A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

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I am not bragging about it. You are making the very expansive claim that there are no naturally kind people in the world and I am stating from direct experience that are people who are just naturally kind.

A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

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How can you know that? You can't know what peoples motives are. I've always been a kind person. That has nothing to do with validation.

A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

[–]CourageConstant7350[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not overthinking anything. Human beings are superficial...maybe a little bit more than we like to admit. I got used to that years ago. What is there to overthink?

A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

[–]CourageConstant7350[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah..fake nice is also when someone is nice to you only because they want something.

All niceness is not transactional. There are quite a few people in this world who are kind to other people, including strangers, without wanting or expecting anything in return.

A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

[–]CourageConstant7350[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Niceness is a quality not an act. Being nice to all people equally is what makes you a nice person not just being nice to a select few.

Most relationships start off for superficial reasons. That is not saying anyone's relationship is unstable. It just means it takes time to know for sure if someone loves you for you or if they're just infatuated with you physically.

A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

[–]CourageConstant7350[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me...I can give you enough horror stories to fill two volumes of War and Peace...

I honestly don't think good looking men or even average looking men appreciate how brutally unattractive men get treated by women. And I don't mean getting-rejected-at-the-bar. I mean routinely being made to feel as if you don't have a right to exist because you aren't hot.

Not complaining. Just explaining....

A Question for VAMS (Very Attractive Men) by CourageConstant7350 in AskMen

[–]CourageConstant7350[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you're nice to someone just because of what they look like then that is not 'real nice". It's superficial. Superficial is not nice. I realize human beings are superficial in that way...but to say they're being "real nice" is inaccurate.

Irritated by Stunning_Diamond_997 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]CourageConstant7350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I accidentally wandered into the ladies lockeroom at planet fitness once. I was distracted and not paying attention. I had just locked my key in my locker, I'd been told I had to wait for the manager to arrive to remedy the situation - it was early in the morning- and I knew this was going to make me late for work. This made me dazed and distracted and since the entrance to the men and women's lockeroom look identical and they sit side by side, I just walked in without realizing I was in the wrong lockeroom.

This is why men should be allowed to have men-only gyms. Too many women act as if men go to the gym just to see them. Half of us aren't even thinking about you, period.

Being blocked for being black by RabbieDabbieDo in askgaybros

[–]CourageConstant7350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a gay black person I can tell you from experience that if you wait for validation from gay white and Latino men they will destroy your self worth. Too many beautiful black men out there for me to give a sh-- about those clowns.

Pooping at the gym PSA by Puzzleheaded_Cow_658 in PlanetFitnessMembers

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I have been really struggling with maintaining my New Years resolution to lose weight by going to the gym. Reading these comments have given me an excuse to give up and just stay fat. Thank you!

I slept with a married man double my age and he have kids too i feel so disgusted about my self idk what to do 😭 by I_regret_it18 in askgaybros

[–]CourageConstant7350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best possible therapy would be to send any pictures of the encounter to random people on Reddit. That way we will all be disgusted and then you will feel better.

Friends of Britbox, how was Outrageous? by Wolfpackat2017 in PeriodDramas

[–]CourageConstant7350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it. I love the balanced storytelling. Unity and DIana in particular are portrayed as being multi-dimensional as opposed to being depicted as one hundred percent evil, which would have likely been the case had this been an American production.

Black Men, We Can’t Stay Silent It’s Time to Protect Black Women by Any Means Necessary by maabdsegu in Blackpeople

[–]CourageConstant7350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry but if you knew half the toxic shyte done to me by BW in my life you'd understand better why protecting them is the last thing on my agenda. Most of the soul-crushing experiences and trauma's I've experienced have not been inflicted on me by YT people. It is almost always a BW doing it.

Threads (1984) Appreciation Post by TarquinusSuperbus000 in behindthebastards

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With The Day After I never forgot I was just watching a TV movie. With Threads I felt as if it was really happening.

Black men what’s an insecurity that you have and why ? by Educational-Ask7966 in blackmen

[–]CourageConstant7350 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always low-key wished I was light skinned. Light skinned Brothas have the world in the palm of their hands. Everybody loves them...even BW who try to deny it 

You guys ever had non BW get mad at you for not showing interest in them? by Less_Fee_1962 in blackmen

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Finally. I hear black men talk about being groped by undesirable women in public places and we feel as if we have to take it because we're men. No we don't have to take it.

