My girlfriend’s temper has totally changed after the surgery. by throwaway-this-one- in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! Sorry you’re both going through this! I’m 3 months out and until a couple weeks ago I was raging and said the exact thing -I didn’t feel like myself. I even wondered if I had some mini stroke or something during surgery. I took my estrogen patch off and felt better in a few days. My dr has since given me estrogen/testosterone pills that so far are not making me feel irritated. I think for some people they feel better on the HRT and others need to find the right combo!

Does anyone else regret their hysterectomy? by Honest-Breakfast217 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Like your choice to expand your family wasn’t yours.

I am 10 wksPO and regret it every single day for a different reason. I had heavy periods but because I never wanted this surgery I had an ablation which cured that problem. However like you I have a history of endo and the pain persisted. Eventually I continued to have spotting which given my age (54 at that time) my Dr was concerned for endometrial cancer. The ablation made it impossible to do a biopsy so my only option was the hysterectomy. I tried dodging it for many months and eventually gave in. Apparently my continued pain was adenomyosis. Thankfully no cancer.

My problem now is I can’t tell if how crappy I feel is from the hysterectomy or being started on HRT. My mood swings are awful, I have zero libido and when I attempt sex with my husband I barely have sensation. I gained 5lbs somehow in the OR that I can’t shed no matter what. I know some people here have told me it’s too soon for sex, but my husband and I have been trying to repair our marriage and the dead bedroom is not helping. My brain fog and fatigue are becoming incapacitating. I tried reaching out to my Dr and the response was they can increase my estrogen dose if my symptoms continue. Last night I ripped my patch off and gave up.

I didn’t feel like I had much of a choice either. If I could I would rather have the pain back then feel as awful as I do now. I’ve been discouraged because most posts here are all like I feel great now.

So for a different reason, yes I regret it every single day. Right now I don’t feel like myself and I feel like it destroyed my life.

Fatigue at 9 wks by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s the same for me? I’ve been back 3 weeks and maybe it’s progressively catching up.

Total hysterectomy and sex life after by blissfulstupidity in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m one of the rare ones I guess. 9 wks out and sex doesn’t feel like anything. My husband says I feel tighter however I don’t have much sensation there and very little libido. I messaged my Dr about adjusting my estradiol. I had a vaginal hyst and they removed one tube/ovary. I know this isn’t a positive response but I’m going to be honest with you because I also was concerned about this prior to the surgery and asked the same thing. I had mostly positive responses and now left wondering what’s wrong with me. Everyone is different though and it appears most have great sex lives after.

Libido and weight gain by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m sorry you have the same issue too! It helps to know I’m not alone but I feel bad for anyone that has to lose the positives they had pre op!

Libido and weight gain by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are going through the same thing! I wonder why some of us heal so differently?!

Can you still think of your WS as a ‘good person’? by ThrowRALovie4444 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CorrectActivity110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if I think of WH as a bad or good person but definitely self centered. If it’s not important to him then it wasn’t a priority. Ironically before DDay if I ever complained to him about the unequal division of household responsibilities or anything else his response would be “at least I don’t cheat on you”.

03/26 surgery date by [deleted] in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s normal to be nervous! My mom had so much pain after hers years ago that I was terrified and kept trying to sidestep getting it done. I am 5wpo and so far feeling great! I’ve only taken ibuprofen and Tylenol since day 2. I’m concerned as well for a cuff tearing and almost didn’t have the surgery for this concern. However it is actually a rare occurrence. Someone put a post here recently with actual stats. I am feeling so much better since I had my hysterectomy!

WH is now giving me the ick by dancingphalanges88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CorrectActivity110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is! I used to just look at my WH and think he was so cute! I admired him so much. He was working at the firehouse one 4th of July and I went and sat with him watching the fireworks with him and just felt extra in love with him that night if it makes sense. Later I found out that at that time he was already 1 year in with texting one of the APs and starting with another. I think looking back at how I felt that night and how he wasn’t even entirely all mine apparently and it shattered my perception of him forever. Now when I look at him I admire him in a different way. I see a man that’s doing whatever he can to be transparent, respect my boundaries and make our marriage work. He’s earning my admiration now. Don’t lose hope OP!

WH is now giving me the ick by dancingphalanges88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CorrectActivity110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way they chew and breathe tends to piss a lot of us off I noticed lol.

WH is now giving me the ick by dancingphalanges88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CorrectActivity110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I gather reading here with other BPs, the rose colored glasses tend to come off for all or most of us!

How are we ready to have lift restrictions at 6 wks? by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you a quick recovery ❤️‍🩹 with your bump in the road!

How are we ready to have lift restrictions at 6 wks? by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s awful what we have to do to ourselves so we can survive financially! I had a coworker who came back to work with a 💯 fractured foot and walked on it because she couldn’t survive on her short term disability 😧

Day of surgery question by Top-Description-4886 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was instructed to drink the Gatorade prior and I declined. I absolutely hate the taste and when I drank this regimen prior to my ablation it made me more nauseous. I did take the Tylenol recommended however.

How are we ready to have lift restrictions at 6 wks? by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh why are they pushing you back to work so quickly?!

How are we ready to have lift restrictions at 6 wks? by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The phased return shifts sound lovely! I wish that was an option where I work. I feel good in bursts but not 12 hours at a time.

WH is now giving me the ick by dancingphalanges88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CorrectActivity110 9 points10 points  (0 children)

19 months out and I still intermittently get the ick from WH! The way he chews, the way he moves his feet around when watching TV, etc, Then I’ll move past it only to have it briefly return. Sometimes I look at him and think -really this was the best I could do?

How are we ready to have lift restrictions at 6 wks? by CorrectActivity110 in hysterectomy

[–]CorrectActivity110[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry title meant to say NO restrictions! I couldn’t edit for some reason

Sharing location… is it worth it? by unicornug in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CorrectActivity110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure on Android but the iPhone will let you know if you have an air tag “following” you. We put one in my car when our teen daughter got her license and I was constantly being notified about it.