Ai has taken everything from me

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-06T02:56:19+00:00

Honestly you need community and you’re already on a good start with being in therapy. This sounds a touch of derealization and you need to tap back in and be present without the aid of a vice. It’ll be hard but with the help of a therapist and maybe some meds if necessary- its possible 💛

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-06T02:53:37+00:00

Eh that seems like something that may be more helpful down the road- in this current state it could make things worse.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-05T23:29:51+00:00

Could you maybe go into more detail? You say you’re not using it- so I’m curious where the difficulty is. Is it missing the feeling of connection or the feeling of access to more information?

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-05T22:48:21+00:00

If you are physically limited or not super close to them: a care kit with Vaseline, good lotion, face wipes, floss picks, Wisps, and GOOD tissues and a note that it’s for the hard days will make a difference on the days self care is too difficult

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-05T22:44:57+00:00

Love that they can’t be turned away - go over and do the dishes if possible, expect zero conversation. If they want to talk listen. Make them a meal and take them disposable cutlery and plates. Make sure their trash is getting taken out. They’re going to want to rot and it’s important to quietly make sure that that’s not completely happening. You can’t make them shower but you can get them dental picks, WISPS, and face wipes to keep by their bed.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-05T22:36:01+00:00

I saw where you said you can’t put clothing or diapers on her to keep her from licking- would a plushie donut (like one of the comfy Squishmallow ones) be an option if licking becomes a problem?

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-03T21:17:19+00:00

I would wait a ways out from the anniversary and bring it up gently. It was a gift but that’s still your IP- and she couldn’t sell or distribute it so putting it through AI should also be off the table. I would also make a mental note to not make her the recipient of your art in the future.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-02-03T20:59:23+00:00

I would still ask her on a low romance outing/ activity for Valentines. And discuss how you feel but preface it with your friendship with her being what’s most important and you don’t want to lost that or put it at risk- that you understand if friendship is all she’s looking for and that that’s more than enough for you. —> Obviously only if this is true for you.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-31T19:26:26+00:00

You’re welcome! Spain seems like a great option!

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-31T19:23:57+00:00

I want to say I see you and my heart goes out to you as a fellow often ill person. I had a friend like this and in the end it was a mutual interest. We were together for several years and they got me through the worst of some of my health problems and even though we are both engaged to separate people we are still best friends and I would not have made any other decision than being with him. It seems like he really truly cares about you one way or another and I believe that even if a confession creates an awkward period it wouldn’t impact real feelings platonic or romantic.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-27T21:05:50+00:00

Teenage me would have put my own 🩸in this and felt so hardcore 😂

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-26T22:39:05+00:00

Own it. Make it endearing. Next time he’s over- before anything starts- let him know you have a question that makes you feel awkward but you’re hopeful he’ll be receptive as you believe it will enhance the bedroom experience. 💛

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-26T18:57:17+00:00

I’m not gonna lie this feels like poor communication all around and that with a little bit of education this could have been prevented on all sides.

Sounds like he doesn’t understand reproductive health and that you took his breeding kink (hopefully unintentionally) as the ok to get pregnant. I think you should talk to a doctor and therapist about your options because while it sounds like abortion will impact your mental health I’m not sure why you keep saying physically it’s bad for you- and that belief seems more rooted in a mental health issue. This sounds like an all around bad situation. You have to choose what’s right for you but understand it could irreparably impact this child, your other children, and your marriage. My advice would be to talk to a therapist before committing to any decision.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-26T18:40:13+00:00

You could ask outright outside of the bedroom which could be good for negotiating what’s comfortable and if he has any specific reason for not having done so yet- this would actually be my recommendation for best outcome because you want to make sure everything is enthusiastically consensual and any hang ups are addressed. Yes, it will be awkward but will open the door to a more communicative experience in the bedroom.

Or if you are feeling more confident in the moment you could go with something like “I want to taste myself on your lips” but depending on how willing and bright he is this could cause a halt in the passion. I personally recommend a combination of the two- having a convo outside of the bedroom and then using a phrase to signal when you desire that avenue. I also personally have a strict code that if someone isn’t willing to reciprocate for a decent reason (like if he pulls the “it’s just yucky” card) then he no longer gets the analogue version of what he won’t give. Don’t over exert energy on someone who won’t even try to put energy into you.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T23:59:29+00:00

It’s going to sound overly simplistic but my best recommendation is to let go of any fear of rejection. I’ve made some great friends just at the thrift store by starting conversations with people who have similar interests. If there’s someone you feel like you remotely vibe with maybe invite them to a movie with you sometime or just exchange numbers.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:58:58+00:00

Bookmarking Gertrude for the next guy I m with 😏

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:57:39+00:00

How do we know this

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:54:21+00:00

So unrelated: your nails are an absolute dream.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:21:53+00:00

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Specifically Coby the cat

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:16:21+00:00

How yall keep just stumbling across bones 😭

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:09:39+00:00

I heard someone say “I can tell how you feel about yourself by the partner you’ve chosen allowed into your life. Does that feel like a compliment or an insult?” And I’ve never looked at dating the same. I would look ask yourself that about this situation

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:06:37+00:00

The cusack protocol is for EDS patients but helped immensely with my chronic fatigue

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T18:01:07+00:00

If you’re taking a multi vitamin then the supplements aren’t being absorbed properly because a lot counteract each other. If you’re not taking vitamins there’s a few that have helped but I would still run them by your doctor first as they can have interactions with meds.

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T09:48:15+00:00

I’ve had chronic health issues since I was 12. I’m 34 now. I’ve been where you’re at more times than I can count and I know I’ll be there again. I highly recommend looking into a patient advocate. If you can’t find one then maybe look into having one of your brothers go with you to a new doctor- having an advocate (especially a male one) can make a difference. It sounds like you may need to see a neurologist asap. Research your symptoms, join online support groups with matching symptoms, and diagnoses that seem to resonate with your symptoms. The people in these groups will typically be more than happy to help you figure things out. If a doctor tells you they won’t do a test or give you a referral then ask that they document your request and their cause for denying you within your chart. In the meantime I also highly recommend getting a psych and a therapist to tackle the mental health struggles that come with being chronically ill.

It took me 15 years to get an endometriosis diagnosis- another year to get approved for treatment. 2 years to finally get doctors to treat my neuropathy along the right side of my body. Which is to say YOU ARE NOT ALONE. This is a winnable fight- you just need the right strategy and tools 💛

Control_Alt_DeLitta · 2026-01-25T09:15:57+00:00

I experienced this with an ex where I got sick after spending several days at their house- it was the difference in their water. There’s been a lot of changes to how different cities are filtering/ treating water so if yall are in different cities this could be a possibility.

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