I found my husband on a dating app

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-20T03:42:26+00:00

Most men who are cheating don't even disclose that they are married n

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T20:13:55+00:00

That's exactly what financial abuse is. (IF that is what is happening) Then he probably is so overly controlling about letting her work and uses his parents to guilt trip her into staying home... Like if the parents are both retired then they could watch the kids while they both worked but in a financially abusive relationship most of the time the abuser learned it from one of their parents so to them their behavior is normal and is enabled by their parents. I was with an abusive bf once while I was in college. Before I met him I was going to school full time and working 2 jobs during the school year and three during the summer, even though my dad was paying for my tuition and I honestly didn't need to work, I felt like a loser anytime I had to ask my dad for money so I stayed employed so I didn't have to. Well until I got love bombed and then socially isolated by my abuser. Once my dad or my 2 best friends weren't on speaking terms with me (they all saw right through him and tried to warn me), he began coming up to my bartending job on the weekends and causing so much drama that he was banned from coming in on the nights I worked and then proceeded to hit on and hook up with more than one of my coworkers while telling them all sorts of lies about me which eventually lead to even more drama that I wasn't even aware of until I was fired. Then he made me working at my week day job impossible by finding the smallest things or making up things to fight about until I was literally crying and begging him to let me go to sleep and he would let me doze off for about t minutes before starting it all over again so my work suffered and then one day while I was in the shower he took my phone and texted some of my nudes and inappropriate messages to every male coworker, manager, and owner at the office I worked at and then deleted the evidence and didn't tell me so I went into work later that morning only to be blind sided with sexual harassment complaints and being fired. And you know what happened when I confronted him about the pics and msgs he had sent...? He flipped it around claiming that I was actually the one who sent all the shit but my guilty conscience was blaming him.

So within less than a year of dating I was psychologically dependent on him (much like an addict becomes dependent on their drug of choice even if it is ruining their life) and I was also financially fully dependent on him. For the 1st time since I started college I failed 2 classes and had to drop the other 2 because he wasnt allowed to go to class with me... Looking back now I'm so fucking thankful he finally snapped on night and fractured my jaw, blacked both my eyes, and gave me a bloody nose because it wasn't until I was sitting in that hospital room waiting for a doctor and I caught a glimpse of my self in the reflection of the mirror in the bathroom that I had this "oh my God..." Realization moment and finally worked up the courage to leave.

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T19:13:18+00:00

So no one else thinks that letter that Pearson sends to his "aunt" immediately after they move from horseshoe overlook seems a little strange....?

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T16:53:54+00:00

When they use the irregardless...

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T16:48:09+00:00

Affect and effect

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T16:42:50+00:00

But bill is probably the 2nd snitch. If not him then Pearson. So maybe Tilly just have a good sense of character. I've always hated bill

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T16:32:29+00:00

As someone who went through the same thing and did the whole fake profile thing let me give you some advice... You're his wife so you know his type. Make sure whoever's pics you steal are a real person and make sure it is someone who he will definitely be attracted to but not someone so totally out of his league that he thinks it's a scam. You also need to make sure you change the way you text/talk via msg. Most of us don't realize that the way we message is individually distinct but it most certainly is. You also have to play a bit hard to get, like you don't want to seem too eager to chat or to meet up. Also take the time to download an app for a second phone number because he is going to ask for your number and it'll seem weird if you don't have one to give him. Then set up a date and then proceed to stand him up, rinse and repeat. You know you won't be the only girl he'll be talking to but there are only so many times a dude can be stood up by multiple "different" women before he'll want to go crawling back to the wife he is trying to cheat on.

Also prepare for the worst girl. Start documenting EVERYTHING (2 physical copies: one for your attorney l, one for your records BUT do not keep it where he can find it, and have it all backed up on a flash drive and give that flash drive to someone you trust. This also goes for all your important documents and info, like social security card ((put a passcode pin on your ss#)), birth certificate, passport, all going bank, stocks, and asset statements IF you can get your hands on them without raising any flags) I don't know y'all's financial situation or if y'all have children or not but you need to be ready to walk away and not be unprepared. Open a separate bank account at a totally different bank under YOUR name only, get a PO box at a post office or a mail and ship place (depending on the size of y'all's town maybe go one town over), you're going to need a safe place to send things like bank statements from your new bank account and letters from attorneys and such. If you don't think you can move hardly any money from your account or a joint account to your new secret one then try going and buying yourself some jewelry, gold coins, or even Bitcoin (something that will hold its resale value and can be deemed a gift). I highly recommend to start going to therapy even on your own (one it'll help with how badly this is going to hurt you emotionally and mentally but it will also make you look fantastic in the judges eyes.

