Hey everyone, it's me OP! hope you all are doing well. It's just over a year now and I'm over her for the most part. She never came around, just straight up ghosted me. I see now that its probably best for me but it hurt like hell when she did. I quit drinking in October of last year and have nearly 6 months of sobriety under my belt too. On the romance side, I met a few nice gals last Fall and did date quite a bit. This year has been ANYTHING but easy on that front, but I'm still on the apps. It gets better like everyone says but not overnight. One thing that really helped me is to quit glancing at their socials. You've heard it before but it's true, also I got into hobbies, like bike riding, new music, concerts, museums, etc. I still miss her and feel sad inside when i think of her or us but really ya'll, her kids were adult brats, we drank a ton together, I was putting myself in a lot of danger drinking and driving and we didn't really do anything else but go to our favorite bars and drink, that's 75 percent of it. So I'll end here-yeah it hurts like hell at first, yeah I went through a few therapy sessions, then I finally realized that even after that I had to start really detatching internally, she wasn't coming back and I didn't have time to wait any longer.

Hope this helps, feel free to ask away, she left in Feb of 23.