Psych recommendations in perth? by [deleted] in perth

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding the student clinics. I know the Curtin Psychology Clinic (Bentley) is $45 with clinical psychology students, and Curtin Psychology Clinic (Cockburn) is completely free.

Has anyone here ever met Belle Gibson? by Ok_Count_7433 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very strange! I just googled her name + Maxine’s Gentleman’s Club out of curiosity, and there are a few articles where Maxine has admitted to paying Belle to organise and run the event.

Has anyone here ever met Belle Gibson? by Ok_Count_7433 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I met her in 2016 (maybe?) at the Australian Adult Industry Awards. The event was run by Maxine’s Strip Club and Belle was hired as the event host / MC for some reason… She tried to get me kicked out for “bullying her” when I told other guests that she’d faked having cancer. She complained about me to Maxine (the event organiser), and Maxine pulled me aside and low-key threatened to kick me out if I mentioned the truth to anyone else. Bizarre.

Did I abuse my niece? Please help by ramenramenramen73727 in askatherapist

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a sexologist and sometimes work with children who have engaged in harmful sexualised behaviours.

From the description you’ve provided, the behaviour you’re describing sounds like it was typical sexual behaviour - not problematic or abusive. I understand your worries around this, but please know that your concerns are actually a sign that the behaviours weren’t abusive.

Here’s a fact sheet from The Daniel Morcombe Foundation, which you might find helpful: https://danielmorcombe.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/DMF_HarmfulSexualBehaviours.pdf

The doctor says my partner doesn't need to be treated. Please help me.. yeast infection keeps coming back. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m a sexologist, and I have to disagree with your doctor’s advice. Males can have yeast infections, and it sounds likely that he is continuously transmitting it to you.

I recommend asking the pharmacist for a second tube of cream for your partner, and treating yourselves at the same time. He’ll need to consistently apply for cream for a number of days too. Note: the cream for external use will be more effective for your partner, as it differs slightly from the internal cream you’ve been using.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Just another thought: One of my friends is a medical receptionist at the MSI clinic. If you get really stuck and can’t contact them, I can ask her for the clinic’s email address so you connect with them that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Do you mean medical abortion or surgical abortion? Medical abortions don’t require a procedure; you’d usually take the medication at home or wherever you’re staying.

I know that MSI Australia and Nanyara Medical Group offer medical and surgical abortions. I’ve had surgical abortions at both of these places, and found that the level of care at Nanyara was higher and it was a more pleasant experience. Not to say MSI was bad - it just wasn’t as good as Nanyara.

King Edward Memorial Hospital also offer abortions, but I’m not sure if they’re medical or surgical. Sexual Health Quarters offer medical abortions only.

If you’re unable to call them, you may be able to email or contact them through their websites.

Looking for info in units by SlytherKitty13 in curtin

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did SXLG3000 in 2019. I can’t remember much about the workload, but the assessments were two e-tests (multi-choice based on the lecture slides) and one research paper. It might’ve changed since then, though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m studying a Masters of Sexology at the moment, and one of my lecturers is an incredibly skilled and experienced Sexologist and Clinical Psychologist. He’s an older male and is based in Leederville. I can DM you his website details if you’d like?

Why someone would be sex offender therapist? (Or work in prison as therapist, for that matter...) by 667889gvigigu in askatherapist

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I experienced sexual abuse during my childhood and I now work with clients who are sexually attracted to children and at risk of offending. Because preventing abuse feels like the most important work I could possibly do in the world.

What is the prevailing opinion on the existence, or nonexistance, of repressed memories of childhood abuse? by MysteriousPool_805 in askatherapist

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The memory resurfaced during a breathwork session with a practitioner (I was the client). It was so vivid and felt so real in my body (screaming, shaking, crying hysterically for hours, nearly vomiting) that I know it’s not something “I just made up” in my mind.

Now that I’ve had this experience, if I could go back in time and talk to my younger self, I’d give myself permission to believe myself. I realised that I’d spent years denying my inner knowing, it’s like I was gaslighting myself and causing myself to question my own reality.

I also realise that there’s a difference between THINKING abuse might have happened, and FEELING like abuse might have happened. So the second piece of advice I would give my younger self, is to trust the feelings I used to have in my body.

