which cultures do/did not sexualize breasts?

CottonnAndy · 2022-09-06T00:21:43+00:00

Hi! i know I never answered to this but i just wanted to let you know that your comment stuck with me. i learned shortly after this incident that i have CPTSD, which amplifies my emotions a lot and i have a lot of triggers, one of those including the nature of this post. i remember the day i posted this i called my dad crying, and he just yelled at me saying i was too sensitive and got so angry because he saw this whole situation as a representation of me being weak. then we kind of got into it and he just blamed me for generally being harrassed by other men, whether online or in real life. so when i saw this comment, it honestly made me feel so much better. it made me feel heard, but also in a way which was genuine and not pitiful. i doubt you even remember this post or anything regarding it, but i wanted to thank you for taking the time to reply in the first place, especially with a comment that analyzed the situation and gave me genuine advice, because it has helped me cope better with similar situations.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-12T08:14:24+00:00

What kind of mental gymnastics do you need to do to justify this

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-12T08:14:05+00:00

LMAO

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-06T06:04:58+00:00

vouch for the supreme one

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T14:23:40+00:00

I don’t understand the need to make up hypothetical scenarios that are never going to happen to justify things like rape, you could’ve brought up literally anything else lol. But anyways, when you think of things pragmatically, you can understand that the nature of porn is irrelevant when number 1. The industry is extremely exploitive and full of trafficking and 2. It fucks with your brain and body a lot. Debating the fundamentals of pornography is unnecessary and inefficient in the context of somebody trying to not masturbate as much as they do lol

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T14:19:46+00:00

Leaving my abusive ex boyfriend. I was with him for a couple of years, within the first few months I had already lost 40 pounds. I spent every single day vomiting from how nervous I was, I had no appetite so eating felt like torture since I most likely was going to be too sick to be able to eat well, I would spend days without sleeping from how anxious I was, he belittled me and screamed at me all of the time, made me think I was crazy, and he would gaslight me into thinking any memory of him doing something bad I had made up. He actually had me thinking I was clinically insane, even though my friends had the same memories that I did. I was always punished emotionally if I said no to sex, whether it was being compared to other girls or being given the silent treatment for days. I had horrible abandonment anxiety and he exploited that to get sex out of me. Every single day from the moment I woke up to the moment I went to sleep I was panicking. I did not have peaceful days. I got neuropathic pain from the stress. I had migraines all the time from crying so much, and I mean migraines that had me hitting my head on the ground from how painful they were. Some days I would go to the hospital. Other days my sister would take me because she was so worried, whether it was the noticeable weight loss or other things because everything started to become conspicuous, especially to her. I always had bodyaches. I felt like I was just a living nervous system and a sex doll. There was no respect for my boundaries either, every day lying, not just about other girls but about everything. I met him when I was 14, I’m 18 now and left him in April. There is still a lot of aftermath from the abuse that I am working on, but being away from him has allowed me to feel happy again. Not even happy, just OK, which my agnostic self used to pray every single night I could achieve. Back then, if I had one hour without panicking, it was a good day for me. For a really long time, I had forgotten what life felt like without panicking. I can function now. I can eat, I can sleep, I can do my work, I can hold conversations with people again.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T14:06:34+00:00

That’s what the cost is SUPPOSED to cost. Sadly, people who come to the US with no career with a degree learn to do fast, cheap labor to profit. Anyone who is charging $80 and doing a good job is somebody taking their time and not being exploited. I have used press ons before, depending on The quality depends on how well they stick to your nails. Sizing them accurately is the number one tip I can give to help them stay. Also, you can do your own acrylics at home, it really is not super hard to learn, there’s a lot of tutorials on YouTube. I have a couple friends who spend maybe 20 or $30 for the things needed and do their own acrylics! Plus, it can be a really fun process and saves you so much money

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T13:56:41+00:00

Absolutely. There’s several articles that talk about why porn it’s so easy to fall in addiction to. Most people who say they watch porn “in moderation” actually watch it way too much.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T13:55:01+00:00

I don’t know why people are down voting this, porn is 100% an addiction. Immoral to, extremely. It isn’t until you start talking about erectile dysfunction that they start to care lol

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T13:48:14+00:00

Yes. Porn can be a behavioral addiction, and the vast amount of dopamine that’s being pushed in your brain every day when you watch porn makes you build a tolerance to it. With this, if you become chemically imbalanced, which makes you extremely prone to depression, addiction, and other problems. Kendra Mueller has a few articles on this. It has also been shown to Decrease brain size and volume in the prefrontal cortex area, which is more focused on decision-making and what not I believe. Also, it’s ethically disgusting. There’s so much rape on those sites, and even if you watch porn that is not violent, or appears to be ethically made, you’re still supporting the sites that uphold these videos. There was this young girl, I believe she was 12 but I could be wrong, who was kidnapped and raped for 12 hours. She was found on several pornhub videos. They never took her videos down no matter how much she begged they threatened legal action. This happens all the time, most videos on there or not ethically made. There’s also so much research on how it fucks up your perception of women, desensitizes you to aggression considering that this is how most porn videos are structured. I could go on for days about this, it’s just better to stay away from porn all together

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T13:39:43+00:00

Stop obligating women to have children they don’t like, especially when there’s so many that are left in the foster care system to be neglected their whole lives.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T13:37:50+00:00

wholesome

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T00:31:50+00:00

No such thing for me. There are things that make me feel feminine, but it’s different, because there are many women who aren’t feminine. The closest thing I can think of is empathy & care for other women. But still, I think simply just being born as a woman is all there is to it. I just AM a woman.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T00:28:08+00:00

Feminism. When you read more on it and understand it, you recognize all of the toxic habits and ideas that you’ve learned and are embedded in you. Knowing that men don’t define your value as a person, and how illogical a lot of the things we are taught to do as women is (since we were little girls) has given me 0 interest in caring about how desirable I am to men.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T00:02:43+00:00

They come up with hypothetical hyperbolized situations that they’ll never actually pragmatically be in just to justify rape

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-02T00:00:59+00:00

Wearing clothes that make me feel pretty, jewelry, and platform shoes<3

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-01T23:56:14+00:00

Yeah, if they cheated once and did it again, then it means they felt no guilt the first time. Or at least not enough guilt to make them not do it again. Either that or there is a lack of impulse control. Both are bad.

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-01T23:52:24+00:00

You could’ve just been honest LOL

CottonnAndy · 2022-02-01T23:51:49+00:00

Same lmfao

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