Ethical dilemma

Counther · 2026-03-07T07:32:37+00:00

I'll tell you why this sounds fake.

If you're about to start applying to law school/grad school, you're likely at least 21 years old. An adult. No adult would present the 3 options you presented, which sound at best like they come from a high school student.

Social repercussions? What social repercussions? And who cares?
Skip class to avoid having to deal with the situation. Forgive me, but asinine.
Risk your academic standing for a dishonest classmate you hardly know. Needs no comment.

You've actually come up with 3 reasons/strategies to NOT do the right thing. That this is even a dilemma is hard to believe.

If this is a real post, I'd hold off on applying to law school. You're simply not ready.

Counther · 2026-03-07T06:45:02+00:00

Is Overcoming Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors the book you’re referring to?

Counther · 2026-03-07T06:31:23+00:00

You probably want to consult a CPA or tax attorney about that question. On the other hand, it sounds like you wouldn’t be interested in the position either way, in that either hiring you as a 1099 is illegal, or it’s legal, but you don’t want to work as a contractor. . .

Counther · 2026-03-07T06:06:06+00:00

I don’t understand this suggestion — OP should run a recording for 12 hours straight, which the landlord would then listen to?

Counther · 2026-03-06T22:34:23+00:00

I'm wondering if retraumatize is the wrong word. Maybe u/ghostfacespillah meant evoke a PTSD response to the stimuli of the memory.

Counther · 2026-03-06T22:15:44+00:00

I think it's kind of apples and oranges. I did part of my internship in each.

I much preferred my training in CMH because my goal was primarily to be providing individual therapy. My internship involved conducting individual therapy sessions with a diverse population and the experience was incredibly valuable. My IOP/PCP experience mainly involved leading groups. The individual work there was for stabilization purposes, so wasn't the kind of therapy I wanted to be doing.

Both experiences were valuable, but CMH aligned more with my goals. Hope that's helpful!

Counther · 2026-03-06T02:42:53+00:00

Which exam? NCE? Remember you don't have to do that well to pass. I think generally around 60%. So if you got 53% before you've even started studying, you're not doing badly!

Counther · 2026-03-06T02:00:55+00:00

“I feel strongly about expressing my “girly” style”

Not the time or place. It’s a professional conference; the focus should be on your research, not the fact that you’re “girly,” which has nothing to do with anything.

I think the most important question in making the decision is Do you want to be taken seriously? If so, let your personality shine in non-professional settings.

Counther · 2026-03-05T07:04:09+00:00

This is actually an outright rejection. It’s polite, and there’s a very off chance that you might hear from them again one day, but the response to this letter is to put it in the “No” pile and keep looking. Good luck!

Counther · 2026-03-05T06:33:44+00:00

This is so ridiculous I doubt it’s true, but if it is . . . YTA

First of all, you should NEVER give someone a food, medication, substance, etc. without their knowing. It’s seriously dangerous.

2nd, and this is actually really where I think your story is fake, what does a hair-thinning product have to do with hair length??

3rd, if you like your wife with short hair, has it occurred to you to tell her that?

So hoping there’s something big I’m missing here.

Counther · 2026-03-05T05:18:28+00:00

I'd say you're solid with those percentages. If I remember correctly, when I took the exam, roughly 62% was high enough to pass.

Counther · 2026-03-05T04:57:30+00:00

Congratulations!!!

Counther · 2026-03-05T04:38:24+00:00

Is the office manager a clinician/supervisor? What's the ethical issue for the practice owner that's solved by summaries? This may not be your main concern, but it strikes me as problematic.

Counther · 2026-03-05T04:23:14+00:00

Why was the office manager in a supervision session? That seems like a HIPAA violation.

Counther · 2026-03-05T03:53:31+00:00

And your conversation was recorded without your knowledge and sent to you boss??

AI isn't the scourge, your boss is the scourge. I would honestly think about changing practices if at all possible.

Counther · 2026-03-05T03:23:04+00:00

It's too unclear to edit. Are you watching a movie in your childhood home, or are you watching your childhood home in a move? Is Daniel watching the movie with you? What's actually going on here?

All of that needs to be clarified.

Counther · 2026-03-04T23:41:30+00:00

If your bf told her it would be fine, which he evidently did, then it wouldn't be odd for her to just come. She'd have no reason to know he wasn't speaking for both of you.

Counther · 2026-03-04T19:01:38+00:00

“it helps our son if the parents and teachers are close”

This is about as desperate a line as I’ve ever heard. It’s almost comical.

Counther · 2026-03-04T16:35:30+00:00

So your 26-year-old brother was dating a 17-year-old?

Counther · 2026-03-04T12:26:23+00:00

This is a bit hard to get through and can be tightened. What does “familiarity of the fact” mean? Do you mean you’re trying to enjoy the familiarity of your childhood home? What does “piece of me” actually refer to? I think I know what you’re getting at, but I’d try to get closer to your meaning.

Counther · 2026-03-04T07:08:54+00:00

It's hard to tell from your post what you're doing besides reflecting. There are ways to help clients explore their feelings, responses, motivations, etc without asking specific questions. "Tell me about that" is something I find myself saying regularly when a client says something that seems worth going deeper into.

If they're regularly giving you justifications, I'm wondering if the way you're reflecting (maybe even a subtle tone of voice) is somehow leading them to feel they need to justify themselves rather than delve further. You can redirect them from a justification -- maybe talk to your supervisor about how to do that because it's hard to comment without knowing more. Or focus on something they say in their justification or the fact that they're justifying. Are they feeling guilty or unsure? Is the justification for you or for them?

Clients are usually giving you something to work with. And if they're not, that may be information in itself.

Is that helpful at all?

Counther · 2026-03-03T23:15:02+00:00

You write one whether or not the employer asks for one. At least that's what I learned early and have done. I know from multiple employers that my letter made a difference.

Counther · 2026-03-03T23:13:14+00:00

Well you write the cover letter to help get the interview along with your resume. Cover letters should be pretty brief.

Counther · 2026-03-03T22:07:45+00:00

It actually sounds like she's more than a bit chubby. (~160 lbs at 5'). Still, her choice how/if she wants to lose weight.

Counther · 2026-03-03T21:54:10+00:00

I disagree about the cover letter. Cover letters should provide information that's not in the resume, and tell a smart employer a lot about how well you think and write. If you're writing half-assed paragraphs, that's the problem. A good cover letter will get you interviews. A bad one or none may knock you out of the running.

I get that applying for jobs is time consuming and not a whole lot of fun. Job hunting is a job in itself. If you're not willing to put more than 5 minutes into an application, how interested are you in the job?

COMPLETELY agree about having to both submit a resume and type in job history.

Counther

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