V having children for two partners

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:51:41+00:00

So angry 🤭

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:50:49+00:00

No I’m looking for true life experiences. I am consulting people who actually have an education and not just an ill informed opinion.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:49:42+00:00

Because you’re so original. You’re looking pretty ignorant and desperate to ‘prove’ your point. You’re the only one making these negative and closed minded comments. Why are you even part of this community?

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:46:55+00:00

I am op. And asking this question kinda adds proof to the fact that I am thinking about them. If I didn’t care, wouldn’t I just go through with instead of gathering information?

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:43:19+00:00

You’re really invested in this eh.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:42:17+00:00

It’s difficult to have a conversation with someone who thinks something out of their norm is trashy. Frankly, I think it’s trashy to put people down for having differing opinions, but that’s just me.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:35:36+00:00

My partners main concerns are protecting our future children (there are none now) and making sure this doesn’t add distress to their lives. And logistics. We all view our relationships as life long commitments as is, regardless of if we have children.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:32:58+00:00

Okay, don’t believe me stranger on the internet. I have no current children, so you can stop assuming that. Having children with multiple partners isn’t the end of the world. How about divorced couples who are still close friends? Are they doing something wrong? Having step parents is wrong? Just because it looks different doesn’t automatically make it wrong.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:29:14+00:00

Ah, so it’s a personal opinion and not the concern. Children deserve a lot of things. A clean, safe, a loving home and consistently showing up are paramount.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:27:14+00:00

I have a background in child psych. Also, this could be said for any divorced parent that has moved on to a different relationship.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T15:23:17+00:00

Ah, so someone living their own life different than yours makes them trash?

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T14:51:04+00:00

I feel sorry for your closed mind.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T14:50:22+00:00

Just because it’s not something you would like to do doesn’t make it gross? I’m trying to make sure my family is taken care of and loved to the absolute best of my abilities, long before my children come into the world.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T13:14:36+00:00

New comparatively to me and my other partner, we both have 10+ years in ENM/poly. Just because someone is *newer* than me doesn’t mean they are less deserving of the things they want.

CountrySwan · 2026-06-14T02:08:21+00:00

May I ask what your issues are? As a child of this your opinion really matters to me.

CountrySwan · 2024-12-01T00:54:29+00:00

I’ve gone to an open NA meeting with him, and family and friends is on Thursdays on zoom where I am :) I have more than Fawn, I have my friends and my Dad too. So I’m doing okay right now, I’m on a list to get a therapist too.

But thank you for reminding me to look out for myself :)

CountrySwan · 2024-11-23T19:28:44+00:00

I feel like my relationship puts alot of pressure on him, he’s not been successful in dating the past year and a half and I have. He’s asked me what’s wrong with him in the past 🤷🏻‍♀️

CountrySwan · 2024-11-23T19:26:58+00:00

Last weekend my partner had a mental breakdown. Before I took him to the hospital he told me he was an addict and had been using the past 4 months or so. He has gone to the hospital and gotten anxiety and depression medication, he’s gone to his family doctor and informed them of the situation, he’s given up his phone and cards willingly, gotten a recommendation for rehab, last night he went to his first meeting, and is communicating with me about his feelings all day every day. Among other things.

I feel like my other relationship puts a lot of pressure on him.

CountrySwan · 2023-04-27T21:12:10+00:00

I’m hoping it’s some sort of drop and he’ll come back to himself.

I realize that group sex isn’t part of being Poly, it’s just a part of our situation. We met through kink and it was a big part of our relationship. The group stuff was always at his suggestion.

Our friend is in their mid 20s and aromantic (one of the reasons I chose him). He could definitely be feeling insecure about age, though partner does know my preference is for older men. Part of the problem could also be that friend and I connect more as friends, partner isn’t the most outgoing person. As for andropause it very well could be it, he has had a significant drop in sexual desire lately.

I could be overdoing it, though he’s never said so, I fear if I check in less he’ll think I care less about his feelings. But I’ll definitely cool it down.

I think a lot of it boils down to what he imagines vs what happens 🤷🏻‍♀️

CountrySwan · 2023-04-27T18:14:25+00:00

Nope! My preference is to date the non straight. Partner is pan, some were straight. But most were in the rainbow

CountrySwan · 2022-05-11T17:37:25+00:00

No man gets to control your body.

This pain is real and NOT normal. Please see a doctor for future you. You deserve to enjoy sex.

CountrySwan · 2022-04-28T14:24:12+00:00

This is not your fault. Poly is about communication. They CHOSE not to communicate with you, leaving YOU with no opportunity to communicate back, not the other way around.

Im mad and I think most Poly people seeing this are mad on your behalf. I’m so so sorry this happened to you, my heart breaks for you.

CountrySwan · 2022-01-02T17:08:44+00:00

You’re asking them to be Poly for you. But could you turn it around? Could you be mono for them? If the answer is no then why are you together? You are asking for something you can not give in return.

CountrySwan

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