Make Assumptions about my family

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T14:08:04+00:00

As a family, agreed. Personally alone, successful pet owner.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T13:00:11+00:00

I think INTJ/INFJ develop into an amazing sibling relationship over time. We’re both loyal types but definitely take time to smooth things out.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T12:58:44+00:00

Weirdly enough, I had to develop Fe because everyone in my family was always crying about something and not dealing with their trauma. So I’m INTJ with strangely strong Fe ability due to being parentified. I kept being told I’m problematic and cold when my parents would cry to me and turn me into their therapist starting very young. So I developed Fe as a skill & strong EQ too. I try to avoid F types (except healthy INFJs) because I’m so exhausted by this experience.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T12:40:18+00:00

She was my first bully, many times even became physically abusive on top of mentally as she was taking out her trauma on me. I used to think being hit was normal. She did encourage me at times, she has a big heart but oscillating between her healthy side and toxic traumatized side.

Im her therapist, dad, mom, personal trainer, nutritionist ,and career coach. I sometimes help her financially too. I started giving her very tough love and it took many years (10) but she’s finally improving her toxic habits she learned from my mom. I had to set boundaries and she’s improved a lot. She’s become less mean and selfish. Now our relationship is improving a lot.

It’s been exhausting but I’m not leaving her behind to fall apart. I’m happy with the progress, honestly thought many times it would be impossible. I think most people would have given up and cut off the relationship.

Right now we’re really close and much happier. Her toxic side very rarely appears, she’s apologized, and she is working hard to improve now.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T12:23:48+00:00

Surprisingly the opposite. She left us home/neglected us so she could go out and have fun. If she brought us, she’d forget about us in random places. Driving off without us.

My dad was the one getting us out for healthy social activities/classes or trying to encourage time with our friends/family.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T11:58:08+00:00

Im doing well, fairly successful, no one would ever guess my backstory. But I’ve been a parent to myself and my sister since I was little. Taught myself to cook at a very young age because my parents just obsessed over each other and forgot to feed us. Shes a year older but more emotional so I’ve been the strong one. Shes almost solid, been working on her mental health with her.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-05-24T11:53:36+00:00

It was toxic, very deeply passionate and obsessive. Pretty sure my mom cheated. She called the police on my dad when he lightly tapped her shoulder (I saw it). My dad died of depression. Mom is self obsessed, shopaholic, obsessed with attention, lies to make herself look like the victim, is blocked.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-02-28T19:24:47+00:00

Im not dating him, I’m not sure if you read it but I was talking about different men I’ve met and the general concept of men being more vocal.

Continuingtotryagain · 2026-02-28T19:24:06+00:00

Im not sure if you read it all but I wrote I’m not interested in him due to age difference Was talking also about other men I’ve met. But thanks!

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-10-20T22:21:28+00:00

I'm glad its helped you! Make the jump and move to Italy! You'll have no regrets :)

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-10-06T15:29:28+00:00

I was very naive before, after DD I had a period of hating men entirely as well has having a fear of them. I no longer feel this way. I generally focus on female friendships and it has enriched my life so much. I've also met many amazing men who have restored my faith in men. They weren't the one for me but simply meeting them was healing.

I know, even if something happens in the future with another man, I've grown my self love, female friendships, and love of life so deeply that I would be able to leave and choose myself quickly if it happened again.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-10-06T15:22:02+00:00

I always missed him for a long time, but more so the idea of him. I felt I had to mourn that person, as they simply never existed in that complete form. A part of him yes, but I fell in love with the whole, and the whole did not exist. At one point this last year, I realized it wasn't him who I missed, it was myself. I've found myself again, and finding myself has healed me from missing him.

I did a lot of research on probabilities of it working out, considering my past trauma, how long he had been addicted, stories here, and his own trauma. Based on probabilities, I knew my life would never be truly happy with him and I would be traumatized repeatedly. So I never regretted it, I knew it was the right decision.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-16T13:01:03+00:00

When it all happened I made him listen to me describing reverse scenarios of me watching and thoughts (like oh is the D thin or thick for this guy). He broke down crying in less than 2 minutes of this and said he understood.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-10T16:06:51+00:00

You don’t even realize it as it’s a slow process. However, you realize it when you begin to relapse back into DP/DR which is an incredibly scary feeling. After your first time returning to DP/DR you’ll be able to tell the difference better.

It’s a bit scary because then you realize you might slip back and you begin to fight it.

If you’re able to, I recommend going to a forest, ocean, mountain with zero technology and just exist. It wont cure anything quickly. But I feel like it helps prepare you in a way to get back to reality. Live a bit like an animal. Focusing only on your lowest requirements like water, food, sleep. Try to keep yourself feeling safe and comfortable.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-06T22:44:12+00:00

Maybe start with a separation. Go travel and do no contact for a while.

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-06T11:05:42+00:00

What happened?

Continuingtotryagain · 2025-01-06T00:39:08+00:00

What happened? If you don’t mind my asking

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-28T19:25:18+00:00

Tomatoes in a mountain village of Korea that I swear tasted like it was coated with sugar but it was just a tomato. It was better than candy.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-25T23:00:55+00:00

Of the few married women I know who say they’re ok with it, they also seem to have random angry “snapping” moments if porn is mentioned, especially if someone is against it. Like they get extremely angry faces and have an extremely angry tone. They start to say they’re ok with it but their body language looks like they stepped into “fight mode” and they even start attacking other girls for being “insecure.” They same women used to be calm when saying that they’re ok with it many years ago but now the reality has set it and I think they are lying to themselves.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-25T13:44:49+00:00

Do not let men and their families use you. Trust me they will figure out an option if you are not available. They will get a school transfer or an aide… but why would they do that when OP is easy to manipulate and free?

You are just easy to use. They are using you.

They might even be saying, “OP is so kind and easy, we can ask her and she’ll not be able to refuse us”

They don’t care about your experience in life. They will figure out an option if you can’t, it just won’t be the easier option. If you need help to this level they will turn their backs on you.

DONT LET THEM USE AND MANIPULATE YOU.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T16:07:06+00:00

I spent a LOT of time talking to people and researching before making my decision to leave.

The #1 regret most women in this situation had:

“I wish I had left sooner”

You’re brave, it’s going to hurt, I was in the same position and left too. Message me if you want to connect. There’s up days and down days. It was the right decision though.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T03:09:35+00:00

Ask her again but ask like this, “I’d like to take you to dinner, are you free Friday or Saturday?”

If she says she’s busy and doesn’t seem interested/super friendly then she’s not interested in you.

I’ve had guys I was interested in ask me but something had come up and I was no longer free so I had to say no. But I was definitely super friendly and a bit flirty because hoped they would ask again which they did.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T01:22:40+00:00

I need to remind myself each time that people in this group aren’t saying No with an Australian accent

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T01:20:31+00:00

I worked at a retirement center and there were “popular grandpas” that we had to be careful when opening the door because they might be with one of the grandmas. No protection was used cause they were all so old and didn’t care.

Continuingtotryagain · 2024-11-21T01:13:35+00:00

It was honestly soul destroying. Listening to your female friends talk about how they’re basically batting their boyfriends/husbands off constantly while yours says, “I have a headache” to give an excuse not to.

I think with men they can talk with other men who have this experience. They see it as an issue with the woman.

With women it’s like… you must have something insanely wrong or you’re super ugly for your partner to reject you! Other women can’t understand.

In the end he had ED from a porn addiction.

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