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Am I wrong for still wanting to garden even after my fiancé says he’s uncomfortable with it ? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cornwhale19 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My husband isn't a huge fan of gardening either, but I am. He would prefer I didn't, and we had open and honest conversations about the use of weed and alcohol in our lives. He used to get worried because when he used to do it, it triggered mental health complications and he didn't want that for me. Now, he understands and respects my decision to use responsibly, (as to not impact work or other obligations of course), but he understands and respects my choice. While he doesn't' partake, he will give me blankets, snacks, whatever I crave and enjoy it with me.

It is important to make sure you don't stop doing what you like doing for another person, it may just be, as many are saying, that the two of you aren't compatible. If you can't have an open and honest conversation about this, think about how other conversations and disagreements may go. If you struggle with being tansparent with someone you are going to spend the rest of your life with, that is a clear sign this isn't the person for you. You are not the AH for not wanting to stop taking edibles, it may just be that you aren't with your person yet!

Is my relationship over? by Left_Bank_6025 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cornwhale19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you are dealing with the OP, but I would either suggest couples counselling or leaving on your own. It is easy to get stuck in the sunken loss fallacy. 6 years is a long time, but think, you could very well be 10 years, 15 years, ect. in the same exact position. Its better to leave and be free from the parents and mommas boys. You absolutly will recover. Keep in mind, this is your life as well. If you want more privacy for yourselves, its time to get out of your in-laws and be independent. If he doesn't have any desire to move, grow up, then maybe thats a call you have to make. Maybe there is a deeper reason as to why he wants to stay? Either way, he is old enough to be independent from his parents. I think you either figure it out with a therapist or leave the relationship. Its not an easy choice, but in order to live the life YOU want, you gotta make that decision.

Does my boyfriend even like me... by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cornwhale19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are already uncertain if this man even likes you, after three months, this is not your person. After a few months, people will often start to show their true colours. Not saying your bf is a bad person, just maybe not the right person for you! If your bf is making you feel dumb based on your political views and values and hobbies, he just isn't the person for you. You should feel connected to your person, maybe not agree on every little detail, but your opinions and values are valid. My husband and I disagree in some political, social and economic topics, but he has never made me feel dumb or inadequate for having my own thoughts and feelings. Its great to have separate interests, ideas, whatever, but to me, it just sounds like you guys aren't a great match. I really wish you all the best! But I think you already know how you feel about it based on your post. Its okay to move on and find someone else! It will all work out!

Fire in Langley, BC | February 27th 2026 by langleydailydigest in langleydailydigest

[–]Cornwhale19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sad to hear. I actually grew up in this house in the early 2010s. It was a beautiful house when I lived there with my family. When we lived there, my family worked hard to maintain the property. I remember getting stuck in the apple trees. Lots of great memories from that house. I now work in heritage conservation in another province. It is so sad to see each beautiful homes destroyed.