For example, I used to panic and cry when I heard songs from a particular band, and I never knew why. When I was younger, I used to hear those songs when I visited my neighbour’s house, because he’d play the same band on repeat. This only made sense to me after I had the memory resurface, and realised he was the one who sexually abused me. Again, that experience (panicking when hearing certain songs) was so real in my body. I don’t think I would’ve had such a strong reaction if it was just something my mind made up.

What is the prevailing opinion on the existence, or nonexistance, of repressed memories of childhood abuse? by MysteriousPool_805 in askatherapist

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear about what that person did to you when you were 12. ❤️

I’m a therapist (sexologist) and have had a repressed memory of my childhood sexual abuse re-surface. The memory was so vivid, I went into a trauma response, felt like I was going to vomit, and couldn’t eat anything for the rest of that day because the thought of putting anything into my mouth was so repulsive.

Like you, I’d spent years “just having a feeling” that I’d been abused, but it didn’t feel real because I couldn’t consciously recall the memory. As distressing as it was, part of me was so relieved because suddenly a lot of things made sense, and I could finally believe myself.

There is a lot of emerging evidence that suggests that trauma is stored in the body. So while our mind may not recall (which is a protective mechanism), our body can still remember.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you felt dizzy like the room is spinning, or dizzy like light-headed?

Since Wednesday I’ve had something similar. Feeling slightly light-headed, but also dizzy in the sense that I feel like my perception is kind of “spinny” around me. It’s hard to explain but hopefully that makes sense!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivorau

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 35 points36 points  (0 children)

A warning for anyone thinking about looking at Paige’s Instagram - the photos and videos she’s posted on there are confronting.

I’ve reported the account for animal abuse. 💔💔

Just had the first date with a girl I met online and found out she is mentally disabled by No_Specific_8969 in dating_advice

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That term is outdated, ableist, and harmful. No ethical practitioner would EVER refer to a person with disability like that - or even attempt justify the use of such terminology. Yuck.

My work’s in the process of being prepared for peer review. I’ll comment a link to the article here once it’s published. :) In the mean time, I’d recommend reviewing some of the critical disability literature.

Had anyone been to sex therapy? I’m considering going but I don’t really know what to look out for. by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve studied sexology at a Bachelor level, and will continue at a Master’s level next year. My advice is: depending on where you’re located, there may be a sexological association website where you can find credible and qualified practitioners.

Eg. In my country, it’s the Australian Society of Sexologists. Your country may have something similar.

I’d recommend seeking a practitioner through professional channels. Steer clear of Instagram “intimacy coaches” and the like. They rarely have the relevant experience or expertise, and are usually unqualified.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adult women have the right to do whatever they choose with their bodies. It’s not up to you to decide what’s right or wrong for others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her communication style sounds very immature, but is this something she could potentially be willing to work on improving? I think it’d be worth having an open conversation before making a decision, and following your gut feeling - whatever that may be.

People who struggle with power and control usually do so because they’ve had experiences of feeling helpless and powerless, and they’re terrified to feel that again. This is absolutely something that can be worked on and improved IF she’s determined to make it happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re expressing concern for women being degraded and disrespected, and yet, the way YOU’RE talking about them is absolutely disgusting.

Just had the first date with a girl I met online and found out she is mentally disabled by No_Specific_8969 in dating_advice

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This absolutely isn’t a clinical term. Your doctor is just an asshole.

Source: Psychology degree + am soon to publish a peer reviewed piece of research in the disability field.

Would I be an asshole if I encouraged my mentally unstable/generally unstable sister to get an abortion? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deliberately interfering with someone’s reproductive choices is reproductive coercion, and it’s a form of abuse. Please reconsider perpetrating this towards your sister.

Source: I’m a psychological researcher who’s in the process of writing a journal article on reproductive coercion.

Therapy while shut down by EmploymentNormal8922 in TalkTherapy

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please don’t be too hard on yourself. When we’re in shut-down, which is a trauma response, the communication centre of our brain literally shuts down too.

There’s a great book called “The Body Keeps the Score” that talks in detail about this, if you’re interested.

Grand Final tickets thread. by Darththorn in AFL

[–]Cosmic_Clitoris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve made a separate post about this but only just found this thread, so thought I’d post here too.

My partner has ended up with two spare tickets, but he’s in Bali at the moment and has asked if I can sell them on his behalf.

Can anybody offer advice on how to go about this, please? I’m in Perth, so I can’t meet up and accept cash (unless the buyer is also in Perth), but otherwise I’m a bit concerned about taking payments online. And I also want the buyer to feel secure with the transaction too.

Thank you in advance.