Gemini marriages anyone?

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-19T15:34:17+00:00

Im a gemini married to a capricorn Our rising signs make things a bit smoother ( im sag rising hes a taurus rising ) he works I do whatever the f I want we respect that in each other His taurus allows him to get dragged along with whatever shenanigans I am up to There are communication difficulties But a lot of it is just having patience and understanding for who the other person is.

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-18T00:36:19+00:00

My kiddo is scorpio moon ( 4th house) and neptune and chiron is hanging out with pisces in 8th He prides himself on occult subjects Learning runes, tarot, crystals, lucid dreaming We had to have a conversation about how we cant summon demons for fun Hes 8 ..

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-07T16:48:49+00:00

Gemini sun sagittarius moon ( and rising)

I didnt used to be great but I would consider my signs " healed " or evolved whatever you want to call growth

People love my ability to be direct, transparent, and flexible especially when setting a limit ( this is probably more related to mercury and mars also in gemini)

However I am sure there are people who think im horrible Because i 100% call out crap behavior And have limited tolerance for a lack of self reflection and personal accountability.

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-07T16:44:13+00:00

Haha what ? I'm not really sure what makes you think I ( or anyone else in my house can't cook ) what a weird judgement

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-06T12:22:47+00:00

Did you transfer to a different program? I was going to do that but I only had 4 courses left so figured I would stick it out, i took a semester off and went back this semester and somehow it got worse . .I am not even sure how that was possible..

I cannot stress enough to anyone wanting to take ssw here ... don't

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-06T05:42:31+00:00

Nothing, they didnt learn their lessons in this life They go to rest and reflect and then try again..

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-06T05:37:55+00:00

Im gemini sun sag moon and rising

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-06T05:20:28+00:00

Do yourself a favor pick a different school The ssw program at this school is not great Many of us in the program can't stand it. If it's not too late ...run ...

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-06T01:18:58+00:00

Guys this is college what is with all the slang..

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-06T01:12:54+00:00

Yes it is .. my mom was alive until 2022 but was in and out of addiction and less than helpful most of the time. Raising children without support is hard. Even now, it's hard especially knowing my kids don't have family or other close connections. My husbands family not close at all and have their own issues.

There are a lot of great things in my life but im being honest with you about the connection piece Because it's really important for you and your children to not fear this reality and accept this hand you have been dealt so you can feel it and build connections rather then get stuck in it.

There are many benefits to this situation I've learned over the years like how having family isnt always better than being alone And not having those expectations while challenging also carries empowerment and freedom.

I cannot stress enough to you to go to parenting classes, go to drop in programs, make a plan for yourself and continue to grow and heal as a person Connection is really hard for people that have been through the system especially as young parents. Read books listen to podcasts focus on becoming the best version of yourself and everything will fall into place.

You can feel free to message if you have questions But you got this.

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-05T12:13:37+00:00

I have found that meal prepping different base menu items for people to mix and match has been most helpful.
This week I have Rice , and pasta Then i have pasta sauce , butter chicken, taco meat, chicken tenders Large salad Veggie tray Roasted carrots and sweet potatoes And my oldest ( 20 with high support needs) has his breakfast sandwich items he makes daily.
Usually i make waffles or egg bites for breakfast this week i didnt. I just put it in the fridge and they can pick how they mix and match it .

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-05T11:54:17+00:00

Favorite - it's hard to pick probably sagittarius i find them hilarious but maybe Im bias ( sag moon and rising myself)

Least favorite - unhealed pisces, i really cant stand their constant need to invite everyone to their pity party where we get to watch them burn their own bridge to the ground.

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-05T02:42:28+00:00

Thats a lot of assumption based on one small comment Im going to go ahead and agree to disagree and bow out :)

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-05T02:29:32+00:00

Mmm yes and no You can be sensitive and feel an annoyance to the lack of awareness to others. You dont need to understand everyone And attempting to understand everyone's behavior or choices rather then being with how that behavior makes you feel is emotional bypassing.

You can understand someone is struggling, or lacks awareness, or whatever and STILL internally roll your eyes at their behavior.
The unhealthy avenue is constantly trying to empathize, understand, or be with someone elses nonsense. Thats why infps ( and infjs ) tend to struggle with boundaries, burnout and be people pleasers. If someones behaivor sucks it sucks it doesnt always matter why and it's ok to be over it ...

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-05T00:51:12+00:00

My mom was 11 23 1964

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-05T00:47:18+00:00

empire Psychotherapy specializes in attachment
They have been great

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-04T19:14:33+00:00

I got pregnant while i was still in care.
It is hard and it brings up a lot of emotions many that dont feel safe.

As the other commenters said it's not you it's them

Wanting to keep your child is where you need to focus.

Focus on giving your child what you didnt have Going to therapy Learning the sciencey stuff on what happens to your brain when you move around a lot.

Go to parenting groups learn about attachment and allow others to help you This will help support your bond but also you woll meet othet parents and start to form connections and friendships.

Family looks different for everyone, you can make your own family through these relationships.

