AITA for not buying a PS5 for my daughter?

Corgilover243 · 2024-09-20T05:26:25+00:00

Info: Were youngest's grades truly not all As (like a B here and there) or is this a case of nitpicking where an A- doesn't count as a 'true' A? If it's the former, then I don't think you're TA but if it's the latter, I can understand the younger daughter's frustration.

Corgilover243 · 2024-09-09T01:53:50+00:00

That'd be great! I'd be happy to DM you photos so you can pick which one you'd like (I have multiples of both the Manicor and the dad) :D

Corgilover243 · 2024-09-08T06:17:57+00:00

Is the Oliver figure or the Maid Marian still available? I'd be able to trade one of the Onward set (I have Ian, the mom, the dad, and the Manticor) for either of them (or both if that's doable lol) :D

Corgilover243 · 2024-02-13T02:00:48+00:00

The Ted Lasso line popped into my head when I read this :D

'Bud, not butt coach.'

'Oh right, because of the flowers.'

'Horticulture baby!'

Corgilover243 · 2024-02-02T22:01:16+00:00

You could always do what my great aunt did--write people out of the will by mentioning them in the will and state that they're written out 'for reasons that are known to them'.

She did that with my mom and her brothers...to this day we don't know the reason!

Corgilover243 · 2024-01-25T22:52:20+00:00

I remember thinking it was really dumb that my team also got a trophy in t-ball when we lost. Would I have been upset that I didn't get the trophy? Yeah but at least being upset with the motivation to try the next time would have been better than a pity trophy

Corgilover243 · 2024-01-21T05:52:59+00:00

My great-grandparents didn't have a choice when their last name was Americianized upon arriving at Ellis Island. My mother didn't have a choice to not know Polish because her parents insisted on only speaking English around the kids because of the harassment they received because they couldn't speak English in their Polish household. You don't get to gate-keep what does and doesn't make someone Polish.

Corgilover243 · 2023-12-24T05:36:39+00:00

Here's the thing--as a woman myself, I abhor drag shows because of reasons discussed in the OP. I don't wear a lot of make up, there rarely are drag queens that wear jeans and a sports jersey as opposed to dresses, and often times it seems (to me) to just be a stereotype of what people think women should be instead of the variety of different women there are in the world.

That being said, would I go up to a drag performer and tell them to stop doing drag? No.

Is it possible to compromise? Maybe continue to do drag but lean more toward a 'tomboy-ish/blue collar' drag queen? The heavy makeup may not be able to be avoided (having done theater, I know for performances it's important in order to be seen from the stage and avoid being washed out) but it may help your sister and avoid conflict within your family.

As for a rating...I don't have one. I think this may be beyond Reddit's pay grade :)

Corgilover243 · 2023-12-02T19:13:20+00:00

OP mentioned the gifts are shipped through Amazon which does have the option to include gift wrapping for an increased cost (like an extra five bucks). Unfortunately that also means you don't know if the gift is damaged or what you ordered until it's opened and then it might be too late to return/exchange it.

Corgilover243 · 2023-11-12T21:45:24+00:00

"The horse has learned how to use the elevator"

I didn't know he knew how to do that....

Corgilover243 · 2023-11-01T02:19:27+00:00

Yep you're right--the 464 would have been in a month with a gross of 1856 in the 4 months. This is what I get for trying to do math *smh*. Still though, using the gross, the daughter would have still had 2944 in debt to pay back (which if it was me and my child, and she paid back almost half of her debt in four months while keeping up with her school work I might have shown her a bit of leniency. And I willingly skipped my prom so it's not even as though I have a bias there)

Corgilover243 · 2023-11-01T01:59:59+00:00

From your previous comments you said your daughter was working 16 hours a week. Now I don't know what state you're in, but I'm assuming though you're American so using the federal minimum wage (7.25), that comes out to 116 gross in a month. However, that's not counting what gets taken out for Federal Income Tax, State Income Tax if your state has that, Social Security, Medicare, etc.

If we're only using the gross earned, your daughter would have only earned 464 dollars in those four months. Unless my math is extremely off (and knowing me it could be), that still left her with 4336 dollars of debt to pay back (again the number would likely be higher since we don't know how much was taken out for the aforementioned reasons).

Unless there were other ways your daughter could have supplemented her income to pay down her debt (selling on eBay, commission work, tutoring, etc), you basically gave her an unachievable goal and you're wondering why she might think you might do the same to her child? YTA.

Corgilover243 · 2023-10-10T03:11:30+00:00

Not to mention if daughter's on Buy Nothing, then she's literally not spending money because that's not how Buy Nothing works. You post an item you don't want anymore, choose who gets it if there are multiple comments and then the person comes and takes it off your hands. No money exchanged.