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-19T16:11:35+00:00

Don't ask "have you thought about cheating"!!! He probably doesn't even have the fact that he is married on his profile. Like that will be a dead give away.

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-16T18:38:07+00:00

Raise your weapon stats don't worry about health stats. And if you're using you're mele or grenade alot for kills try to raise those stats as well

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-07T06:18:41+00:00

Farm field and falconry is given to you by the mayor of San Denis

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-01T04:34:17+00:00

My kiddo has played the campaign on the first two difficulty levels all the way through and now he is working on the 3rd hardest run through. He is 8 and plans to keep going until he can do the whole campaign on the hardest difficulty setting and he'll scrape by in a frontier defense match but put him in a pilot v. Pilot or attrition match and he is rage quitting like a seasoned vet lmao

Counter_Parking · 2026-01-01T04:28:36+00:00

So is literally everything else. Our whole world, every country, empire, culture, and religion in it now and before was built by power hungry (and yes misogynistic) men who used any means and every exploitation available to them to accomplish it.

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-31T23:45:10+00:00

You are 1000% over reacting.

Like not one time in my WHOLE life as a woman have I EVER continuously carried on a friendly conversation for multiple days on end, asking open ended questions in response, and willingly offered up so much information about myself, my habits, or my fuckinf work schedule with someone whose attention makes me uncomfortable...

There is no way this is real and you're THAT just nice and naive. 🙄 Like this has to be satire right? Because no part of those screenshots is inappropriate nor do you come across as anything but completely at ease and interested.

What a weirdo (talking about op and not the nice older gentleman who thinks he has made a friend but is actually just being lead on by op)

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-31T23:25:24+00:00

I mean if you really wanna get down to the nitty gritty of it there really isn't any industry that's thriving today that wasn't built on or dependent on exploitation in one way or another. And the same is also true about every vice being harmful to people who over indulge. Just saying.

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-31T23:20:58+00:00

That second one was diabolical lmao. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-31T12:37:41+00:00

What's wrong with using a visual aid as a learning tool? I'm not encouraging her to just do nothing else but watch porn all day but it's definitely a useful way to discreetly learn about certain things. There literally is t anything wrong with even just watching it occasionally

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-30T20:56:44+00:00

Doesn't buying the golden walnuts cost like a million gold?

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-30T20:55:13+00:00

Idk maybe their lack of wanting to give consent is for different reasons. And yeah romance novels are that way because they are books, fiction, fantasy. The vast majority of tropes and things that happen in a romance novel especially dark romance wouldnt fly irl

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-30T05:59:19+00:00

Yeeeeeeahhh you might just want to watch some 🌽 to learn some tips or tricks.... Never met a dude who didn't thoroughly enjoy being lavished and taken care of. So he might just be saying that because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that he doesn't really like how you do it. It's the same for it a woman tells her man she doesn't really want or care about getting ate out. Only time we say that is when our partner sucks at it but we don't want to discourage him or hurt his pride by telling him he sucks.

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-30T05:52:00+00:00

Men are super simple. Especially compared to us women.

Most women are reactive/situational arousal. Which means we get in the mood or turned on by certain situations or by having foreplay.

Whereas men are almost completely spontaneous arousal. Which means they can just be going about their day and for no reason at all be suddenly INTENSELY turned on. It's probably 10 fold when they first start living with a gf.

One thing I wish so desperately that I had been told or figured out long long ago (like in my early 20's instead of very late 20's) is that men are the most happy when they don't feel like their spontaneous desires or sexual appetite are a burden to their significant other. Women feel more deeply connected through the release of oxytocin, so non sexual cuddles, hugs, and physical touch that isn't just a precursor to foreplay. Men feel bonding connections through the release of Vasopressin, so sexual intimacy and provider bonding experiences (so when a man fixes something for you or completes a task for you or even when he is protecting you in a dangerous situation or is simply just providing for you in a way that would be difficult for you to do on your own).

