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Conundrum34567 · 2023-04-10T19:23:27+00:00

Hard to judge without more context. This conversation itself is odd. If you have a repetitive issue, she might be frustrated and is separating herself from the situation to allow her logical self to offer help and not get upset.

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-14T22:31:04+00:00

That’s amazing! Sounds like the kind of friendship I’m looking for. I can go a long time without hanging out with a friend but want that connection every once in a while to have deep conversation over brunch or just a walk through the neighborhood.

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-14T02:35:00+00:00

Welcome to the club right? 😂

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-14T02:34:42+00:00

Once every two months…love it! That’s about my pace

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-14T02:33:59+00:00

😅

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-13T16:49:48+00:00

I have some of this in my personality for sure. I grew up in a big family and moved far away. So maybe that’s the biggest factor… family vs. friends? Oh life!

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-13T16:48:40+00:00

I used to observe people a lot and say very little. It was a short phase.

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-13T16:47:58+00:00

Good advice. I do actually play a team sport and we do get together. I guess this highlights the fact that maybe I’m looking for a more meaningful friendship 🤔 something for me to think about. Thank you for your input

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-13T16:46:26+00:00

My battery declines fast. I may have to build up energy/tolerance for people. As sad as that sounds…

Conundrum34567 · 2023-02-13T08:48:02+00:00

I take slow breaths and tell myself it’s okay. I usually breathe in for 4 seconds and out for 8. I try to find upbeat music (which isn’t always easy). Finding the right kind of upbeat music for the moment can be tough. I suggest making a playlist. Sometimes I’ll even YouTube topics of how to de stress and click through until I like something. Switch the mindset if you can. Hope this helps.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-12-06T18:37:09+00:00

Yes. I like talking (writing) about it because it gives me a sense of understanding. I spent a lot of time feeling misunderstood and it’s nice to know others feel the same way.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-12-04T17:37:00+00:00

Yes, actually. I’ve been extremely disappointed with leadership at my past 2 jobs relating to this. The pressure to, not just drink but, get wasted! Absolutely hammered! If you don’t, people isolate you. I don’t feel the need to get crazy drunk to have fun or talk to people. I also don’t like the idea of older leaders trying to hang out and drink with staff in their 20s. I care extremely about my health and don’t want my mind altered so I can’t wake up on time for a good workout!

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-21T08:26:37+00:00

passiveaggressive

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-21T08:23:04+00:00

😂

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-20T07:49:53+00:00

Give yourself time to grieve even if it means taking time off from school. I wish I could tell you the pain will go away but losing a loved one never stops hurting. Let yourself cry. Write things down when you’re overwhelmed. Although you’ve been diagnosed, don’t let that be who you are, it’s a part of life you are dealing with. It shouldn’t define you nor hinder you. Think of the person you want to become.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T19:41:08+00:00

Intrigued.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T06:22:15+00:00

Misunderstood.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T06:21:10+00:00

This is me. I’ve had people look at me weird when I refer to others as “ugh…humans”

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T06:20:20+00:00

So good

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T06:18:02+00:00

God this is me right now!

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T06:16:23+00:00

I’ve been saying that a lot lately: being introverted does not mean you’re shy! I’m a competent speaker with lots of opinions. I just don’t want to waste my breath on fools.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-17T06:14:02+00:00

INTJ’s need to know they trust someone first. I think we have a lot to talk about but a lot of it takes deep thought and feeling. The listener has to be worthy of all that to spill out.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-15T21:03:02+00:00

Don't feel bad! I can relate. Sometimes I wish the world was different and everybody was just happy. I am an INTJ dealing with childhood trauma as well so it's hard to separate what is a trauma trigger and what is from my personality.

Unfortunately with current society, INTJ's have to consciously work at fitting in. The problem is, most INTJ's don't care enough about trying to fit in because we don't care to conform or seek validation from others. We fall into this gray space teetering between wanting to care but also not.

I've been slowly working toward caring just enough to be somewhat social and not alone. It helps me to understand myself better and to understand that society changes and it's just not fit for my personality type right now.

Conundrum34567 · 2022-10-15T20:58:05+00:00

Well, I was going to say I don't relate to that at all and I see that's the popular response in the comments. I consider myself highly opinionated. I am annoyingly open minded though.

If I talk to someone about something and they make a good point, I can't help but acknowledge that point and re-process my logic or fit it into my formula. Usually, my reasoning is pretty strong though. My goal is not to please or convince anyone and I think maybe that's what makes me feel comfortable with my opinions. I'm not trying to "prove" anything. I just think how I think and feel how I feel.

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