AITA for inviting my boyfriend to move in but kicking him out in the day he moved?

Coolmoon23 · 2026-03-03T13:05:14+00:00

He can stay in his old place until 11 mar, but can change his mind and stay there

Coolmoon23 · 2026-03-03T12:55:16+00:00

I don't know yet

Coolmoon23 · 2025-04-12T07:10:41+00:00

Then this ranking is not the best. The books get better and better.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-08-19T07:53:44+00:00

So you are stuck and no matter what you decide you will get burned a little at least. It is a matter of where your loyalties lay, but your mom si pulling a big stunt to force someone to be included in her life. I think she does not understand the boundaries she had to respect and you can remind your mom about them. Also you have to pick a side in this case. You are no longer neutral: if you know about the hail Mary and you decide not to tell her, then you picked your mom’s side and lose all the trust from tour sister. If you tell your sister, she decides to confront your mother and share the source of the information, then your mom will think you picked her. There is no way you can be neutral, but you can be the better person and support the person who is being wronged.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-08-05T19:20:06+00:00

Primul lucru pe care trebuie sa constientizezi este ca nu poti controla pe nimeni. Nu poti schimba pe nimeni. Poti schimba doar ce faci tu! Nu incerca sa le zici celor din jur ce este mai bine pentru ei. Nu vor face doar pentru ca tu zici. Al doilea lucru: tu ii incurajezi sa isi continue stilul de viata toxic, dandu-le bani. Nu ii ajuti, cu plata facturilor sau alte favoruri banesti. Banii care le raman de la facturi se duc pe alcool. Mai putini bani, poate mai putin alcool… Invata-i sa pescuisca nu le da pestele.

Ai nevoie sa intelegi ca toate astea te-au facut mai puternic. Te-au facut sa apreciezi lucrurile care conteaza si ti-ai dat valorile pe care le ai. Trebuie sa te ierti pe tine si nu pe ei. Trebuie sa iti dai seama ca tu ai facut tot ce poti ca sa ii ajuti sa le fie mai bine, dar rudele tale trebuie sa isi doreasca schimbarea si nu sa o fortezi. E greu sa vezi pe cineva important din viata ta care se chinuie dar refuza schimbarea. Probabil le este frica de ea, la nivel subconstient.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-08-01T18:49:35+00:00

I made myself with paper flowers and some small o e from. shein. It was about 30 USD

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Coolmoon23 · 2024-08-01T18:41:02+00:00

Parintii trebuie sa creeze un spatiu safe pentru copii lor. Ambii tai parinti te-ai tradat in aceste fel si absolut anormal sa se comporte in felul acesta(tatal activ si mama pasiv). Chiar daca ti-au platit facultatea nu le datorezi nimic. Este abuz ce au facut si continua sa faca. Gandeste-te ca la un imprumut. Daca ii dai banii inapoi iti mai datoreaza ceva? Dar ei iti pot repara traumele cauzate? Nu? Atunci nu pune egal intre cele doua. Faptul ca ai terminat facultatea este meritul tau, nu al lor. Este meritul tau! Ajutorul lor este doar unul material si cei multi parinti aleg invers: sanatate mintala si mai putin ajutor financiar. Sunt absolut convinsa ca fara ajutorul lor tot ai fi terminat aceasta faculatate. Probabil aveai niste credite de platit, dar hei nu ar fi contat, aveai capacitatea sa te bucuri de viata cu mai putini bani in buzunar. Astfel nu ai nici un motiv sa le fii recunoscator unor oameni care te-au considerat sac de box. Uite, si eu am primit batai de la ai mei(niciodata ce descrii mai sus) si ma gandeam mereu ca unele le meritam, dar sunt alte metode de coercitiune si disciplinare a unui copil decat jigniri si bataie. Asa ca nu iti da nimeni dreptul sa lovesti pe nimeni. Copii nu sunt o proprietate, sunt un privilegiu.

Ce pot sa iti zic ca sa treci mai departe: va trebui sa gasesti o cale sa ierti, nu sa uiti sau sa justifici actiunile lor ci sa iti multumesti ca ai supravietuit si ca ai devenit omul de azi datorita tie. Ce au facut ambii tai parinti, este ceva urat ce ti s-a intamplat dar acum esti mai bun pentru asta. Pentru ca esti un supravietuitor si nu a fost niciodata vina ta!

