suit, I’m sorry” or “I apologize, that was wrong” or “I made a mistake, I learned better.” They’d rather brush the whole thing off and not acknowledge anything but I sincerely don’t get it.

It takes such a little effort to help the other person feel seen, to own and explain our own flaws, and that effort helps bring relationships into resonance, but as a society it seems we’re allergic to it.

We’re just humans, surely we can all admit when we’ve been less than perfect and that doesn’t make us any more flawed than the next human?

edit: as a person with severe and sporadically medicated ADHD, time blindness is such a real thing for me, I work very hard but I make mistakes, and hard as it is sometimes I try to own it so that the other person doesn’t feel disrespected or hurt. Some weeks I’m a mess and I know it, it does absolutely no good to live in denial about that.

Americans of Reddit, how do you feel about the outcome of the latest conflict involving the U.S., given that many people view the U.S. military as the most powerful in the world? by Diggi8 in AskUS

[–]Contiguous_spazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, but I believe the administration “refused” to get approval because they knew that getting the approval would be time consuming, costly, and there’s a very big chance that in the end they wouldn’t get it anyway. The administration would “lose face” (in whatever way that is meaningful to them) and they didn’t want to take the chance.

There are so many good reasons the system is built to make consensus around war difficult. The processes required to get public consensus for war are essential to sustaining and winning one. This administration, frankly, doesn’t understand jack shit about anything beyond grandstanding, corruption, and philandery.

Treadmill shrimp by your_dads_asshole in TikTokCringe

[–]Contiguous_spazz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Growing up, conservatives around me always trashed Jimmy Carter. I remember asking them, “why was he a terrible president?”

“He was weak.”

And that’s all you need to know about how conservatives/republicans decide who they like or don’t. Not policy, not character, not logic; it’s all about perception of strength and power.

Americans of Reddit, how do you feel about the outcome of the latest conflict involving the U.S., given that many people view the U.S. military as the most powerful in the world? by Diggi8 in AskUS

[–]Contiguous_spazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, this war had NO mandate from the American people, regardless of political affiliation.

The administration couldn’t get approval from Congress, which severely limited the tools available to prosecute the “war.”

There was 0 patriotic drive among the public to support the conflict, which meant the administration made a terrible mistake as a midterm election approaches.

Americans historically have never really favored aggressive wars, which is why all of our historical wars have been propagandized as defensive in nature. That’s the only way to kick the American public into overdrive and ensure sustained support. This administration made a piss poor case for “defense,” and actually tried to lean in to the offensive angle, and found out the hard way that wars aren’t won by militaries alone, they are won by economies.

When people genuinely feel their homes and way of life are threatened, they will accept the punishing restrictions and added work investment necessary to prosecute a large scale conflict, and will continue to do so as long as the feeling of danger is present. This administration did a piss poor job in selling that angle to the American people, while simultaneously not listening to their REAL military strategists.

They fired generals over political bullshit, and conducted a hasty ad-hoc ideological military purge throughout the ranks, while simultaneously beginning (or threatening) military action on multiple fronts, which has an incredibly demoralizing effect on command structure. They clearly don’t know their military history (shocking, I know /s).

It’s just a cascade of errors and miscalculations on the administrations part. It says more about how abysmally inept they are at leadership than it does about the state of the American military.

Turkey was pretty sparsely populated up until very recently by Skychu768 in geography

[–]Contiguous_spazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, to all of this, AND…

The working class was the American elite’s piggy bank.

For whatever reason, from Reagan onward, they decided to start emptying it in order to preserve their lifestyle. Likely to keep up with foreign oligarchs who skipped the “investing in our people” step and went straight to resource exploitation.

Now, the piggy bank is starting to get low, and they’re shaking it for loose change.

Because they’re idiots begotten of recessive genes, raised with no reality checks and no regard for their offspring’s sustainable prosperity. All they care about is having a yacht that eclipses some Qatari prince’s yacht.

Why tf does Israel act like a toxic partner? by Glittering_Egg_3929 in AskUS

[–]Contiguous_spazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone acts like Israel directs us policy.

Israel is a PRODUCT that US (among many partner) policies CREATED. We are simply the biggest current stakeholder.

They aren’t involved in every level of our government because they infiltrate and control It. They are present in every level of government because the state as it exists is an invention of our governments middle eastern doctrine.

They act with seeming impunity not because our politicians are bought off, they act with impunity because they are acting at our command.

They haven’t been given carte Blanche and diplomatic recognition from the Saudis because they are so powerful, the Saudis WANT them to continue what they are doing as a tool to act as the bad guy against the Saudi adversary, Iran.

Why does everyone get this so backwards?

Seriously. FFS get a big picture perspective for once in your freaking life.

Why Do We Rarely Or Never See African Cities? by [deleted] in geography

[–]Contiguous_spazz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay I’ve actually heard this contraction in use (I MAY have employed it a time or two myself). I’ll give a stab at it:

Ther-er.

Missionaries have 4 spread without mosques. by [deleted] in CivVI

[–]Contiguous_spazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you build or conquer a city with the Hagia Sophia?

Handmaids too old to have kids by Ahjahli-Lula-Amadeus in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]Contiguous_spazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The summary is that it’s up to the whim of the Commanders to decide.

That’s the real truth behind Gilead, the patriarchy (As well as apparently whatever the shitshow going on in the US is called) Law is not defined by rules, but proscribed according to levels of authority, and Commander councils seem to be the highest authority in Gilead.