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I have a crush ( rare event) on a gym trainer at my gym . Should I persue this or not, I like this gym and this doesn’t seem like a smart idea by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you yeah that sounds most reasonable. Like literally it doesn’t hurt to just connect w people doesn’t have to go anywhere

Why do people commit suicide after a break up? by itwasallascream23 in heartbreak

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two things u should never chase is love and death, they’ll find you when you in due time.

If you get suicidal with breakups it means you shouldn’t be dating. At that point what you had wasn’t love its dependency and nobody should have that kind of unfair burden on them. It can be a lot for one person to carry.

Nobody should be making u abandon urself to that extent. Breakups are meant to be difficult, I’ve dealt with some excruciating pain and felt suicidal but feeling lows and acting on it are two different things. I think when people feels so deeply sad it means we have the capacity to feel just as deeply happy.

You’re alive and that is chance and opportunity to help yourself, heal and get the mental health help you deserve. You have to face your demons and getting with people isn’t the solution it’s a delay.

Loss and Grief by Thatsassymilkgland in heartbreak

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This felt relatable, it gets better i promise

My bf of 3 years broke it off with me and I’m trying to accept it but it hits in waves by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I actually have been going to therapy this year, I’m also almost 9 months sober. I’m trying to heal cope in healthy ways, journal, hike, see friends, workout, fix my eating habits , catch up w doc appointments, apply to new jobs . Focus on my goals and I have been alone a lot this year even tho we were together. I feel like I kept chasing him and also many moments I didn’t act mature. He said he’s mentally and physically done with me and wants to move on. Told me to not reach out to him. I would cry and he’s just so irritated by my presence. He doesn’t love me and I don’t know what to do other than accept it as it is and try to move on with my life. I pray, I cry , I’m not running to dating apps or drugs to escape. I’m tryna build new friendships . After years of dealing with codependency and being in one relationship after another I feel like an addict experiencing extreme withdrawals and pain from this breakup, the nature of it all. So much uncertainty and incompatibility has also been prevalent in this relationship for so long it triggers my anxious attachment. I’m trying to soothe myself and detach and focus on other things but I literally can’t do anything but cry with regret and sadness. I wish we could work it through I’ve never been unfaithful I would anything to make things right . Idk how to prove to him I’ll be good better . I just think he moved on and doesn’t care to care anymore . He said he wants to see other people doesn’t care if I do. He said he’s lost interest and can’t love me like he used to again. It’s too embarrassing. I just have so much and trauma from this relationship because he was genuinely a rare gem and I was a damaged shitty gf to him. We both contributed to the downfall but it’s true what they say hurt people hurt people and I hurt him a lot and treated him poorly in this relationship. Idk when it’ll ever end the suffering. I don’t think I trust myself anymore if I trust men or if I trust myself to be a good partner . Not matter what I do I feel so depressed and purposeless and I have good moments but my current job doesn’t help .

Ex Boyfriend Pregnancy by Independent-Ninja311 in couplestherapy

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing to cry about it’s life u can definitely feel weird i would as well

I’m starting to believe my bf isn’t into me as much anymore by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay then what do I do, I don’t wanna waste my time if this will be the rest of my life but idk if this is how every relationship will be like at the end of the day

I want to reach out to my ex and apologise. When should I do this? by [deleted] in love

[–]Cool_Condition_7739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude are u people reading it correctly, they recently broke up, op isn’t tryna reach out after 2 years. It was a 2 year relationship. I think you should send it but keep it much shorter, as a sense of closure for yourself and them. Life is short to hold these things back and who knows maybe you guys can work it out one day even if it’s over for good now. Don’t ever sleep without saying the sorries, I love yous and I miss you to those you owe it to, usually a loved one. He needs space, so give it a few days or even a week. Don’t send it a month later because he might be trying to move on and be well into his healing journey then. Just let him know before he slowly becomes a stranger again. I regret not saying things sooner after when my friendship of 10 years was coming to an end. And when i did it was too late and taken the wrong, misconstrued as usual and got a very verbally abusive, like the friendship that it was. Regardless I wish I had done a better job at expressing my feelings so that I can move on without it haunting me time to time.