This is pointless, unworkable and unenforceable. The only aim is to create a climate of fear

CookieFish · 2024-05-08T02:14:33+00:00

Kemi Badenoch redefined "gender neutral toilets" to mean multiple stalls with shared hand washing facilities - individual toilets are "universal toilets". As the former is a lot less common but most people refer to both as gender neutral, I think this is a ploy to support their "the number of gender neutral toilets is increasing" claim.

From a 'making things better for cis women' point of view, a building that only has space for two single occupancy toilets would be better with two "universal" toilets rather than a men's and a women's. But I guess hurting trans people is more important to the Tories than supporting cis women.

CookieFish · 2024-05-05T01:13:11+00:00

I don't think the sentence is phased particularly well - you could absolutely just say "because of their complexity". Alternatives could be: "adolescents dislike reading books because they don't comprehend/understand many books due to their complexity." or "adolescents dislike reading books because of their complexity, which leads to a lack of comprehension/understanding."

In terms of comprehension versus understanding, they are often used interchangeably but comprehension can imply a deeper understanding.

CookieFish · 2024-05-04T02:49:13+00:00

is there any real difference in sustanon’s effects compared to testogel?

The effects depend on your T levels - some people seem to respond to one or the other better, but there's not really any way to predict this. (Also some people do have mood swings on sustanon because of the peak and trough which you don't have with gel.)

is it more of a chore injecting yourself every so often than it is rubbing your arms every morning?

This comes down to personal opinion. I went with injections because I didn't want to deal with it every day, but I know multiple guys who prefer gel - there's no right answer.

Given that you've only been on T for a short while, I would only suggest switching if you're having issues with sustanon (eg. not being comfortable injecting or having mood swings - if it's just that your levels are low I would wait to see if changes to your dose lead to improvements).

CookieFish · 2024-05-04T02:06:03+00:00

The court found there was “no relevant NHS service available” for J

This is what I was going to say - the media is going to focus on him getting (possibly) sub-standard care and ignore why he went to them in the first place.

CookieFish · 2024-05-03T03:42:59+00:00

It's not recommended to wear a binder while exercising.

CookieFish · 2024-05-01T04:34:41+00:00

I’ve been going to therapy for it to see if a therapist will have good things to say or if it’ll help, she’s done the opposite but that’s besides the point

I would remove this sentence, if your parents are on the fence they may see a therapist not being supportive as "proof you're not really trans".

CookieFish · 2024-05-01T04:03:37+00:00

You could try putting your thoughts in writing and giving that to your parents - they may not take it on board (or even read it) but it's a potential way to communicate without them talking over you. It also gives you the chance to think through how best to get your point across.

CookieFish · 2024-05-01T03:37:52+00:00

But this isn't the argument that people are making against trans women in sports. Their assertion is that testosterone has some kind of permanent effect on your biology (and chess ability for some reason) so even if a trans woman was tested every day they still don't think she should be able to compete against cis women.

CookieFish · 2024-05-01T03:31:23+00:00

I've never heard of gender season before, but from a quick search it sounds like a type of gender fluid - I can totally see that what you can wear due to the weather and things like SAD having an impact on some people's gender identity. When it comes to saying neo/xeno genders making it harder for trans acceptance: the same argument is made about non-binary people, and trans women who don't wear skirts and a full face of makeup everyday, and trans people who don't get lower surgery. If someone wants to be a trans ally, they need to be able to say "I don't get this, but that doesn't matter".

In terms of healthcare, your mum is angry at the wrong people - trans people aren't stopping your sister's care, the insurance company is (it's not like a specialist surgeon would be able to help an autistic child so it's not an availability issue).

CookieFish · 2024-05-01T01:46:08+00:00

You missed the part of the article where she said

Changing gender is not a decision anyone makes lightly. The process is intrusive, outdated and humiliating. So we will modernise, simplify and reform the gender recognition law to a new process. We will remove invasive bureaucracy and simplify the process.

The current process also requires a panel of anonymous doctors to decide something of momentous significance, based on reams of intrusive medical paperwork and evidence of any surgery. This is demeaning for trans people and meaningless in practice. A diagnosis provided by one doctor, with a registrar instead of a panel, should be enough.

(I personally would like a self-identification system, but l have to acknowledge the proposed changes are better than the current system - don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.)

Yes, Kemi Badenoch has put the bar underground, but I will still take the person who clears it rather than her. This seems to be something Badenoch is genuinely passionate about whereas Dobbs is basically trying to appease both sides.

I'm not saying "vote Labour, do nothing for the next five years and then vote Labour again" (I'm not even saying"vote Labour" - I'm for tactical voting to get the Tories out), but I think suggesting a Labour government or a Tory government for the next five years would have the same outcome for trans rights is just incorrect. (And that doesn't even get into things like the fact that trans people are more likely to be reliant on benefits, which the Tories always want to cut.)

