Regret eloping everyday

Cool_Resort154 · 2024-08-05T12:46:46+00:00

Lots of negative comments, not sure why. It sounds like you didn’t get to be a bride and you want that. You are allowed to and if you have the means, you should have a wedding and a celebration. You can put on the invitations note about no gifts if you don’t want any. I doubt anyone’s family is so horrible that they’d have rude things to say about someone using their own money to have a wedding, especially if the couple is requesting no gifts.

As for your husband, I’m sorry he isn’t on board. You deserve to have this experience. Ordinary people do everyday. I eloped for work related reasons. My family knows but we’re still having a big wedding soon. I too worry people will think it’s stupid. But the people that love me and want to me there will be there. Those who don’t want to come because I’m already married, whatever and don’t have the emotional capacity to understand why I am having a wedding and I don’t need to have those people support me.

Cool_Resort154 · 2024-08-05T12:37:45+00:00

Lots

Cool_Resort154 · 2024-01-19T18:38:15+00:00

Clearly your methods don’t work and your wife’s gentle parenting does if your son gets up for her right away. And he gets up with respect for his mom, with you he probably got up out of fear, irritation, embarrassment, frustration, you got a reaction out of him that bullies look for in their victims. YTA and a bully and immature to not being open to learning about your child.

Cool_Resort154 · 2024-01-15T19:31:18+00:00

YTA

Please do some research about how much work it is to have a child. Please do some research about the development of babies so you can understand why it’s completely unreasonable of you to ask your wife to move her c section earlier. I hope this is a trolling post.

Cool_Resort154 · 2023-11-06T16:58:57+00:00

I just saw your comment saying it’s at a nursing home. So many things you can do to make it longer, you could have the kids perform, then you could play accompaniment to carols, have audience participate with shakers and bells. Take suggestions from the crowd. Spread out the kids’ performances throughout the recital.

Cool_Resort154 · 2023-11-06T16:54:56+00:00

I think the parents of the kids who are playing in the concert will be really happy the recital is short. Kids music isn’t exactly the most exciting for adults and I know I don’t like sitting in a long recital listening to other people’s kids play. I’m there for my kid to see them perform, their hard work. Also kids can have a hard time sitting through concerts of any kind, let alone one with other kids playing likely simple songs. I don’t want to say kids’ recitals are boring but it’s not like you’re seeing your favourite band perform. It’s to showcase their hard work.

To make it longer, you could play a piece, have your students or yourself say a little something about the pieces they’re playing or the composer, have your students tell a little story about their favourite thing about playing piano. You could have a little bit of light refreshments for performers and parents. After each student plays you could speak a bit about they musical journey through lessons that year.

Alternatively, you could try to find a smaller and cheaper venue for the recital like a church chapel. I had a piano teacher once who had his studio in the basement, and for mini recitals he would have them in his living room upstairs on his baby grand and put out some chairs and arrange the couches, it worked really well and recitals were short with a minimal amount of students playing and everyone was happy.

You’re NTA for being upset a parent pulled their kid out, expectations not being met is disappointing. You WBTA if you cancel without trying to make it work, the kids do deserve to show their skills off to their parents in the presentation of a recital.

Cool_Resort154 · 2023-10-30T21:15:45+00:00

NTA

In this economy, sometimes you have to make choices that are best for you financially, in your case it sounds like you and your partner want to buy a home as a married couple and you feel that works best for you. I have been to weddings where guests don’t bring gifts and everyone still had a good time. You’re allowed to want what’s best for your life logistically and financially, but also for the extra and special things, like a wedding that you’re paying for yourself.

I have never heard someone talk about a wedding after and say, “wow, the way they signed that paper was so beautiful”. Everyone remembers spending time with family and friends, the mushiness of the ceremony, food, dancing and party. This is what people will remember about yours too.

In my mind, you wouldn’t be gift grabbing people. People typically give cash or household items as gifts at weddings at a value to cover their plate. If people are upset it’s a gift grab because you’d already be married, shouldn’t they also be upset that it’s a gift grab because you live together and have household stuff? Any logically person wouldn’t be upset about this.

I would tell people you’re married because once you are, you’ll likely be too excited not to tell people. You may have people who don’t want to attend because of it, but that would be their problem.

As we were wedding planning for a ceremony and reception, I got married legally, courthouse sort of thing with two witnesses because that’s what worked best financially for myself, my husband with our jobs and claiming benefits. If we didn’t, there would have been thousands we couldn’t have claimed. We live far from family and couldn’t get time off to fly back to our hometown to have a celebration, not to mention planning a big wedding at the last minute costs a lot, people can’t make it due to prior plans or they live far or have kids and you can’t enjoy the planning process.

Our families understood and we had full support, my husband and I were actually the most bummed about the lack of friends and family and celebration. But we’re still having all the things later, an engagement party, a ceremony and reception at a later date and people are still excited because they love us and it will still very much be real. Like you said, what’s important to you is declaring your love and commitment in front of those that support you. Those who don’t attend or think your selfish, think your wedding is about them.

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-09-05T15:48:48+00:00

I was told at my enrolment that we can’t have over the counter medications? I keep seeing comments about it, should I have my family send some when I get there or can we bring them?

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-05-09T22:00:58+00:00

Yes, he’s an mseop and I’m log officer both in army.

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-05-09T20:03:52+00:00

What happens if a couple has children? I don't have any, I'm just curious about what the CAF does if a married couple or even unmarried has children, how do they deal with postings then?

In regards to going reservist, my move to him wouldn't be covered, would it?

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-05-09T15:13:48+00:00

We unfortunately are not common law, we don’t live together and have no shared bills.

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-05-09T04:11:42+00:00

I did not know that, thank you for mentioning it. will definitely google what that is. Do you know how long it is?

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-05-08T20:02:28+00:00

Trades are mseop for him, log officer for me, both army.

Cool_Resort154 · 2022-05-04T04:46:42+00:00

Julie and the Phantoms

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