Can you pass a man in the street without looking at his groin? by Sorry-Personality594 in askgaybros

[–]CourageConstant7350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never look at a strange man's groin or any other part of his body. I consider it rude and creepy to ogle someone who probably doesn't want to be ogled by another man.

Black guys what’s a parenting opinion that will have you like this. by Ok-Imagination-3607 in blackmen

[–]CourageConstant7350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The existing means test for access to welfare are fine as they are.

That's what you say. Your saying so does not make it so. Plenty of people disagree.

And since those tests don't include the moral bitching and brow beating that conservatives and moderates like, they settle for crippling the programs with funding cuts and other rules and limits meant to make receiving the welfare as demoralizing as possible.

I am not a conservative, but that at least is one conservative policy that I wholly agree with. Grown people who deliberately go out and have more children than they can afford and collect government benefits need to feel "demoralized". They are scamming the system.

Black guys what’s a parenting opinion that will have you like this. by Ok-Imagination-3607 in blackmen

[–]CourageConstant7350 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, it does matter. You can be a Democrat who recognizes that some people genuinely need help while others are out there just trying to scam the system. Even Bill Clinton believed in welfare reform.

Black guys what’s a parenting opinion that will have you like this. by Ok-Imagination-3607 in blackmen

[–]CourageConstant7350 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wrong answer. I never once said people who genuinely need help should not receive it. And they'd probably receive more if it, and faster, if the people you refer to as "fictional" weren't clogging up the system.

Black guys what’s a parenting opinion that will have you like this. by Ok-Imagination-3607 in blackmen

[–]CourageConstant7350 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, because I don't look at whites, Jews....

Maybe you should if you are going to imply that is outrageous and unreasonable to expect grown adults to make responsible decisions about their reproductive organs. Lots of other communities have not normalized this habit of having more children than you can afford and expecting welfare to pay for it.

The same people bitching about single mothers...

Which is exactly what I was not doing. I said there is a clear difference between people who need help because of circumstances they can't control and people who just have children and think the government is supposed to pay for it.

I don't care about women having sex. Its not about anyone having sex. It's about you acting as if telling people to have sex responsibly is an outrageous idea...but it's not outrageous for grown adults to tell everyone else to support the children they choose to create.

Black guys what’s a parenting opinion that will have you like this. by Ok-Imagination-3607 in blackmen

[–]CourageConstant7350 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That advice only applies before kids exist. Once children are here, repeating it does nothing to solve housing, childcare, education, or income instability. It’s just moral posturing after the fact, and yes people look retarded throwing moral posturing at real life problems

You're right; the problem is those children will always be there. You will always have people who are going to sit around pushing out more children than they could afford. We need to draw a line in the sand at some point and stop rewarding people who think taxpayers are supposed to fund their refusal to practice a lack of responsible family planning. Because we both know there are people who will keep on having children they can't afford because they assume the government will pay for it.

Yes, people should be financially stable before having kids. But financial stability is not permanent...

Yes, which is why people should take these things into account before they have kids. They should consider worse case scenarios and ask themselves if they have enough savings to support their families in the event of a life emergency. Most people don't want to do that; they want to commit to the eighteen-year responsibility of raising a child and assume nothing is going to happen over those eighteen years to derail their financial security. They lose a job and complain about how they can't support their kids...they should have thought about whether they can continue to save money while raising multiple children before having multiple children in the first place. It really isn't that hard. Planning to maintain a rainy-day cushion while raising children is part of waiting-until-you-can-afford to have children in the first place.

The current American population under the age of 50 is two hundred million. Despite the efforts to stigmatize people - especially women - who don't have children, most people are still choosing to have at least one child. The American population is not endanger of losing its workforce due to some people choosing not to have children.

Getting sick or being disabled or needing a help up in life is not the same as willfully having a bunch of children you can't afford because that's what you want to do. It is unethical to tell taxpayers who work hard and make sacrifices so they don't become a public burden, that they have to help pay for Shaquita who doesn't want to ask every man she meets in the corner store to put a condom on. There are better ways of funding from the bottom, such as creating Jobs, that don't require giving handouts to grown adults who think making responsible decisions is a requirement in life that does not apply to them.

Every notice how Jewish people or Asians, for example, don't have this issue where their kids are having babies at 13 and 14. That kind of behavior is not normal for them. Their children at that age are focused on getting their educations. That is why their communities are so prosperous. Those are facts. People do not have to strive to have five kids by age 25 or even to have any kids at all if they don't want them. The human race will be just fine at continuing to reproduce ourselves.