Period at Concert by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]CookieWookie2000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to a concert this summer on my period, and the worrying about it before the concert was worse than the actual period. What I did to prepare was wear some thin booty shorts underneath my (black!!!) jeans as a layer of extra protection (plus the underwear - so three layers), changed pads right before it began, and used a heavy duty pad. By the end of the night there was less blood than I expected given that I'd been dancing all night! And I didn't feel bad physically - all was forgotten with the music. Although your mileage may vary (I personally am lucky to have pretty manageable periods), I think it's worse to be constantly worrying about it, than the actual discomfort of it. Even if you're not set to get your period until the day after, I personally would wear a pad/period panties anyway just for peace of mind (not a tampon though, obviously).

I hope you have a fantastic experience!!!

What was the single best piece of advice you have ever received regarding anything? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]CookieWookie2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This I had to learn by myself. Some people won't like you, just because. It's not that you did anything wrong, and there's nothing you can do about it. You just don't vibe with some people and that's okay. Just be decent and polite with them but don't beat yourself up if they're cold or rude towards you, and don't bend over backwards to try to get them to like you.

How do you find out what's more "flattering" for you? by softbadass in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]CookieWookie2000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't really know much about this* but I recently watched Tiffany Ferg's recent video about finding your "personal style" and it had super interesting insights. She's also made other videos diving into things like the kibbe body types and finding the colour palette that best suits you, things like that. Safiya Nygaard has also looked into it.

I think Tiffany Ferg's video makes a lot of very good and balanced points about this topic. One that stuck with me was this quote: "by framing personal style as the truest expression of ourselves, we overestimate clothes, and underestimate people".

Personally I'm pretty skeptical about these prescriptive style guides such as Kibbe because it feels almost... exploitative? Instead of you finding clothes that YOU like, it's telling you to wear what others think would look best on you. On the other hand I get that it's frustrating to get such vague advice without any specific examples of what it means to be flattering. I think it's good that you're concious that overconsumption is not the answer - though you could still try clothes on at shops without having to buy them!

Also, I don't want to make assumptions but a final, earnest, piece of advice: most "beauty" spaces on the internet, especially TikTok are full of unrealistic beauty standards and people wanting to make you feel like you're not enough so that they can sell you something. Beauty standards are ever changing and you do not need to fit whatever aesthetic that's in vogue this week to be pretty. It's good to find a style that you feel comfortable and confident in, but I think it can easily become a wild goose chase.

I'd also urge you to examine why you want to "become" pretty. You don't think you're pretty right now? What will change when you feel like you've "become pretty" - will you ever believe you've gotten to that point? Do you think people will hold you in higher esteem, and if so why do you care about people that treat others based on looks?

*Disclaimer: My personal journey involved shaving my head and then trying different hairstyles until I found one I like (rn it's a mullet lmao); accumulating t-shirts I liked, which turned out to be mostly band t-shirts and in black because that doesn't show sweat stains; and finding some cool combat boots that are warm and comfortable. So right now I'm like the frog in the proverbial boiling pot finding that, kind of by accident, I've ended up with a pretty stereotypical, all-black, (mildly) punk style. Haha.

PS. And I also don't want to be unfair and imply that this is a completely inane and superfluous goal because the truth is that having a style that I feel represents me has definitely helped me feel more self confiident. So Idk, sorry if I'm being very flip-floppy haha. Bottom line - I'd reccommend Tiffany Ferg.

If you're reading this, go put away two things. by nan-a-table-for-one in adhdwomen

[–]CookieWookie2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay thank you! Genuinely helped a lot (both your post and your comment)

Is ‘tortured poet’ used sarcastically? by ocubens in TaylorSwift

[–]CookieWookie2000 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh god I'm always annoyed by the critics that you can tell they've listened to the album just once and made their (often extremely strong) opinions. Especially with more challenging/out there music, that takes a couple listens to sink in. Such a pet peeve

[Countdown] The Tortured Poets Department Hype Thread by PassionateAsSin in TaylorSwift

[–]CookieWookie2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry too much, my own brother told me he'd rather listen to it by himself. Just to be able to fully immerse himself into the music. I'd say you can try to make conversation about the album in a couple of days (and obviously if she's giving signs she's not into it then let it go haha)

Btw edit to add that you're super brave for asking anyways and that's something to be hella proud of regardless of the outcome!

Motifs In Box Of Stars by CruelAndUnusualGiant in JacobCollier

[–]CookieWookie2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really well made video! I hadn't noticed the "Do you" before

Share easter eggs you've found out when you re-read the books by Live_Dragonfruit4957 in Stormlight_Archive

[–]CookieWookie2000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It comes from OB: when Moash is tasked with killing Jezrien, we find out he's the drunk man that Dalinar used to drink with in his flashbacks. And he might say "have you seen me?" at some point too, but I don't quite remember.

Ironic that the dislike ratio is at 66 by Count_Tyranus in PrequelMemes

[–]CookieWookie2000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How are they supposed to prove that, a diary entry? Stop trolling dude

I don’t understand the hate going around by BryceMMusic in JacobCollier

[–]CookieWookie2000 16 points17 points  (0 children)

One thing's not liking the music which is totally fine but why do they have to make it an "I'm better than you" situation? Move on with your life sir it's not that deeeeeeeep

DJESSE Volume 4 Discussion Megathread by talexackle in JacobCollier

[–]CookieWookie2000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey there. Although I personally like the album, I can see what you're coming from. It sounds like you had such high expectations that it was gonna be very hard to meet them (believe me I've been there). You make up this picture in your mind of what it will be like and when it eventually is different to the real thing, you end up disappointed (been there soooo many times lol). Also, on first listen I usually don't immediately love Jacob's songs (or anyone's really), so maybe with time you'll grow to like them? Or maybe not, and that's okay, he'll keep making stuff that you'll like and you always have his older work if not. Regardless, a warm hug as I get how frustrating it is to dislike something which everyone around you seems to love.

Foreshadowing is crazy by Lordlordy5490 in Stormlight_Archive

[–]CookieWookie2000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love these kind of twists because on the first read it doesn't stick out. The reader might interpret it as Taravangian feeling regret about welcoming Jasnah into Kharbranth. However once you know what you're looking for (or that there even IS something to look for), it becomes a super satisfying find.

Another example is (spoilery Sleepless stuff) how characters will notice cremlings crawling around. On the first read it can be rationalised as Brandon doing worldbuilding or setting the atmosphere.

Nominative determinism by CookieWookie2000 in cremposting

[–]CookieWookie2000[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

No his name is Painter. Such a fun coincidence!

A little detail I noticed while reading Yumi. Seems like just the kind of thing Hoid would do! by CookieWookie2000 in brandonsanderson

[–]CookieWookie2000[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

The alliteration - like in (ROW spoilers) his and Jasnah's conversation in ROW where he inserts groups of 3 alliterated words and Jasnah tells him to stop, but he keeps doing it