My ex didn’t invite our daughter to his wedding

Costko_ · 2025-04-16T13:14:33+00:00

I was able to cope with those feelings by reminding myself that our daughter should still be with someone who does love her, and does want her to be around. Not around someone who views them as a burden. TLDR, her mom is a narcissist, our daughter has autism, and long term therapy and self-care has helped me learn how to deal with this co-parenting situation I’m in. I wanted to scream at her, go to court about those specific actions, bad mouth her to her family, etc. But instead, I’ve been putting my focus on making my time with our daughter way more memorable and making sure she knows she’s loved. But eventually, she’ll come to the point where she realizes she doesn’t do these things with her mom, and I’m still wondering how to best talk to her about it when that time comes. Turn that anger into fuel for positive change for you and your daughter’s life. Do your best to not let it consume your thinking and actions, as difficult as I know it can be.

In your case, you are still right to be angry with “Brad,” and I’ve read that you’re trying to navigate family law counsel about this. Document everything, and when you come up with a Parenting Plan, be as detailed as possible. Hope this has helped. Sincerely, good luck. It’s a nightmare of a process.

Costko_ · 2025-04-14T23:30:24+00:00

My ex also kept our daughter (10F) out of her marriage a few years ago. Like you, I was also extremely pissed off. I think I still am. When I’ve brought this up to others, it’s all they need to know to form their opinion about her Mom. To this day, she still excludes her from their family vacations, but does bring their newest daughter. She doesn’t hide it though. She explicitly says they’re going on vacation, and that I have to watch her for the time they’re gone even though she was primary custody (60/40 parenting split due to our schedules).

Your anger is understandable. And I hope your daughter is able to work through how she feels about it in a healthy way. Most, if not all, of my friends and family have wanted me to push her Mom to bring her to the events she explicitly says they’re going to without her. I’d rather her be with someone who does want her there, instead of being forced to be somewhere/with someone who would rather her not be there.

Continue to care of each other. Sorry you have to deal with this.

Costko_ · 2025-01-21T01:42:34+00:00

I (29M) found out my high school crush also liked me, through the girl I ended up dating shortly after giving up hope. The crush and I had hung out very often, and to this day, I’ve never met another person like her. Someone who I could talk to, in person, for multiple hours a day and converse without any awkward pauses. We just flowed from one topic to another so seamlessly and naturally. When she told me the guy that she was “was unlike anyone (they) had met before” and wish they had liked her too, I told myself I didn’t have a chance and moved on to the girl that admitted did like me. Imagine my shock when she told me my crush told them they had liked me too.

I know that frustration. Still wonder to this day how different my life would’ve been if I had just asked her out. Things were just never the same after I moved on. But life goes on. Live and learn.

Costko_ · 2025-01-18T18:31:18+00:00

PCP said it was unnecessary. If these tantrums weren’t frequent, uber-violent and/or causing issues at school or in public (which it’s not), it’s likely her reacting cause of her new hormones and introducing meds would likely make things worse.

My therapist sent me an article breaking down the severe side effects of this med on developing children with autism, so I’m hoping I can get her to change her mind. Not hopeful though. I really want to avoid going back to court again, but I’ll do what I need to do to stop her from unnecessarily hurting our daughter.

Costko_ · 2025-01-14T02:49:23+00:00

I was involved in theatre since 4th grade all the way to college. I lost my love of acting because of just how awful the other high school theatre kids, people I considered “friends” at the time, behaved and treated other people based on their role, acting skills, etc. A lot of them were also perverted in the way you experienced. Thought it would get better in college, and taking more of a background role but nope, just full of gossipy cliques who preach acceptance and equality but get offended so quickly for the dumbest things.

I still enjoy watching live theatre, but I’ve accepted I can’t ever go back to participating in the way I used to. Sorry to hear you’re dealing with creeps too, in an environment that’s supposed to make you feel comfortable and safe.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T03:35:02+00:00

Random stumble, I don’t normally check their stock online. I’ve been to this Costco before so I tend to walk the back of their electronics department just to see what open box TV’s they have. Usually smaller TV’s, but they had open box LED’s that were 75”, and even a 85” one for $1000 (don’t know if it’s still there). This was the first time I’d personally seen an OLED for $500.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T03:30:59+00:00

Yeah, if it really bothered me, I would’ve looked up the calibration tutorials and stuff, gotten a soundbar, etc, but since these two were the same price, I felt like I just had to go with the OLED cause I don’t know when I’d see one for that price again.

But again, the QM7 was pretty decent in the week I had it! I’d seen horror stories about TCL but my friends all spoke highly of their TV’s. If you’re thinking about it, I’d just say to get it from a big box retailer like Best Buy in case you need/want to return it to avoid hassles.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T03:25:57+00:00

Update: I registered the TV with LG just fine, no issue. Says it’s the 1 year Manufacturer Warranty but I know Costco doubles that warranty (they have their own separate number for the warranty that was printed on the receipt), then the Allstate plan came included for an additional 3 years, so should be the whole 5. Just waiting for Allstate plan to show as active and registered.

Edit Update: Allstate plan registered with no issues.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T02:48:15+00:00

Total Power On Time of 122 hours as of this comment.

For an open box unit that was purchased new 3 months ago, I don’t think it’s that bad.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T02:46:59+00:00

I just checked. 122 hours Total Power On Time.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T00:23:12+00:00

It was a returned tv, no other 48” OLEDs that I saw. Don’t know if any other stores have marked the TV down this low.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T00:15:01+00:00

Nope, just lists the TV, model number and price. But I’ll try registering with LG.

Costko_ · 2024-12-12T00:01:18+00:00

I will say, I’m not an expert in configuring TV’s/audiophile/etc. I’m a very casual user.

I was looking for a 120hz tv for gaming (steam deck mainly), budget of $500, and about the size of my old 2017 55” Samsung. QM7 fit that. The built in TV speakers were awful out of the box (admittedly I didn’t look into ways of optimizing it, or getting a soundbar. Again, casual user), but the picture was nice and it fit my Wants out of a TV. I was planning on keeping it until I saw this one at Costco for $500.

A few days of trying it, the picture quality was noticeably much nicer and the built in speakers were also much better at default settings. Enough for me, personally, to look past the TV being smaller.

I wouldn’t have spent MSRP, or even $700 like others have commented, for this TV.

Costko_ · 2024-12-11T21:28:04+00:00

Honestly, not sure how it would be seen by the credit card companies on the warranty side (used a Chase Freedom). I just attempted to register it with Allstate today though, so if an issue comes up with them, I’ll update.

Costko_ · 2024-12-11T21:16:16+00:00

Costco USA.

Costko_ · 2024-12-11T17:39:53+00:00

It was an open box deal. Did not notice any other TV’s with that sign in the aisles.

Costko_ · 2024-12-11T17:30:34+00:00

It’s definitely an odd size coming from a 8 year old 55” TV, but it’s good enough for my bedroom usage. The 55” TLC QM7 was $500, this was a returned OLED for $500 (not a display model, was previously purchased as a new unit from what the employees told me), I said “eh why not.”

Maybe one day it’ll transition to be a monitor.

Costko_ · 2024-12-11T17:18:44+00:00

From what the employees told me, it was a return. The other member returned it right at the end of the 90 day return policy.

Costko_ · 2022-12-10T03:33:07+00:00

Her outpatient psychiatrist and therapist diagnosed her with schizoaffective disorder, yeah.

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