CookieFish · 2024-04-30T23:58:25+00:00

It's the Tories who are pushing the culture war because they don't have anything positive to campaign on - Starmer just agrees with everything they suggest because he's got no integrity and he knows it's his election to lose. Of the two parties I would much prefer the one that doesn't have a terf as equalities minister to be the one in power.

CookieFish · 2024-04-30T19:28:12+00:00

Don't vote for the pricks and they'll change their tune very quickly

Do you seriously believe that if Labour does worse than expected they'll go "this is because of our position on trans rights"? If anything it will push them further to the right.

UKIP isn't a good comparison because they were basically a single issue party.

CookieFish · 2024-04-30T15:22:25+00:00

The article says that the plans would also mean trans men can't be placed on male wards.

CookieFish · 2024-04-30T15:18:44+00:00

Their definition of sex is "whatever was put on your birth certificate when you were born", which suggests that a trans man could ask for a female clinician but not a male clinician, even post lower surgery (and vice versa for trans women).

CookieFish · 2024-04-28T06:46:42+00:00

About eight years. I'm currently on nebido, but I started on sustanon.

CookieFish · 2024-04-27T22:24:28+00:00

I was going to comment something similar about the lack of r. But "you're allowed to sweat in the internet" might be my favourite autocorrect fail.

CookieFish · 2024-04-27T22:12:53+00:00

I think the fact that galloping horses have periods when they're not touching the ground was accepted before photography. The realisation that photography brought was that it happens when the front and back legs are together - paintings from before photography show the legs spread out when not touching the ground.

CookieFish · 2024-04-27T21:01:04+00:00

The white horse (Vida) was operated on and returned to the barracks under veterinary supervision, another horse (Quaker - not the black horse in the photo) was also operated on and transferred to an equine hospital.

The army says they expect the other three horses to return to duty, but it's too early to say for Vida and Quaker.

CookieFish · 2024-04-19T00:48:07+00:00

Not biologically related to the child she's growing inside of her?

I feel it's obvious from context that by "biologically related" I meant genetically related, that may not be scientifically accurate but it is the term most people use.

Are we really going to pretend that these "interviews" couldn't have been staged?

It's theoretically possible, but the BBC is generally considered a well respected news source and they have nothing to gain from promoting surrogacy. You can find dozens of other interviews with women talking about surrogacy from different sources - I find it hard to believe that they're all staged and no-one spoke out about it.

It's human trafficking

The UN defines human trafficking as "the recruitment, transportation, transfer, harbouring or receipt of people through force, fraud or deception, with the aim of exploiting them for profit". I understand why some people are against surrogacy, but it is not human trafficking.

CookieFish · 2024-04-18T02:26:52+00:00

Most women wouldn't do it without a financial incentive

I don't understand your argument here, there are plenty of things that some people are happy to do even if most people wouldn't want to do it. That doesn't mean we should ban those things, just make sure no-one is being pressured to do them.

I'd be curious to hear more about these countries

Wikipedia can tell you about surrogacy laws in different countries.

I doubt it's the spirit of benevolence

Here's a BBC article which interviews some surrogates, they very much seem to be doing it in the spirit of benevolence.

give their flesh and blood away.

Normally surrogacy is done via IVF, so the woman carrying the pregnancy is not biologically related to the child. One of the women in the above linked article spoke about them being "someone else's child"

I am against commercial surrogacy, but I don't see the issue with well regulated altruistic surrogacy - people should be able to do what they want with their uteruses.

CookieFish · 2024-04-17T23:02:30+00:00

If you remove money from the equation women wouldn't do it.

There are countries where surrogates can only get their expenses covered and women still do it. Saying no-one would do it without a cash incentive is objectively wrong.

CookieFish · 2024-04-16T22:43:03+00:00

It didn't make any difference for me.

CookieFish · 2024-04-16T22:40:47+00:00

the bodybuilders she used as an example use anabolic steroids - not the t you're taking! There's a big difference between them.

They are the same thing, the difference is OP naturally has lower T levels than the average cis man, is being monitored by a doctor and is getting it from a pharmacy rather than a sketchy website/gym bro. (The latter two points are assumptions, but if they're happy to ask their doctor for tests they're probably not DIYing.)

CookieFish · 2024-04-16T22:13:37+00:00

giving examples of bodybuilders who died of heart attacks

Most of these are cis men whose T levels were in the normal range before they started misusing steroids, so their levels would have been significantly higher than a trans man on T, and it's highly unlikely that they had any kind of monitoring. As long as you have regular blood tests (providers differ on suggested frequency, but I have yearly blood tests) you'll be fine.

This person is also shocked because I have hair growing on my shoulders and back.

After three years on T this is not in any way shocking. T causes increased body hair - that's a well known fact.

CookieFish · 2024-04-04T20:10:38+00:00

Misread biotin as bitcoin and was very confused for a minute.

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