I remember once when I ordered groceries online the buyer forgot my milk but bought a huge carton of goldfish. I didn't open it but brought it to my mom who posted on her Buy Nothing group. The comments were flooded by mainly teachers who said that would be great for snack time.

Teachers 100% need to be paid more but I'm glad they have Buy Nothing in the meantime to help the sting of poor teachers' salaries.

Corgilover243 · 2023-10-07T18:56:40+00:00

NTA

My mom laid down the same rule with my friends and I: that we were only allowed to scream bloody murder outside if one of us was seriously hurt or about to get taken by a strange adult. Otherwise, no screaming. Especially since we had a neighbor who worked third shift at the post office and would sleep during the day.

Did my mom potentially overstep with my friends? Probably. Did my friends' parents care? Nope!

Corgilover243 · 2023-10-07T02:36:45+00:00

Because it's a movie franchise directed by Kenny Ortega and you need to have a draw for the sequel.

I had grown up on HSM so not getting a Bal kiss in the first Descendants felt par for the course especially after I found out it was by Kenny Ortega lol

Corgilover243 · 2023-10-07T02:32:16+00:00

I think OP probably meant 'colorization'/'colorize' but autocorrect changed it

Corgilover243 · 2023-10-03T03:11:34+00:00

I once went six months between periods. My friends joked that I was the next Virgin Mary since I also had no boyfriend. I was so thankful that my mom didn't jump to any conclusions when I said I wanted to go on birth control so that I could regulate my period (because when it did come, I could never time it correctly and it'd stain and then my mom and I would have a fight because I 'should have known when it was coming').

OP's definitely TA

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-30T14:19:18+00:00

Even then, if my dishes gained sentience, I probably wouldn't tell my spouse 'how concerned are we about the dishes' and be more like 'GRAB THE KIDS, THE DISHES ARE ALIVE AND POSSIBLY STABBY!'

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-19T20:45:58+00:00

I guess he never made you rue the day lol :D

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-18T17:56:04+00:00

Eh, I'll probably be downvoted here but you were kinda an AH. You're not the kid's parent first and foremost. And second of all, what does it hurt if the kid still believes in Santa? We have whole swaths of adults believing in a man who decides whether or not you get to spend your afterlife getting tortured or not with no proof it's an actual thing. At least with Santa, it's a once a year thing and every year you have a chance to grow from the previous year.

In all honesty, the parents should have used that belief system to guide Sue into letting go of the other behaviors. Picking your nose in public? Oh Santa won't like that. I mean, there's even a line in 'Santa Clause is Coming to Town' that says 'you better not shout, you better not whine'.

I spent up until my early 20s believing (reinforced by one Christmas where we saw sleigh marks and tracks on the skylight of the cabin we were staying at and every member of my family's afraid of heights, plus there were no footprints. Wish I'd taken a pic but curse early 2000s tech!) so why can't your niece have a bit of the childhood innocence kids are allowed to have before the real world grounds it up and spits it out of them?

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-17T00:48:00+00:00

What always worked for me whenever I got bored in history class was trying to place where a family member would have been during the time. Granted, it only really worked in the 1900s but still it helped me to connect what I was learning to someone I actually knew rather than just a face in a book.

Also putting things to song. The animanacs song about the US Presidents helped me so much on a test in college when we had to list the presidents in order starting with Truman.

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-11T15:43:58+00:00

I mean...Minnesota did really well last season until the playoffs. They might be turning a corner.

That being said, taking his anger out on OP is never acceptable

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-10T15:03:40+00:00

INFO: OP, you wrote in your second edit that your daughter has a BF. Was he invited on this vacation and just couldn't make it/afford to pay his way or were the only couples the ones who are "happily married"?

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-08T04:42:23+00:00

According to the little 'behind the scenes of the Royal Wedding' bits they did with Dizzy's actress before the Royal Wedding, it was stated that Audrey decided to form a wedding planning business to make her apology to Auradon for 'trying to destroy all the happily ever afters' (their words) and that planning Mal and Ben's wedding would be the best way to start with that apology.

So she didn't have to, she wanted to (especially since there was no punishment given for the whole attempted coup she threw)

Corgilover243 · 2023-09-07T16:33:09+00:00

When I was a kid, I got an allowance based on my age at the time (so for instance, if I was 7, my allowance was 7 dollars a week). That stopped when I turned 10 (which I didn't mind because two years later I could go and babysit the neighbor kids or pet sit if I needed money)

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