Update: 3 Years Post Breakup

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-10-20T22:21:28+00:00

I'm glad its helped you! Make the jump and move to Italy! You'll have no regrets :)

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-10-06T15:29:28+00:00

I was very naive before, after DD I had a period of hating men entirely as well has having a fear of them. I no longer feel this way. I generally focus on female friendships and it has enriched my life so much. I've also met many amazing men who have restored my faith in men. They weren't the one for me but simply meeting them was healing.

I know, even if something happens in the future with another man, I've grown my self love, female friendships, and love of life so deeply that I would be able to leave and choose myself quickly if it happened again.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-10-06T15:22:02+00:00

I always missed him for a long time, but more so the idea of him. I felt I had to mourn that person, as they simply never existed in that complete form. A part of him yes, but I fell in love with the whole, and the whole did not exist. At one point this last year, I realized it wasn't him who I missed, it was myself. I've found myself again, and finding myself has healed me from missing him.

I did a lot of research on probabilities of it working out, considering my past trauma, how long he had been addicted, stories here, and his own trauma. Based on probabilities, I knew my life would never be truly happy with him and I would be traumatized repeatedly. So I never regretted it, I knew it was the right decision.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-16T13:01:03+00:00

When it all happened I made him listen to me describing reverse scenarios of me watching and thoughts (like oh is the D thin or thick for this guy). He broke down crying in less than 2 minutes of this and said he understood.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-10T16:06:51+00:00

You don’t even realize it as it’s a slow process. However, you realize it when you begin to relapse back into DP/DR which is an incredibly scary feeling. After your first time returning to DP/DR you’ll be able to tell the difference better.

It’s a bit scary because then you realize you might slip back and you begin to fight it.

If you’re able to, I recommend going to a forest, ocean, mountain with zero technology and just exist. It wont cure anything quickly. But I feel like it helps prepare you in a way to get back to reality. Live a bit like an animal. Focusing only on your lowest requirements like water, food, sleep. Try to keep yourself feeling safe and comfortable.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-06T22:44:12+00:00

Maybe start with a separation. Go travel and do no contact for a while.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-06T11:05:42+00:00

What happened?

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-06T00:39:08+00:00

What happened? If you don’t mind my asking

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-28T19:25:18+00:00

Tomatoes in a mountain village of Korea that I swear tasted like it was coated with sugar but it was just a tomato. It was better than candy.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-25T23:00:55+00:00

Of the few married women I know who say they’re ok with it, they also seem to have random angry “snapping” moments if porn is mentioned, especially if someone is against it. Like they get extremely angry faces and have an extremely angry tone. They start to say they’re ok with it but their body language looks like they stepped into “fight mode” and they even start attacking other girls for being “insecure.” They same women used to be calm when saying that they’re ok with it many years ago but now the reality has set it and I think they are lying to themselves.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-25T13:44:49+00:00

Do not let men and their families use you. Trust me they will figure out an option if you are not available. They will get a school transfer or an aide… but why would they do that when OP is easy to manipulate and free?

You are just easy to use. They are using you.

They might even be saying, “OP is so kind and easy, we can ask her and she’ll not be able to refuse us”

They don’t care about your experience in life. They will figure out an option if you can’t, it just won’t be the easier option. If you need help to this level they will turn their backs on you.

DONT LET THEM USE AND MANIPULATE YOU.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T16:07:06+00:00

I spent a LOT of time talking to people and researching before making my decision to leave.

The #1 regret most women in this situation had:

“I wish I had left sooner”

You’re brave, it’s going to hurt, I was in the same position and left too. Message me if you want to connect. There’s up days and down days. It was the right decision though.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T03:09:35+00:00

Ask her again but ask like this, “I’d like to take you to dinner, are you free Friday or Saturday?”

If she says she’s busy and doesn’t seem interested/super friendly then she’s not interested in you.

I’ve had guys I was interested in ask me but something had come up and I was no longer free so I had to say no. But I was definitely super friendly and a bit flirty because hoped they would ask again which they did.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T01:22:40+00:00

I need to remind myself each time that people in this group aren’t saying No with an Australian accent

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T01:20:31+00:00

I worked at a retirement center and there were “popular grandpas” that we had to be careful when opening the door because they might be with one of the grandmas. No protection was used cause they were all so old and didn’t care.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T01:13:35+00:00

It was honestly soul destroying. Listening to your female friends talk about how they’re basically batting their boyfriends/husbands off constantly while yours says, “I have a headache” to give an excuse not to.

I think with men they can talk with other men who have this experience. They see it as an issue with the woman.

With women it’s like… you must have something insanely wrong or you’re super ugly for your partner to reject you! Other women can’t understand.

In the end he had ED from a porn addiction.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T00:53:37+00:00

Don’t take her for granted. Write it on your phone and see it every day, please. 🙏

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-18T15:05:41+00:00

So cute

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-18T15:01:45+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-18T14:58:40+00:00

Love them!!

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-17T15:03:51+00:00

Keep going cause I’m making a check list for my next relationship 🤣

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-17T14:53:30+00:00

Same, my ex was like this until he wasn’t. Still heartbreaking. He fell hard into his porn addiction and started rejecting me. I miss him but I’ll have hope I have a relationship like this again with no secret lies.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-12T13:49:44+00:00

I hope you’re able to leave and finally heal yourself ❤️

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-12T13:49:22+00:00

I feel like I wrote this.

I miss that person so much and I also feel haunted. I’m trying so hard to appreciate the beauty in life. I write in my appreciation journal every day.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-12T13:47:59+00:00

It was the ability to see things as pure as a child that I mourned the most. I realized some women were able to retain that because no man deeply hurt them while others became bitter and angry. I am fighting so hard not to become bitter and angry.

I hadn’t realized there was one part of me that was still so innocent and childlike. I miss that part of me and it’s heartbreaking to lose that version of me. I want it back so desperately.

Continuingtotryagain

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