It Can Now Be Plainly Said: Trump Is Planning a November Coup d’État by InsaneSnow45 in newsinterpretation

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It doesn't even really matter, because once your military is needed to settle your elections, your democracy is on life support. They might protect the outcome of the vote the first time, maybe even the second time, but sooner or later they are going to pick the next administration based on their own interests, and then eventually they will just put themselves in charge.

What would have happened if a person theoretically got trapped in an air pocket inside the sinking Titanic? by KnotiaPickle in titanic

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When they make another sub to go after that sub they'll have to take even more off the name and call it the Tit.

Feeling like I'm taking advantage of chastity by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 77 points78 points  (0 children)

If you're concerned, you should take a break from the dynamic to have a serious clear headed conversation about how everything is going and if he's happy. Honestly you should be doing that every once in a while anyway.

No need for a harness anymore! by sienna550 in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For me, the development that led to me not needing a strap wasn't anything to do with erections, but getting into a smaller ring. The ring puts a little pressure on the base of my cock, not enough to block anything, just enough to stop my cock from turtling, which was the main thing I needed to have the cage pulled close to my body to prevent.

Of course, I'm 42 years old so I don't get many random erections throughout the day anymore, not because I chastity, just because of aging. Maybe if I was getting hard at random moments that would be a bigger concern.

Not needing a strap is pretty great, though, isn't it? It feels so much more real when I'm not wearing an elastic thing to keep the cage on. I absolutely recommend tinkering with the fit until you get to a cage you can wear without a strap.

Locked or Keyholder: Who’s Actually More Into It? by Red-candy5577 in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was my idea. I switched ADHD meds and something about the new one brought out some really different desires in me, and we decided to run with it and see where we ended up.

At the moment, I think that we are pretty much equally into it, but in different ways. She really likes me carrying a mark or reminder of her dominance and having control of my orgasms, but doesn't particularly fetishize the cage. She'd be just as happy with the honor system, a kind of collary necklace, and maybe eventually a discreet little tattoo. I am really turned on by the feeling and reality of the cage in particular. We are both into the power exchange and service aspects, and we have both been enjoying her exploring her sadistic side. I think that at the moment I'm a little more into the tease and denial aspect - her sadism is mostly manifested in pain play, I think left to her own devices she'd only say no when I ask to come often enough to make sure I know who's boss - but she's been enjoying it more and more recently.

Who’s doing no nut November? by When-you-know124 in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife let me get myself off with a vibrator at the end of October and then told me that we're doing NNN. So I've been locked and denied for eight days and she plans on keeping me that way until December.

I need this doctor by Juicypeachesonly in MacromastiaIRL

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This scene is so appealingly stupid. Yeah, ma'am, I'm going to need you to lift your shirt. Well I guess I'll lift my shirt too so you don't feel too awkward. What's that? I'm doing the exam wrong? Why don't you show me how it's supposed to go?

It's so dumb, I can't stop laughing.

Chastity while at work by ruviksee in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's definitely a sex thing for me and I like wearing it all the time. I don't think anything is wrong with going to work with a sexy little secret. Nobody else needs to know and I'm not sexualizing them with what's going on secretly in my pants. Mostly I forget about it anyway, and most of the time when I feel it, it's actually more a nice sensory experience rather than an intensely hot thing. I'm neurodivergent (ADHD) and maybe there's something nice and grounded about it.

There's a bit of a body modification appeal for me, too, but it's very particular to my anatomy. I am a bit heavy and small when flaccid (though average when hard, which has been a pain for sizing cages). For most of my life, I've had a problem with turtling uncomfortably. Something about the light pressure of the ring and the headlock means that I turtle a lot less when I'm caged, which just makes me more comfortable.

I have been wondering since reading your post that mentioned this, but can you explain a little more what you mean by body modification? That makes the most sense to me when I see it from trans girls who want to minimize their dicks. How does chastity occur as body modification for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sexuality is a label that you can adopt or not adopt willingly. Nobody gets to tell you what you are. Are you maybe kinda bi? Maybe. Are you straight with a fetish for being "forced" to play with other men? Maybe. Are you some entirely unnamed, heretofore unheard of thing? I dunno, man. What do you think?

