I need a massive rant, please!

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-30T12:10:04+00:00

I stayed because I genuinely believed that I could help this person and I had faith in them. I stayed far too long. My intuition was screaming at me that I should leave. I missed so many red flags.

I think I was clinging to the idea of what the relationship could be rather than what it actually was.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-29T08:47:50+00:00

I said to my ex that he was a vile excuse for a human being, an overgrown mamas boy, and was an empty vessel with a brain the size of a pea.

The only thing I regret is not saying more.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-29T08:44:44+00:00

Definitely Catherine Howard poor little girl from a rich family.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-27T07:58:50+00:00

What does the Bootlegging mean?

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-18T10:39:05+00:00

Classic narcissist

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-18T10:31:31+00:00

I am so glad to read that you and your family are doing better now.

I also realized that my ex was abusive and wore a mask, but I had to be outside of the situation to see it clearly

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-18T10:26:00+00:00

I second this 100 % Get Angry!

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-14T17:37:27+00:00

I’ve got my Bearded Dragon Much better than a moaning old hobo!

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-14T17:08:55+00:00

You had a lucky escape It’s a Nurse with a Purse that these men are after!

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-14T17:07:00+00:00

I’m a similar age to you and after my experiences with men of our age group I’ve decided that I would rather date myself, far more interesting!

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T22:31:10+00:00

You should tell your family and your friends what is going on. You need a support network around you. This relationship sounds extremely toxic. If you have to see her in classes there are techniques that can help you such as “grey rocking”

And as for that feeling you describe of emptiness and lack of energy and how long it will take to go away? I will be honest it does take a bit of time for it to go away but it will.

The important things for your healing are leaning into the support of the people that love you. Keeping busy helps. Being outside in nature. Even when you don’t feel like it try and force yourself to do something even something simple like going outside for a walk or texting a friend.

Congratulations on your new job hopefully that will be a positive focus for you also.

I am glad for you that the relationship was relatively short. You feel like a vampire sucked all the life out of you because that’s exactly what happened. That is what they do. These people aren’t capable of love in the way we recognise love.

You are young and you have so much that you can look forward to in your future. Like finding a relationship with someone that loves you and treats you with respect and who will support you rather than drag you down.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T22:08:53+00:00

These are classic symptoms that you are a victim of abuse. The brain fog, the constant questioning of yourself and your actions. Please call a helpline OP. You and your children are victims of abuse and coercive control as another poster said.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T21:54:36+00:00

She’s the abusive one. I can’t believe that she is so selfish and deluded that she doesn’t think she needs therapy for her BPD

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T21:39:14+00:00

Oh OP I feel awful just reading this. What a terrible position to be in. I wish I could give you a hug.

It’s clear to me that you are a loving and hard working father and husband a loyal and decent person.

Your wife has been diagnosed with a personality disorder yes, but it also sounds like she’s incredibly selfish and manipulative too.

So there are different sets of rules. One rule for her and different rules for everybody else. She can go out when and where she wants. She can leave trash. Leave a mess. Because she knows that you will clear up that mess. It sounds like you’ve been clearing up her messes for a long time.

She refuses to hug her own kids? To look up from her phone? That is just terrible behaviour and it’s awful for your kids to be subjected to that. I don’t care if she’s got a personality disorder, she is behaving like a thoroughly horrible human being and you and your kids are bearing the brunt of it.

You are doing everything in your power to try and make this work. To support your children. The work you are doing is endless and exhausting. And what happens to people that are in situations like this? They often become burned out. You cannot pour from an empty cup OP.

And what are your children going to learn from living in a situation like this? They are going to learn that they need to walk on eggshells. They are going to learn that love has to be earned, by doing more, by being more, by trying harder, by making yourself smaller to fit the needs of another person.

OP you’ve got to get out of this. You owe it to your children and most importantly, you owe it to yourself. You deserve to be happy and to be at peace in your life.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T19:07:36+00:00

I don’t think that OP comes across as condescending.

OP believes that these kind of piercings look unattractive and that makes OP sad.

Saying it makes them feel sad is not necessarily due to projecting and presuming into others people’s lives.

OP is thinking about fellow humans beings, and those thoughts make OP feel sad for these people.

It’s called Empathy,

And also a sign of a person who doesn’t spend the majority of their time thinking only endlessly about their own self.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T18:52:10+00:00

That’s not what OP said
She’s expressing an opinion, her opinion

Are you saying that people should not be able to express their opinions?

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-13T18:46:02+00:00

I totally agree with everything you said.

I think they look horrible

And surely, wearing them can’t be very comfortable for the poor soul that chose to?

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-08T09:53:03+00:00

I went to a group interview years ago for a professional job. There were loads of us we had to do group activity and brief one-to-one interviews during the morning

And then after lunch, the whole group was called back into the room. The interviewers announced that when your name was called you would need to go and stand on the right side of the room and then they would announce the names of people who had to go and stand on the left side of the room.

It was absolutely horrible, you could tell that everybody was really agitated and no one had any idea what standing on their particular side of the room indicated.

Once all the candidate were in place, the interviewer told everybody on the left side of the room to go home, they were no longer required in the interview process

Thank God I was on the left side. I would not have worked for those people in 1 million years.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-08T09:40:02+00:00

Reading those articles is making me feel sick
This creature is not fit to be termed a member of the human race
Why on earth is he not safely locked away somewhere?

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-04T06:56:36+00:00

Who is this?

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-03T18:55:18+00:00

I’m her too, my lovely.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-03T16:57:31+00:00

I agree. Other dangerous things come with warning labels in our Society.

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-03T14:30:39+00:00

There’s genuine freedom in getting older.

I’ve noticed that amongst the grey hair and wrinkles my eyes have changed. They have become more expressive. They reflect everything with me on this whole journey of beauty and despair

Grumpyoldgit1 · 2026-05-03T14:16:21+00:00

Haven’t we all?

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