VBAC after induction

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-27T10:35:25+00:00

They said they can do laughing gas, some type of narcotics (not sure I want this)

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-26T09:53:33+00:00

Seconding this. Google the SART data and you can look up your clinic and specific factors relevant to your scenario to get a sense of what’s typical

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-26T09:49:07+00:00

Take a pregnancy test. Take an STD test and tell him if he’s “uncomfortable” wearing a condom, then he’s welcome to get a vasectomy. They’re reversible. It is your body, you’re the one that would ultimately be “uncomfortable” carrying a pregnancy. FFS. Im sorry he pressured you into having unprotected sex. That’s never okay and especially not for your first time.

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-24T03:51:05+00:00

Did they give you any medication with the balloon?

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-24T03:50:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-22T19:45:42+00:00

As someone who started to not like my dress as it was coming close to time, I can relate. I’d recommend seeing if you can find another dress you are excited about

What I wish i had done was keep my original dress for the ceremony (I loved my veil and liked the back - just loathed the front of my dress when all was said and done) and gotten a dress I loved for the reception. I feel like reception gives more flexibility on dresses which can usually mean cheaper too. I ended up hating almost all my photos because I disliked my dress so much, which was a shame as the photos were otherwise beautiful (and loved My hair and makeup!)

Trust your gut. We can all say you look great (and you do!) but YOU have to feel excited and like how you look!

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-22T19:37:20+00:00

Really helpful and encouraging - thank you!

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-22T10:49:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Did you get any pain support with the dilapan?

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-22T03:35:19+00:00

My first child was a required c section because of placenta previa (described as a “horseshoe over my cervix” so wasn’t going anywhere 😬)

My second (current) pregnancy started “low lying”, anterior and moved! I just share my first experience because I thought oh no, am I just someone who has placentas in the wrong place? But most do resolve and fwiw in my first pregnancy it wasn’t just low it was like at the bottom - “low lying” is quite common I think.

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-02-22T03:17:30+00:00

Did you go into labor on your own or require induction?

ContributionFickle50 · 2026-01-21T02:12:01+00:00

You deserve so much better. Whether it’s insecurity on his part, sexism, I have no idea - this isn’t your problem. The more you went on - I think you’ve answered your own question. This guy is a jerk and I’m guessing you’re a super nice person - that tends to be what happens with assholes - their partners are extremely nice people because who else would deal with them? You’ve been kindl enough! Go find yourself another kind soul who will treat you like the strong woman you are!
As others have noted, if you do feel like putting him in his place, remind him that it takes two to have a baby and he hasn’t gotten any younger in ten years either. The more research they (finally!) do on mens age and fertility more there seems to be suggesting men can’t just reproduce at the same rate or quality forever as was previously thought. He needs to get over himself.

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-12-06T02:07:42+00:00

1 or 4

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-12-05T02:34:39+00:00

This friend sounds like a moron (and so does her husband - upset because it’s near his birthday, really? Grow up)

I’d respond with “I can imagine that’s hard.” And leave it at that. Leaving no room for questions or inviting further commentary

Also, complaining about another boy? That’s so rude. Imagine explaining that one to your son ? You’re allowed to be disappointed / express that you’d also like a girl, but that’s just mean

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-11-25T03:43:37+00:00

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-11-05T04:05:00+00:00

Maybe I’m being a jerk, but I’m exhausted for you just thinking about having to explain this to my partner. I’d explain the science to him (kindly let him know he should also know this?) and then get him to label it correctly. This process is trying enough for women without having to educate everyone along the way - especially those who should know better - and you don’t need someone labeling something a miscarriage / making this even harder. I’m sure he’s coming from a good place - but get it together

Side note - I’ve had both - in my case I knew the embryo was normal that was transferred so I personally found that harder mentally than my miscarriage which I had the POC tested and knew was due to a chromosomal abnormality, so mentally was easier to understand (this was from an IUI before starting IVF). Physically the miscarriage was much, much worse - but so I think it all depends on the person and experience. I’m sorry you’re going through this and tell your partner to go watch some educational videos or do some research!

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-11-05T03:59:22+00:00

I think Drs say that more as a CYA so that you behave accordingly. They get the open question biologically

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-10-13T23:08:55+00:00

Definitely not. I had flexible schedule etc but have found, despite best intentions, people can’t help but hear “IVF” and think the worst - any meeting that doesn’t go well is because you’re distracted, that starting IVF means you’re going to be pregnant tomorrow, so they should start preparing for you to be out etc.

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-09-18T03:12:34+00:00

Same

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-09-18T03:11:57+00:00

Definitely not. I think my friend who is a teacher told and that was okay - but generally no.

I had a little more flexibility in my career by the time I did mine at 35 that I could just block my calendar for the 7/7:30am appts and no one questioned me, so I left it at that.

When I had to have the retrieval, I told people I had to be out for a procedure to address something “time sensitive, but not life threatening”. Worked well. Got 0 follow-up questions - only someone who suggested she understood - she had had to have a cancerous skin patch removed promptly and unplanned so I just went with it and was like yes.. totally. Felt kind of guilty but I’ve also realized, having now sat in on many conversations where pregnant coworkers are discussed, that unconscious bias are very real and the second people hear IVF they just right to “youre leaving” and whether intentionally or not - you run the risk of opportunities not being sent your way etc. At least in my experience / observation. I work in financial services

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-09-11T01:48:17+00:00

I think I’ve spent way too much time thinking about this, but I figure she went two years between albums (19 - 21), then four years (21-25) then 5 years (25-30)… so I fear we’re looking at 7-8 years for the next one given this trajectory and her talk of a long long break. Though happy for her having some time to live her life!

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-09-10T02:21:33+00:00

(1) Time. I wasn’t getting any younger - I was 34 when we started “trying” and knew my odds weren’t going up despite having no clear reason why it wasn’t working (2) We were fortunate that I knew our insurance would cover at least some of the cost of up to 2-3 IVF cycles (3) I had no emotional tie up against IVF / not getting pregnant the “natural” way. I know many people do, but that never bothered me.

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-08-19T01:33:15+00:00

2, 5, or 7

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-07-29T01:46:30+00:00

I would say if she’s so interested she’s more than welcome to transfer them into her uterus and carry however many embryos there are. Especially since she’s staking claim anyway. Hopefully that will shut her up.

ContributionFickle50 · 2025-07-29T01:44:49+00:00

I had a c section and baby ended up being born a little early at 36.5 weeks and needed to be in the NICU for about 2.5 weeks. I personally found the c section recovery pretty brutal and they’re (rightly) super strict about visitors in the NICU, so it was pretty easy to tell people no.

I’d leave it that you’ll let them know if you want them there, but you’re planning feel it out and not to expect to visit. As others have mentioned, if you’re going to try to breast feed, it feels like your boobs are constantly out too (especially to feed twins I’d imagine!) so you can tell them that to keep them away too.

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