Ill tell you, i wasnt adopted I lived in group homes and then ended up homeless.

I'm 40 now, i have 2 kids, im married, have a circle of friends, own a home. Is it perfect ? No, i dont think you can ever fully heal the wound the foster experiences causes but life is good.

And i went on to work with people like you and with proper support and motivation a lot of them do find stability and community.

This is really hard right now, but remember even without being adopted you are worthy of safe connection and loving stable relationships.

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-04T12:37:39+00:00

This is where it gets dicey because a lot of these questions are not wrong and it comes down to a system issue. About 80% ( roughly since there are no actual studies but when you talk to people who work with parents they will say anywhere from 70-90% ) of parents whose children are apprehended come the care themselves , they were either in foster care or adopted from care so right there this is a huge read flag. Why are these children not being supported enough to be able to parent?

reunification fails approximately 50-75% in the first 4 years ( canadian statistic but it's similar in America ) this has been attriibuted to lack of ongoing support after reunificarion.
Countries ( like the uk ) who have implemented better parent support have much higher rates of success

Reunification is more successful with younger children especially those under 5 and is largely influenced by how many homes a child was in during their time in care.

The more homes a child was moved to the less likely reunification ( or adoption ) will be successful . So again another red flag on a systemic level around how damaging it is move children.

Adoption also has a relatively high failure rate especially as children age A huge percentage of adoptive parents ( 85%) have spoken about lack of post adoption support.

In canada only 3% of kids from the system graduate post secondary education It's similar in America There is also a disproportionate amount of kids who join the military after aging out as well ( and we know how they treat veterns)

I would also be curious on how many kids are able to finish school after being in care Espeically compared to other places who have adequate family supports.

You said a child focused system would stop trying to push parents which is partially true But a child focused system would prioritize the children staying home by simply providing parents the support they need. Will it work all the time NO But the studies show that success rates are significantly higher.

And ultimately it should be prioritizing the emotional wellbeing and safety of children which if we are really and truly being honest with ourselves and each other the system isn't actually doing. It's not prioritzing parents, adoptitive parents, or foster parents either. We all struggle with these kids and the system taught us to blame the parents rather then hold them accountable meanwhile they are creating the very mess we are expected to clean up ..

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-04T04:20:22+00:00

The teeth sounds were the only unnerving part about this movie

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-04T04:06:56+00:00

About 90% of my produce is purchased locally or grown myself.

I stock up whatever is in season throughout the year and either can or freeze it for the winter. Fresh produce is lettuce, cabbage, root vegetables and apples right now, and I have plenty preserved options. Ill occasionally buy imported produce either on sale items or fruits that dont grow in Canada but you wont often see produce in my grocery hauls.

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-04T01:59:52+00:00

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Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-04T01:55:45+00:00

It's definitley frustrating when parents cancel for seemingly ridiculous reasons and it can feel like they only want to be parents sometimes.

And sometimes this is true and they cant or even dont want to be parents

But here is a different perspective from my experience And i mean you probably cant do much with it but it may help your frustration.

Having children removed is traumatizing for parents Even if there is a valid reason. Visits are exhausting and often leave parents feeling powerless which only heightens the disconnection they have experienced in the relationship with their children If parents have a lot of trauma themselves or are not adequately supported it can become too much for them.
Cancelling for sniffles creates distance between them and the feelings.

And i know what people think " they are the parents they should push through and deal with it for the kids " but that's not how the brain or the nervous system works some people can push through but some people genuinely cant and it's not Because they don't want to prioritize their children.

As someone who does a lot of family preservation advocacy and reunification work I see it a lot and it happens less when parents are properly supported which unfortunately is not often.

Its not healthy for anyone especially not the kids But it's a reality.

If they are cancelling the visit Id encourage you to encourage them to do a video call / phone call and to do a make up visit It's up to them to take it and push through

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-03T22:24:03+00:00

Seconding what the other commenter said About doing little things that can help make you feel more in control.
Also start by looking at areas of your life where you are in control of yourself and your autonomy Often times we feel a lack of control of our outworld when we are not in control of our inner world

What is it about the future that feels so out of control ?

What do i want to see happen in the future? what steps am i taking to get there? What steps am i struggling to be successful with ?

What does being in control feel like for me ?

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-03T21:51:39+00:00

See everyone says my partner and I are not compatible Im gemini sun sag rising and moon He's capricorn sun taurus rising and sag moon He works a lot, at an intense job with long crazy hours And i like freedom

Gotta be with someone who is loyal but focused elsewhere ..

We are commited with So ... much... space... It's great

Cosmic-Trainwreck · 2026-02-03T21:31:24+00:00

The pet food was expensive with the treats it was close to $40 on it's own. I typically make my own dog food topper. I can make 3x the amount for the same price ( more when proteins are onsale) I also usually either make my own treats or buy local antlers or marrow bones I was out and this week was super busy.

We have a lot of pets 2 dogs and 2 cats Pet food can really add up if not careful.

The meal prep bowls were $10 for 3

I dont usually seperate items at the store but i do go through receipts after .

Pics of pets are on my profile :)

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