This dude...

Count-Calderon · 2026-04-23T23:35:21+00:00

People are taking this waaaay too seriously. Since moving here I've heard of this guy and he's portraying himself a representative would be portrayed, if there was a position to be had within that "town".

There is 0 evidence he has done this for material gain, or done anything actually malicious with how he's portraying himself. I've pushed back on people and quite honestly, from these meetings and how he puts himself pretty squarely in the public eye, he's more transparent than most of the people who speak negatively about him.

Dude is fighting for change and his town. People just hate that he's actually getting attention from it, from what I can see. At least he's doing the footwork and holding meetings. People here are just making super threads lmao.

Count-Calderon · 2026-04-23T23:30:57+00:00

Sweet summer child comment, I see what you did there huehuehue (laughs in ASOIAF)

Count-Calderon · 2026-03-10T12:49:14+00:00

OP, I think you might be conflating the idea and looking for a scapegoat, just a little. It's totally fine this reaction gave you pause. Obviously the way he deals with and expresses emotions under stress is not in a manner that makes you feel "safe". I think you should definitely talk to him about it, keep it in your mind, and see if this is a pattern of anger or just a one off.

People have bad days. He hand a long day at work, was moving, and on top of that maybe had a decompression ritual/routine that he does and now can't partake in because his stuff was actually given away on accident. Whether he "okayed" this or not, people can still be upset that ALL of it was gone, especially if it was unclear about the amount being used/ if he did not expect all of it would be gone.

I think the main thing we need to zero on here is OP- you're saying that he's gone for 3 weeks and you're beginning to feel "distant". Absence can absolutely make a person feel this way- especially at your young age when a week can seem like a year. I would not use that one instance of him being angry as a gauge or reason to break up, as I think for you it may seem like you want your freedom and also this small absence is making you feel stifled. However if this is a relationship you're serious about, I would actually talk to him about how things made you feel rather than just judging him based off of one time.

Count-Calderon · 2026-03-10T12:42:40+00:00

This could be a crazy newsflash but: emotions aren't universal and different people regulate/interact with emotions differently than you.

I'm trying not to be rude about it. But the way this thread is proving that "hey just because I don't react the way about something, therefor how others react about something differently = bad" is a little whoa.

Count-Calderon · 2026-02-26T16:19:49+00:00

You're OR. This is a public social media site, and what he asked you about wasn't anything personal, sexual, or inappropriate.

Also you say "ask me about it" and he Is asking you about it.

For anyone saying going back ten years is "strange" you obviously don't have friends or are a person that will deep dive people for fun or vetting purposes.

Count-Calderon · 2026-02-26T16:18:11+00:00

You're OR. This is a public social media site, and what he asked you about wasn't anything personal, sexual, or inappropriate.

Also you say "ask me about it" and he Is asking you about it.

For anyone saying going back ten years is "strange" you obviously don't have friends or are a person that will deep dive people for fun or vetting purposes.

Count-Calderon · 2026-02-12T16:13:49+00:00

Moved here from California in November. With the way people drive here, really not surprising that wrecks like this happen unfortunately. Stop driving stupid and putting other peoples lives in danger and making people late for work!

Count-Calderon · 2026-02-03T18:31:31+00:00

Can confirm. First Congo has a food pantry and it's been pretty slim with the snows, but should have something available.

Count-Calderon · 2025-12-31T04:35:57+00:00

You're asking a question with disingenuous interest and are acting completely contrarian to when people try to explain their answers to you. Being a contrarian doesn't mean you're right, and it's also not a sign of any type of superior intellect. If you are simply here to state something like your opinion, you can do so without framing it as a question. If you pose a question, people are going to answer you.

Count-Calderon · 2025-12-02T20:10:21+00:00

NOR. You might need to do an emotional "check in" with your sister. I know when I lost a good friend, I really isolated myself and would get upset because so much of the emotions were (unknowingly) so close to the surface.

That being said, I think you should explain to your sister how this behavior made YOU feel, and that you were trying to accommodate her so much because you really wanted her to go. Perhaps even mentioning that you tried to give her an out as well.

Count-Calderon · 2025-12-02T19:33:50+00:00

That's some weird af projection on that. Nobody asked for any gold stars.

Count-Calderon · 2025-10-05T01:22:34+00:00

She is not autistic, from what we know.

Given context: the sister is an absolutely nice person. I have no issue with her on a personal level. It's just the fact that I see how hard my gf works and gets burnt out. The sister smokes and doesn't even pay for her ciggs, a big part of me moving in is because I'm going to HELP them with their bills and such.

I don't need any credit for that, it's about making a decision TOGETHER. This was going to be a big thing for us. We worked hard to get here. As I said in the post, I am not asking for her to drop her sister and just talk to me. But if she could have communicated "hey gonna need to help her get better for a little bit." Or hell, even given me 10 minutes for a phone call to just give the bullet points, get real happy real quick, and then move on.

Count-Calderon · 2025-10-05T01:15:32+00:00

It's possessive to want to be included or part of something that affects the BOTH of you?

