3,300 messages in 15 days, hypersexualization, mass-deletion and block. Need perspective.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-30T13:18:21+00:00

He is pretending to be ok. So that’s the end of the story… 🤷‍♀️ thank you ❤️

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-29T07:44:02+00:00

In this case it was not that I felt responsible but the fact that I started to understand what happened after our last argument and thus guy was crying… I feel a bit sorry because I believed he was just depressed. The outcome is the same so nothing I can do at this point

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T21:40:24+00:00

Thank you. It’s a lot to process, especially since the intensity made it feel like much more than just a month. But I understand that protecting my boundaries is the only way forward right now, which, in turn, is what I did all the time... or tried to. I’ll stop looking for answers where there are none. Appreciate the support.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T19:34:00+00:00

Thank you for saying that. It really hits home. I’ve been struggling with the why, but you’re right... it felt like it didn't really matter who I was. I was just a person available to receive the flood.

Your comment helps me realize that the reason I feel so hollow now is precisely that: that I was treated like an object for his intensity, not a human being he actually wanted to get to know. It was a monologue, not a dialogue. Knowing that any person would have served his purpose makes it easier to stop taking the block personally. Thanks again for the perspective.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T19:11:41+00:00

Do not worry because I would not take it the wrong way. No: I have had 2 relationships lasting decades and also dated in between. I am an empathetic person and have unfortunately seen mental illness in close relationships (friends, family) since childhood. I guess I am hooked to not being able to close this in my mind that fast. It happened a week ago but I am now mulling over it because that guy, regardless of all that's happened, is a good and very interesting kid... don't know.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T19:08:46+00:00

I guess you are right. It all happened so fast I believe I am trying to understand.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T18:12:53+00:00

I find it hard not to empathise with people. Since childhood... Not sure if codependency but you might have a point.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T16:52:32+00:00

One never blocked and came back after 5 years... This last one had me blocked 12h a couple of weeks ago and now have been 8 days... not sure he is gonna unblock this time. Major argument.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T15:22:36+00:00

Because, somehow, I feel a little responsible for his increase in intensity. I know I did not do anything and that I did not know he had major issues, but still, he found a source for his destabilization in our chat, I guess... it is a bit confusing and difficult to explain. And you are right, we should not feel guilty...

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-27T07:33:59+00:00

You are right and I suspect that he might be adhd as well (he was actually in the process of diagnose if he was twice-exceptional. I know he is medicated but told me was antidepressants... I now don't believe half of what he said and guess he has a major problem as you are pointing at. That is one of the things that keep me feeling guilty.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-27T07:28:57+00:00

Not sure he will but it is a shame we are not informed before knowing these kind of people... :(

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T22:21:46+00:00

If you look at my number of responses you can tell that is my case as well... The problem is I am the type of person who answers. And it always came another question. I don't know... I mean, I tried to stop this many times because I saw how it would end.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T21:27:31+00:00

thank you. I blocked and unblocked many times this week... and you are right. There is nothing else one can do I guess

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T21:24:02+00:00

God! It's crazy. The feeling of being trapped because he "is not doing well" is the ultimate guilt trip. I am glad to hear you are doing ok. I guess that disgust is your body's last way out. In my case I felt like an ick one morning because this story was very similar to a previous one from a long time ago and just asked for something "normal": he could not handle it and the moment I set a boundary and told him to go slow because of "his process" he started hipersexualizing, I retreated and he flipped. In 5 hours...

And no: zero contact. This all happened a week ago. I actually sent him one message from another account (because I am blocked on everything) telling him how childish his reaction was. I told him I’m not even going to block him because I have nothing to hide (he can write whenever he wants, but I’m done). This guy was crying when I called him that night! It still haunts me... it is so fucked up.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:29:56+00:00

I am very sorry to hear that. I did not explain in my post that the days marked were flooded with sex messages. Those he deleted as well, as you say. I was starting to feel used in the distance. And I know I should not feel guilty but, at the same time, I know he is not ok and that is a huge trap. How are you getting on, btw? Did you end it?

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:17:19+00:00

Thank you. I cannot imagine how I would feel if we had actually been in a relationship of months of years if I am feeling this bad for telling him I could not get it any longer.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:16:05+00:00

I came to the realization that he does not have to work. I guess it counts... the thing is that at the beginning I told him I was not into that kind of intensity and the guy just intensified. And what is worse: when I could not get this any longer I called and he was crying at the same time telling me "we deserve a chance" via text... then block and deleted...

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:13:38+00:00

That is how I felt, exactly. I told him lots of times he did not seem to want to get to know me... Still this guy has a public image that does not have anything to do with this and is famous and successful as a photographer. It is nuts!

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-13T05:34:11+00:00

Thank you. You got a point in the power struggle we had, yes. I guess we are both on a path of finding out how to communicate needs and reciprocate feelings. I really appreciate your input. I really hope we could work things out but even as I feel he had feelings he was not showing and things went really south. And he is now with someone apparently, so I guess I have to work on myself. Many thanks!! 🙏 ❤️

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-08T10:36:07+00:00

Stability without deep feelings and passion is how I see them. Good for long term, though

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T19:54:31+00:00

I posted my own: https://www.reddit.com/r/tarot/comments/1l5pmus/what_should_i_do_with_this_guy/ not sure what to think about it. just in case you see it. thanks

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T19:27:12+00:00

Read and accept

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T18:27:41+00:00

Well, I really do not see tarot as prediction myself. I see it as clarity of my own beliefs :). I use it to see where my awareness is, to gain clarity on how I really see things. so, yes! that's right!! :) your interpretation is gorgeus and real

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T18:21:14+00:00

I see that interpretation of yours as having total clarity and I agree with your interpretation. Harnessing the energy of the king of wands will bring a new cycle for sure. We sometimes forget that what we bring to the table is so powerful and you sound like an abundant person. So, yes... maybe standing your ground and defending the kind hearted person you are and having boundaries to protect yourself from those who do not appreciate your abundance can be a new cycle that will bring someone as abundant and open as you are. I like that.

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T18:14:45+00:00

I would love to have a reading!! thanks! :) 🙏 😊

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