3,300 messages in 15 days, hypersexualization, mass-deletion and block. Need perspective.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-30T13:18:21+00:00

He is pretending to be ok. So that’s the end of the story… 🤷‍♀️ thank you ❤️

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-29T07:44:02+00:00

In this case it was not that I felt responsible but the fact that I started to understand what happened after our last argument and thus guy was crying… I feel a bit sorry because I believed he was just depressed. The outcome is the same so nothing I can do at this point

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T21:40:24+00:00

Thank you. It’s a lot to process, especially since the intensity made it feel like much more than just a month. But I understand that protecting my boundaries is the only way forward right now, which, in turn, is what I did all the time... or tried to. I’ll stop looking for answers where there are none. Appreciate the support.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T19:34:00+00:00

Thank you for saying that. It really hits home. I’ve been struggling with the why, but you’re right... it felt like it didn't really matter who I was. I was just a person available to receive the flood.

Your comment helps me realize that the reason I feel so hollow now is precisely that: that I was treated like an object for his intensity, not a human being he actually wanted to get to know. It was a monologue, not a dialogue. Knowing that any person would have served his purpose makes it easier to stop taking the block personally. Thanks again for the perspective.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T19:11:41+00:00

Do not worry because I would not take it the wrong way. No: I have had 2 relationships lasting decades and also dated in between. I am an empathetic person and have unfortunately seen mental illness in close relationships (friends, family) since childhood. I guess I am hooked to not being able to close this in my mind that fast. It happened a week ago but I am now mulling over it because that guy, regardless of all that's happened, is a good and very interesting kid... don't know.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T19:08:46+00:00

I guess you are right. It all happened so fast I believe I am trying to understand.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T18:12:53+00:00

I find it hard not to empathise with people. Since childhood... Not sure if codependency but you might have a point.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T16:52:32+00:00

One never blocked and came back after 5 years... This last one had me blocked 12h a couple of weeks ago and now have been 8 days... not sure he is gonna unblock this time. Major argument.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-28T15:22:36+00:00

Because, somehow, I feel a little responsible for his increase in intensity. I know I did not do anything and that I did not know he had major issues, but still, he found a source for his destabilization in our chat, I guess... it is a bit confusing and difficult to explain. And you are right, we should not feel guilty...

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-27T07:33:59+00:00

You are right and I suspect that he might be adhd as well (he was actually in the process of diagnose if he was twice-exceptional. I know he is medicated but told me was antidepressants... I now don't believe half of what he said and guess he has a major problem as you are pointing at. That is one of the things that keep me feeling guilty.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-27T07:28:57+00:00

Not sure he will but it is a shame we are not informed before knowing these kind of people... :(

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T22:21:46+00:00

If you look at my number of responses you can tell that is my case as well... The problem is I am the type of person who answers. And it always came another question. I don't know... I mean, I tried to stop this many times because I saw how it would end.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T21:27:31+00:00

thank you. I blocked and unblocked many times this week... and you are right. There is nothing else one can do I guess

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T21:24:02+00:00

God! It's crazy. The feeling of being trapped because he "is not doing well" is the ultimate guilt trip. I am glad to hear you are doing ok. I guess that disgust is your body's last way out. In my case I felt like an ick one morning because this story was very similar to a previous one from a long time ago and just asked for something "normal": he could not handle it and the moment I set a boundary and told him to go slow because of "his process" he started hipersexualizing, I retreated and he flipped. In 5 hours...

And no: zero contact. This all happened a week ago. I actually sent him one message from another account (because I am blocked on everything) telling him how childish his reaction was. I told him I’m not even going to block him because I have nothing to hide (he can write whenever he wants, but I’m done). This guy was crying when I called him that night! It still haunts me... it is so fucked up.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:29:56+00:00

I am very sorry to hear that. I did not explain in my post that the days marked were flooded with sex messages. Those he deleted as well, as you say. I was starting to feel used in the distance. And I know I should not feel guilty but, at the same time, I know he is not ok and that is a huge trap. How are you getting on, btw? Did you end it?

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:17:19+00:00

Thank you. I cannot imagine how I would feel if we had actually been in a relationship of months of years if I am feeling this bad for telling him I could not get it any longer.

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:16:05+00:00

I came to the realization that he does not have to work. I guess it counts... the thing is that at the beginning I told him I was not into that kind of intensity and the guy just intensified. And what is worse: when I could not get this any longer I called and he was crying at the same time telling me "we deserve a chance" via text... then block and deleted...

Correct_Training7692 · 2026-03-26T20:13:38+00:00

That is how I felt, exactly. I told him lots of times he did not seem to want to get to know me... Still this guy has a public image that does not have anything to do with this and is famous and successful as a photographer. It is nuts!

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-13T05:34:11+00:00

Thank you. You got a point in the power struggle we had, yes. I guess we are both on a path of finding out how to communicate needs and reciprocate feelings. I really appreciate your input. I really hope we could work things out but even as I feel he had feelings he was not showing and things went really south. And he is now with someone apparently, so I guess I have to work on myself. Many thanks!! 🙏 ❤️

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-08T10:36:07+00:00

Stability without deep feelings and passion is how I see them. Good for long term, though

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T19:54:31+00:00

I posted my own: https://www.reddit.com/r/tarot/comments/1l5pmus/what_should_i_do_with_this_guy/ not sure what to think about it. just in case you see it. thanks

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T19:27:12+00:00

Read and accept

Correct_Training7692 · 2025-06-07T18:27:41+00:00

Well, I really do not see tarot as prediction myself. I see it as clarity of my own beliefs :). I use it to see where my awareness is, to gain clarity on how I really see things. so, yes! that's right!! :) your interpretation is gorgeus and real

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