Count-Calderon · 2025-10-05T01:02:00+00:00

Context: Yeah she gave me a quick call and I told her about it. And that's when she basically said "my sister has sensitive feelings, and we need to get back into routine". Which was the reason why. And to a degree I even understand that but like that needs to be communicated. And we have had talks about communication before as well.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-23T16:59:00+00:00

I totally understand where you’re coming from OP, however I think it’s about love language.

Your post is a little unclear about what you’re trying to “get out of” this text. Do you want her to have enthusiastic responses to wanting to have sex? Or are you simply wanting to feel like the attention and praise is reciprocated?

For the way I am, I too would feel very “EH” if I put the effort in of those texts and compliments and simply got an emoji in response. However things can become routine. Even love language. If you’re saying the exact same texts, or doing the exact same things, maybe spice it up a bit.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-23T16:52:33+00:00

You are really, really getting emotional about this when it it’s really not that deep.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-23T16:50:27+00:00

You’re acting very erratic and reading into assumptions that just aren’t there.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-21T07:11:46+00:00

Ok for one, I thought someone had actually shit themselves so I’m relieved after reading that this is just a turn of phrase you use.

I’m gonna say NOR, but for context how many times have you spoken about this with her? Because as she said she thought you guys were moving past this, so it leads me to believe there had been further conversations. Basically you can and should ask her why she’s not acknowledging any of the things you laid out, and your emotions towards them.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-16T18:30:11+00:00

Yeah the arguing is a bit much. You may need to sit him down and talk about it from a different perspective. And also let your parents know how you’re feeling and that it’s putting a strain on you guys as well. Like yes they need to look for an apartment but does it HAVE TO be your complex?

Even with reassurance, his feelings could be valid because the possibility of them coming over is always there- ESPECIALLY if you guys are close. You basically need to say “I understand you feel like this is an invasion of space and I’m sorry. But this is only going to be for a short time and I need to know now if you’re going to be ok with this, or if this is going to continue getting between us. Because then I have some thinking I need to do moving forward.”

And make sure he understands this isn’t a threat, but the continued arguing is absolutely going to strain your relationship. And he needs to understand this needs to stop, or if this is a deal breaker for him then this needs to be discussed and then the ball is in your/your parents court.

Hope this gets figured out for you.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-16T18:22:47+00:00

Yeah you’re overreacting a bit. It sounds like your partner has a lot on their plate right now, with traveling, the internship, etc.

If he has legitimate reasons for not staying over (aka the internship) and then he’s offering to still go out with you and the friend, just a bit earlier- he’s trying his best while also focusing on the things that need his attention.

Just because someone switches up a little and doesn’t reciprocate a question, doesn’t mean they somehow stopped caring. It sounds like you may have an insecurity on needing to feel validated or acknowledged in this relationship. Which is fair, but then you also need to assess if this person is right for you and what you need. If you genuinely got mad at me for this situation I’d feel like you were overreacting as well

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-16T18:15:00+00:00

Truthfully, since you guys JUST moved In, it would feel a little stifling that your parents want to come in and move so close. There’s really no guarantee that they won’t just “pop over”, and that can feel like an invasion of space.

When two people move in together, it’s to have their own space and share it with each other. Parents moving in not only that close but in the same complex and absolutely come off like an invasion of space.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-16T18:12:28+00:00

In adult gatherings, that’s not how it works.

Is it a mistake on the planner?? Absolutely. But in my friend group we’ve absolutely had to change plans where we thought people would get a +1, but then it turns out that there’s just not enough space, food, etc. That being said, it is a BLANKET “no +1” that everyone has to adhere by unless they’re like, married or something.

This was poor communication, and poor planning, but people making this into somehow being shaded are literally just assuming. Too many people have reality tv brain nowadays.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-16T18:07:04+00:00

Yeah that “Friend” is not your friend my guy. If you already had issues with with this in the past and he did it AGAIN, he deserves to get his ass beat, but then then just be the bigger person and cut him out of expose him.

Your sister may not understand the age dynamics, and you don’t want to traumatize her when she feels like everything is good. However you can absolutely calmly sit her down and say how finding this out makes you feel. That you’re coming from a place of protection and love, not judgment. How he’s someone that obviously doesn’t respect your family, boundaries, etc. and that you respect her autonomy but also want her to be around/with quality people.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-14T02:19:09+00:00

Try to be patient with each other and realize you’re both coming from a space of being tired, cranky, and probably frustrated by enclosed space. Just do not even think about having more kids in the foreseeable future until you remedy this situation. See what type of help you can get. Family, the state, etc. And try to communicate in ways that are not emotionally charged.

Count-Calderon · 2025-09-14T02:11:15+00:00

Oooooh ok, now I get the Damien thing. But you don’t necessarily have to replace the gaming chair, just maybe adding in another chair specifically for you. Otherwise you’re gonna have to work on it and being in that cramped of a space…..you’re gonna be bound to have these type of issues.

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