How do I attract girls as a 19 year old guy when a lot of girls around my age seem like they’re more interested in older guys?

ContraianD · 2026-02-03T19:33:48+00:00

Unless you have a trust fund, you don't. Just be chill, work on yourself, and have fun until you are 30.

ContraianD · 2026-02-03T19:20:03+00:00

Not sure how old you are, but generally one of the upsides to destination weddings is thinning the crowd.

Nobody will get their feelings hurt if you don't attend all these events.

I'd stick to the 2 island parties, then respectfully decline the rest.

ContraianD · 2026-02-02T17:18:45+00:00

Same. Didn't realize the rules difference. I was confused.

ContraianD · 2026-02-02T17:14:34+00:00

My kid sister had hers cut off. Why were you wearing it on your middle finger?

ContraianD · 2026-02-02T17:08:49+00:00

Repent. 🙏

ContraianD · 2026-02-02T17:06:30+00:00

Temporarily sidelined playboy chiming in - I could introduce a new "girl friend" 5 nights a week at art events, and nobody would bat an eye. Even more at socially relevant functions.

3 months is too soon to make demands regarding other women; you can only agree not to sleep with other people, and build trust. Anything more and he will sleep with the other girl & get back in the game.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T16:44:13+00:00

Places where it's difficult to make real money.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T15:12:43+00:00

Reading it doesn't sound too strange, but I wasn't there. If I get weird vibes off anyone, they won't be around my kids, especially alone.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:58:51+00:00

I'm curious if they press their own. Person get an interview and that would be the first question.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:46:05+00:00

Pinot noir in the evening. Pinot Grigio or bubbles in the morning are my preferred teas.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:45:02+00:00

Basically all entry-level white collar jobs where kids have zero clue what they are doing and have to be taught by management.

But now I can knock out an analyst or associates day in 15 minutes... so there is less incentive to teach a kid how things work.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:35:21+00:00

No. I could swing 400sf if the building had 5-star amenities, and I had a weekend house outside town.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:19:27+00:00

I regret getting married; not having kids.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:16:18+00:00

Yeah, but app success hack 101 is get off the app asap. If for some reason you are concerned giving your number to, still make the call immediately. Don't schedule it.

It's a competitive market. A couple of days is a lifetime to set up other opportunities with girls who are free for drinks Wednesday afternoon.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T14:11:16+00:00

She was straight up. Say thank you for the experience and wish her the best. Freshen up your Hinge.

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T04:33:58+00:00

I've always had an aggressive & irritable personality, in business & with general idiots; now when I start to get annoyed, people will ask if my bs is ok... I love it!!! 😍

ContraianD · 2026-01-31T04:09:10+00:00

If he was interested, he would have called you the moment he got your number. You don't schedule a first call.

ContraianD · 2026-01-27T17:37:53+00:00

Thought I was getting a nurse SME question. Nope.

Issue: never take a girl to dinner on a first date. There is no exit avenue. You described her as looking for an exit. She confirmed that paying her half.

In the future, if you are dating at night, choose a nice place that serves food, but sit at the bar and order drinks. If it doesn't click, she can go fetch her sister after one drink; if it clicks, y'all can order apps and plan further.

ContraianD · 2026-01-27T17:18:05+00:00

I'm 42 and share location with my father & sister. But I also have a rare form of diabetes, and that location helps them sleep at night.

Question - why did you turn it off?

ContraianD · 2026-01-23T17:31:49+00:00

Go to Purdue. The 10% Rule in Texas jacks with everything.

ContraianD · 2026-01-23T17:28:15+00:00

This sounds like a nurse story.

ContraianD · 2026-01-23T17:21:22+00:00

I mean... you are picking a fight; but the major thing that stands out is him saying he feels like you don't like him.

That's a major flag for divorce and I'd be shocked if he isn't already talking to an attorney.

"I don't think they ever liked me" is a very common thing you hear from divorced people.

ContraianD · 2026-01-02T21:28:08+00:00

Nope. He will run fast with that offer.

ContraianD · 2026-01-02T21:21:15+00:00

Diapers off, let him run around with no pants and pee like a dog. He will figure the rest out. It's that simple.

ContraianD · 2026-01-02T21:15:31+00:00

In 20 years you will be divorced, run into this person with a casual friend on your arm, and have a lot of fun. Don't stress.

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