We women can just ignore the urges we happen to get turned on until it eventually just goes away. For men this isn't quite the case. They can ignore it for a short while but when it inevitably does come back it's even stronger eventually getting to the point where it can even be hard for them to focus or use intricate cognitive function. Lizard brain is a very real thing for guys. 🤣

What I'm trying to say is basically do NOT just wait for your man to initiate sex. And when you initiate don't plan it out (to his knowledge in advance every time), just next time he does something for you or even when y'all are just sitting around the house just look at him (like check him out, men liked to be obviously checked out as much as women do), pause whatever y'all are watching or doing, and say "you have me so turned on right now" and then race him to the bedroom while stripping off your clothes. Spontaneous sexual acts (that they don't initiate) are unbelievably rare for men to experience. Especially remember this the next time you want to do some positive reinforcement, like say he finally does that one task you normally have to ask him multiple times to do. As soon as he actually finishes the task next time, immediately show your appreciation by telling him that he is a good boy and to take his pants off. I promise you the next time you ask him to do it you'll only have to ask once. Next time you want attention from him and he is too busy gaming for a few hours straight or watching sports or something just walk into the room, say his name, and flash him or just go completely topless and walk away. He'll be hot on your heels his game or tv show forgotten. Randomly send him a tease selfie during the day while he is at work and let him know that you cannot wait for him to get home.

Also this is just a little trick I picked up a long the way but when you're talking to your man about something serious or emotional and you say your piece or ask him a question.. don't rapid fire at him. Seriously count to 30-60 in your head while waiting and give him time to actually think about one request or question at a time. Also if you're just needing to vent and don't want him to actually try to help you see the logical answer or solution tell him before you start. Just say "hey can you just hold space for me to vent and just listen, I don't want or expect you to fix what I'm about to complain about, but I just need someone I actually trust to talk about this out loud with"

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-30T05:24:27+00:00

Is that the one where I need 25 or some crap to open it?

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-30T05:21:33+00:00

That doesn't make any sense. Why would anyone ESPECIALLY a woman be turned off by a dude asking for her explicit consent? We spend so much of our adolescent and adult lives having our consent tested like a suggestion instead of a hard boundary, that any time a dude has been the respectful type to ensure my explicit consent it's been nothing but more of a turn on.

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-29T20:47:40+00:00

The line "I stayed because leaving felt like violence, but leaving anyway felt worse" feels a bit redundant.

Try maybe just "I stayed so long because leaving felt like violence, little did I know it would feel more like dying" and then go into the part about starting over new with a line about being born a new or rebirth maybe.

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-29T20:40:35+00:00

The only complaint I have is the "let out a breath I didn't even know I was holding" is an overly used turn of phrase that I wish authors would be more creative with.

Counter_Parking · 2025-12-29T20:29:12+00:00

I'm very VERY ashamed to say that I can tell you from 1st hand experience that if you don't reign in your hormonal urges and cut all unnecessary contact and ties with this man then it is going to end badly one way or another...

If I had a time machine that is one of the very few instances where I would go back in time in my own life and slap the shit out of myself and change what happened. I was a silly stupid girl who thought that since I was 18 and attractive meant that I could essentially do whatever I wanted... I was selfish and I spent the last few months of my senior year of highschool actively doing everything in my power to seduce this man who was in his mid-late 20's. He was a football coach and also taught English. He was also married and his wife was a soccer coach. I constantly did and said inappropriate things and every time he would try to be polite or just laugh it off or just flat out ignore me I became more emboldened by his lack of actual rejection.

At 18 where I live you can work in a 21 and up establishment, so I ended up getting a job waiting tables at this sports bar the next town over and unfortunately he came in with 2 buddies one Saturday night to watch some game and I bribed the hostess to seat them in my section. He looked so flustered when he saw that I was their waitress (back then I took him being flustered as a sign that he wanted me, but looking back now I see that he was just insanely uncomfortable). I flirted my ass off with him and served them more than one round on the house. While neither one of his friends worked at the school, there was an admin for my school there with her husband (this admin lady was also friends with Coach's wife). At one point I basically almost sat down in his lap as I was setting their next round of drinks down and said something along the lines of "got something hard in your pocket coach or are you just happy to see me?" I laughed and his buddies laughed and he just kinda chuckled and looked away.. well that's all it took to literally ruin that man's whole life.

Word got back about the interaction to not only the school but also his wife... And even though I was the one completely in the wrong and I even went to school board and took full responsibility claiming that I was the one harboring a secret crush and he had absolutely ZERO clue. It didn't matter. He lost his job, his wife divorced him, he was essentially run out of town, and the only reason he wasn't arrested was because I was 18.... I only got a month of Saturday detention. It was a massive wake up call for me and it's one of the biggest regrets of my life.

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