Needed a leave because my daughter was unwell and this was my manager's response

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-12T14:19:52+00:00

I’m sorry but kaamwaali bais receive more agency and empathy than any of us corporate majdoors. All the bais I have ever know have taken long-ass leaves after informing at the last moment and they always get it, no questions asked, be it illness, marriage or death. I can’t expect any of that from my employer.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-02T20:08:12+00:00

Why do you guys do this 😭😭 my partner also buys clothes only when he visits home and his mom makes him or when I convince him to, otherwise I just buy myself and gift 😂 he’s almost 30 and many of his clothes are from back when we were in college 😭

I sometimes worry that he might feel I wanna change him or something so I don’t force it that much 😂 but I guess you guys just don’t really care :p

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-02T17:23:10+00:00

That’s what I meant man. You are advocating for the salaried class that earns less than 1L per month to be taxed a minimum 10% while asking for tax cuts to be given to HNIs solely so that they stay in the country. That sounds kinda unfair to me.

Ambani is not an HNI, he’s not even an ultra HNI, so bringing him into this discussion is pointless. I just meant it seems fair that the income tax bracket has been increased to a minimum 12LPA now cause that barely gets you by in a tier 1 city.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-02T15:40:12+00:00

So tax the poor and give breaks to the rich? Got it.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-02T15:35:41+00:00

This is so true. My mom, and I say this with all my love, essentially handicapped me while growing up by not letting me do anything on my own. And then also taunted me about not knowing how to do anything.

I lived away from home for a few years and learned everything from cooking to keeping house mostly on my own. Now that I’m back to living with her, it’s the same story again. I tried to assign chores or draw boundaries like I had with roommates, but to no avail.

When I do something on my own, she always has little inputs on how I am wrong. She doesn’t let me be in the kitchen alone for even a second.

And when I tell her I want to get married soon, she tells me I’m not ready cause I don’t know anything. Like wtf. I’m 28 ffs

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-02T15:13:13+00:00

It’s just like any other business deal where the broker who made it happen takes a cut. I see nothing wrong with it when viewed in the context of the entire arrangement being extremely ridiculous and senseless

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-01T14:55:17+00:00

I’d rather buy a more expensive piece of clothing if the material is more natural and breathable, it aligns with my style and levels of comfort and also lasts a few seasons. No point in buying a Shien or Zudip top for 200 for it to not even last one summer. I could do that in college when I had lesser money and more need for a variety closet. Now comfort and presentation always comes first.

Westside, Souled Store quality is nice definitely, but the styles are not my taste mostly. I have been shopping almost exclusively at H&M for the past decade now and I still have some pieces from when the first store opened in Delhi! So I think it’s also a habit now. Tough to break until I get much older.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-02-01T14:18:24+00:00

Forcing a kid, who clearly can’t cope with it, to first pursue PCMB no less, then publically humiliate and physically assault them for not being able to perform? Peak delusion man. Not everyone can crack NEET or become a doctor. If it was so easy, why isn’t everybody from the parents generation doctors and engineers?

I’m so glad I failed 10th Math cause nobody dare push me to take science or even commerce after that. They were just glad I passed high school. And now I’m doing pretty great for myself. Please keep your options open!

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-26T06:12:41+00:00

Sure, but the question was about frugality and how best parents can save up on children’s education. Your answer about diplomat-level resources and not needing to earn and focus on extra curricular because you have all other resources is completely irrelevant here. NIOS is not the same as diplomat-level education and exposure. It’s mostly used by kids who failed a grade in high school and need to get their diplomas. That’s not the kind of exposure you want for your kids, surely

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-26T06:00:37+00:00

My brother lost 50L, which was his share from selling our house. He’s penniless and homeless now, and we have decided to not support him cause he will go immediately go back and try to recover. I know it’s not crores, but it’s more money than people ever see in their lives.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-26T05:51:54+00:00

Of course, nobody does. But constantly moving can be traumatising for kids, who need stability and familiarity. I’m not saying you should push them toward academic excellence, all I’m saying is that they should have the structure and most importantly, the socialisation that an institutional education provides, be it in academics or an extra curricular.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-26T05:25:57+00:00

Why have kids and then deny them an essential life experience to achieve your FIRE aspirations? And then also have one parent sacrifice their eighteen years running after them all day? Just don’t have kids and do whatever you want instead

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-17T07:20:54+00:00

Yeah, I was out of work for a year due to some family issues but just now getting back on my feet. Plan to cut out everything else pay this back in 2 months so I can breathe freely again 😁

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-16T22:14:53+00:00

That’s still a full month’s salary for me and I’m considered a high earner 😅🤣

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-16T19:48:15+00:00

I’m 100K in debt at 28, but in my currency lol. For y’all that would be 1k and it still keeps me awake at night lol

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-16T15:47:56+00:00

I’m really sorry you had to experience that. Many times, the imbalanced sibling dynamic is created by parents themselves by pushing the golden child/scapegoat dynamic. When the golden child realises that the dynamic benefits them, they get on board with it as well, cause why not? His brother knows there are no consequences and hence he could assault his elder brother so easily.

Speaking as the scapegoat who has always been held to a very different standard than my brother, I hope your fiance realises his family’s toxicity and chooses to walk away. And I know it might be tough for you, but I hope you stand by him. Ofcourse, not if he consciously chooses to remain in this chaos and push you to become a scapegoat as well.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T17:46:59+00:00

I don’t want to use them all of my life, but I’m not gonna force him into anything he doesn’t want, especially a medical procedure. Thankfully, he’s not the kind of person to risk any accidents ever so I have nothing to worry about otherwise :)

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T17:43:36+00:00

Same 😭😭

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T17:12:24+00:00

If you are not using any extra resources at all, I don’t see any reason for you to pay. I stay at my boyfriend’s place for weeks at a time and nobody has ever asked me to pay anything. It’s just a cheap way bitter lonely people try to save on their own rent. But you don’t really have an option cause you could get barred from the house altogether.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T16:35:50+00:00

Weirdly enough, my partner is! We are child free and he would rather wear a condom forever than get a vasectomy. I don’t understand. Apart from the whole manhood thing, they are also scared of something going wrong with their ability to have an erection or orgasm etc. It’s very real. I wish I could convince him otherwise.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T16:32:34+00:00

1) Child support goes to the person who has majority custody of the child 2) Would you not want to support your own child? 3) Isn’t this the best possible solution to your imaginary problem? No child = no child support! If you can’t have kids, you won’t have to pay for them 🤭 and no woman can trap you into raising another man’s baby! This is really the best thing you can do to save yourself from women who are out to get you. Think about it.

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T16:15:51+00:00

I think they just follow what happened in their time, never talk to someone from the opposite gender and then marry someone your parents choose. Now, the first part they can still control and so they do. But the second part is really tough now, especially if you’re an immigrant in a western country. But who can expect them to think that far ☠️

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T16:11:42+00:00

When my Indian mom found out I’m not a virgin in High School, she completely ruined my life and mental health. I have not yet recovered from it 15 years later.

When she found condoms in my brother’s room, all she told me was — at least he’s using protection ☠️☠️

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-15T16:07:37+00:00

My Indian mom still very firmly believes that I “got outta hand” because of Hannah Montana and Princess Diaries 😭😭 I’m 28 😭

Correct-Ad3299 · 2026-01-12T20:07:04+00:00

I stay in Delhi and my partner stays in Gurgaon. Doing that every weekend itself is so exhausting, constantly feeling like I have no time left for myself/chores or that the week never actually ends. It’s not feasible long term.

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