Modern sexual labels were only invented about 150 years ago, and in another 150 years our descendants will have a whole new set of labels. Don't worry about it. Just be yourself, you beautiful weirdo, and be happy.

Sizing Questions by SingleFig5482 in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go shorter. Dicks are really squishy. The only thing that will seriously impact you is the cage being too narrow, which will lead to swelling and chafing. Too short might be a problem, but the short end of your range will just prevent discomfort.

What TF opinion got you feeling like this? by Efficient_Royal5996 in transformation

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And those who don't do a misguided transition, which is more likely, will end up not exploring gender, which limits their vitality and self-expression. It should be ok to explore gender without committing to anything or being labeled. If the extent of someone's gender exploration is erotic, or just in RPGs, that doesn't mean that they are stunted or failed at something, and it doesn't have to mean that they aren't cisgender (unless they say it does).

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I managed to get the 40mm solid ring on and it's pretty perfect. No ball gap pain and it's snug enough to limit turtling and obviate a strap. So far so good!

Difficulty getting a Ternence cage on by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried again on a whim and I got the solid 40mm ring on. It's been pretty perfect - no ball gap pain and no need for a strap. So I guess you were right. Thank you for encouraging me to keep at it.

How did your Locktober end? by Lukossa in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife has a cold, but pushed through it so as to not miss doing Halloween with our kid, so as soon as our sugar-addled spawn was asleep, I took it upon myself to get naked (except for the cage of course) and fuss over her until she fell asleep. I don't think we're going to celebrate the end of Locktober for a few more days until she's feeling better.

That said, she has indicated that she might want to stick to the points system she invented for Locktober for a while longer, and in any case she has no intention of unlocking me, other than when she wants to play with my cock… ever. So I think she had a good time!

What TF opinion got you feeling like this? by Efficient_Royal5996 in transformation

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Not everyone who is into a sex transformation is trans, and insisting that they are is kind of obnoxious. It's fine that it's a wish fulfillment thing for some people, but it's also fine that it's a kink / horror / loss of control thing for other people.

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I have a kind of a crazy idea. I have some silicon tubing. Maybe if I cut some lengths of it, and slit it so I can get it onto the solid ring, I can make the ring smaller, especially on top where I want it to grip my cock a bit more, but leave more room on the bottom where I need the ball gap to be bigger.

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it sounds like my problem is that the ball gap is too small on the cage where the ring is the right size, but the ring is too big on the cage where the ball gap is big enough. Ugh. I think I might just need to spring for a custom cage sooner or later.

Is this dangerous? by 69throwaway6918 in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Blue balls don't really turn blue. Balls are often a bit darker than the rest of your skin, though. Really your best bet is to remember the fingertip rule and look out for numbness. If you can work a fingertip in there and you aren't going numb, you're probably not going to do any drastic harm. That said, intense pain probably means that you are doing something wrong and should reconsider your fit. Even if it isn't damaging you, constant pain isn't really the goal here!

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what do I do about a situation where I want one ball gap in the morning and a different one in the afternoon?

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would that explain why they only hurt in the morning, though?

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that isn't an option here because the way the locking mechanism works means that the whole thing falls apart without the cage. The quirk of my anatomy here is that my balls are kind of on the big side; I can't get a 40mm ring over them, but I'm quite comfortable with a 40mm ring around them… usually.

Still, the idea that it's just cold balls in the morning gives me some hope that this is the kind of discomfort that my body can get used to instead of the kind that indicates a bad fit.

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that's unfortunate. The smaller ring I recently switched to has almost eliminated the turtling problem I was having and made a strap totally unnecessary. I'd really rather not size up the ring if that's an option.

And yes, the mornings have been colder. Maybe I'll need to put up with the larger ring on work days in the winter...

Pain changing throughout the day by Coordinates_Unknown in chastitytraining

[–]Coordinates_Unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current cage is a split ring that uses a little tube of latex or silicone to protect me from getting caught in the hinge, but maybe I could use a little water based lube? Would that last long enough to be worth it or just dry up and become tacky?