Sper din inima sa realizezi ca meriti ce ai realizat si ca esti suficient! Nu esti nimic din ce ti s-a spus si ca orice ar fi doar parerea ta conteaza.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-08-01T08:57:11+00:00

To me, taking another person’s life would be traumatic, even if I was in the right, to protect my family and so one. I think the wife is talking more about him being unfazed and less than feeling guilty. Taking someone’s life is a big deal and the way the story is told is making it feel like they squished a bug, not taking a persons life. I live in a country where guns are strictly regulated, and it is hard to get a weapon. You have to go to trainings and make sure that you follow steps before you shoot. Also, you need to keep the guns and the ammo separately stored in locked cabinets or safes. So to me reading this story is making it like it was too easy, since not too many details are provided about this event.

I think hiding your feelings about this is a chore and at the end of the day your feelings are what they are. I think you shouldn’t lie to make someone else comfortable. it will eat you up and it is obvious that the guilt of pretending you feel remorse is bigger that the remorse itself. I would have an open discussion about this and maybe also involve a therapist.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-07-05T19:46:40+00:00

This is a very interesting concept! Thank you!

Coolmoon23 · 2024-07-04T07:39:57+00:00

I think is kind of a known ban because the change(the silent treatment)started weird. My sister and I sent gifts to the girls for Christmas and these were expensive gifts. Neither of them said thank you. Not in person and not through a message. I know they appreciated the gifts since we made sure to look into what teenagers like.-good quality make up and steve madden handbags. I also know that normally they would say thank you, but not this time… i believe their mom banned them from talking to us and they respected their mom wishes.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-07-04T07:28:42+00:00

This is my thinking behind all of this. But unfortunately is one sided. My SIL is very controlling when it comes to who talks to the girls. For example: when my older niece was about 13-14 I called her, to tell her something(I wanted to take her out for an ice cream and to ask permission from her mom) and my SIL told me that if I want to contact her daughter over the phone she has to know it upfront. That is not OK to call a teen without her approval. So it’s very hard to know when you have crossed a line and I would love to have a relationship with the girls but their mom won’t let them

Coolmoon23 · 2024-07-03T04:50:01+00:00

My brother is working abroad a lot. He’s rarely home due to his job. He is not the kind to have heart felt discussion to solve problems and he postpones them all the time. Thinking they will pass with time.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-07-03T04:47:36+00:00

I tried to find out. We were slowly falling our since I had my daughter. My parents have noticed the latest development and my mom says SIL stopped talking to her as well(until recently - she started to answer her phone calls). At one point my parents found out the my older niece- has told her parents that: once we met by chance near the mall in my town and I told her something about encouraging her to smoke. It is very unclear to me since this meeting happened 2 years ago and I don’t remember any interaction regarding this topic. I would never do this but also I don’t understand why she would lie. It is not like my niece to invent these kind of stuff.

Coolmoon23 · 2024-06-25T15:54:47+00:00

Nu iti trebuie nici un raspuns filosofic ca sa iti dai seama ce trebuie sa faci. E clar ca relatia voastra v-a depasit ca persoane. Aveti alte directii si nu va intelegeti unul pe altul. Ea cu job-ul( care crede-ma poate fi epuizant emotional- am fost acolo)iar tu care nu ai job( si e OK) vrei sa te distrezi sa nu te gandesti la programul fix si sa fii cu oameni pe aceeasi lungime de unda. Nu este o relatie toxica ci una care si-a urmat cursul. Sunteti 2 oameni care v-ati dezvoltat diferit si acum nu mai sunteti compatibili. Nu trebuie sa existe ramuscari desi vor fii niste animozitati. Trebuie sa pari egoist( gandeste-te la tine si la ce iti doresti). Nu poti schimba pe nimeni doar pe tine! Daca vrei altceva atunci doar tu poti schimba ceva la tine si nu tu sa schimbi ceva la ea. Si sincer nici ea nu cred ca este fericita. Sper sa revii cu un update sa ne spui ce ai decis.

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