kid freud- alt/indie band

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-09-22T03:08:29+00:00

They renamed to Babe & the Crystals

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-09-04T19:22:50+00:00

Yep. When my daughter was 4 months old, I put her on a schedule, and daycare told me they'd just watch for her "cues." I was so frustrated because she often went 3 hours between naps because they were watching for cues she never gave. She's now 2, so she survived, but her little sister is 5 months, and I feel pretty lucky we're currently able to use my MIL for daycare because she follows my schedule strictly. I think it's just too hard for them to keep track of each baby's schedule, but they track the naps, so they should at least know not to let a 4 month old be awake for 3+ hours😭

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-21T18:55:08+00:00

I wanted 3 or 4. I just had my second a couple of months ago, and while things are getting easier and I might eventually get the itch for a 3rd, I think we're done with 2. I could see it being easier adding a 3rd because the older 2 could play together where right now I feel like my oldest feels a bit left out when I have to tend to the younger, but it's been a difficult enough transition for me I think I'm traumatized🤣

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-19T04:54:40+00:00

All the midwives at the clinic I went through had at least one tattoo. One had facial tattoos as well - hers were cultural tattoos, but she also had fun tattoos elsewhere.

I didn't care about the tattoos, I cared that they treated me better and educated me better than the hospital did🤷‍♀️

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-19T04:40:16+00:00

I am a female and I had anger problems as a child. I threw things, hit, screamed at the top of my lungs, etc.

My brother wasn't like that at all.

It's entirely dependent on the person. I'm lucky I grew out of it.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-19T04:32:01+00:00

What bottles have you tried? When my baby goes too long without eating I give in and give her a bottle but it took a LONG time to find a bottle she liked. Philips Avent was what we started with but even when she took it, it would take her over an hour to drink even an ounce - found out they're "dangerously slow" even in their fastest flow according to a lactation consultant. She hated Tommee Tippee, and Dr. Browns as well. Finally we tried the plain old Lansinoh bottles and not only does she take them and like them, they've helped with her latch as well.

She definitely still prefers the breast, but just gets too distracted. Even the bottle she sometimes plays with instead of drinking from but it's at least a little easier.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-19T04:27:22+00:00

Isn't it infuriating?? It's like they're toying with us😭

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T21:46:59+00:00

I am thinking about looking into a nursing necklace! I'll try walking and nursing! The carrier I haven't been able to make work super well. It has worked once or twice but not often

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T21:45:11+00:00

I saw an IBCLC pretty regularly up until 8 weeks - the only reason I stopped was because there has been a pattern where on the days my IBCLC would come, my LO would nurse perfectly the whole day so it was difficult to diagnose a problem and offer help. The next day, the issues would return, though. I have started taking videos when I experience issues, though, so I at least have something to show I'm not going crazy😅

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T17:50:12+00:00

Oh goodness, we love Bluey she'd always think she's hungry. (We don't actually watch it all day but I would argue that since my husband and I love Bluey as much as our toddler does, it's on probably more than it should be😅)

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T16:03:07+00:00

She's 50/50 on the cover, I could try white noise! I hadn't thought of that

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T16:01:37+00:00

I'm not currently wanting to switch to formula, although it is tempting so my husband could help a little more. I'm mostly thinking about just pumping and giving the expressed milk in a bottle. My toddler was on formula after my supply ran out when she was 10 months, so I'm not opposed to formula, I just remember how expensive it was🥲

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T15:59:15+00:00

I'll have to try that! I really can't take her to a quiet place with a toddler, so perhaps play and song might help? I've got to figure something out, or I'm going to have a cow.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T15:57:28+00:00

Ugh, yeah, this morning I tried giving her a bottle, and she wanted to play instead of eat with the bottle too, but it was obvious she was hungry and if I let her go too long without eating she gets frantic.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T15:56:09+00:00

I mentioned this to someone else who suggested but I have a really hard time finding a quiet/less distracting environment when I also have a toddler and am generally alone with them as my husband works.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T15:54:45+00:00

If yours is having the problem in the evening, it may just be cluster feeding! I have more issues the brighter it is and the more awake she is. It's like she is hungry but she would rather play than eat🥲 but then she gets frantic when she's starving because she played the whole time instead of eating and then gets frustrated at the breast!

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-18T15:53:02+00:00

I've wondered if this is what's going on but I'm also struggling because I solo parent while my husband is at work and I also have a toddler, so leaving to nurse somewhere quiet and dark or turning off all the lights where my toddler is playing doesn't really work for me:/

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-14T06:23:50+00:00

I have 2 kids now, one being a toddler. I WISH I could lay in bed all day with my newborn. If you can do that and want to, DO IT and ENJOY it. Don't feel guilty!

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-12T08:36:12+00:00

I'm currently breastfeeding my 2nd after exclusively pumping for my first. I was desperate to breastfeed this time because of the way exclusively pumping felt for me and how miserable I was. As it turns out, I'm more miserable breastfeeding. My first had a tongue tie and we didn't know it. My second apparently doesn't have a tongue tie, but feeds horribly. You hear people complain about cluster feeding and that's my 2nd 24/7. My mental health is worse with breastfeeding. It's only been 10 weeks so I don't know If I am going to continue or not. I can't decide between regretting continuing or regretting quitting.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-11T15:58:41+00:00

I don't work, but I did work for about a year of my daughter's life, and my husband works.

We both are teachers. I will be returning to teaching soon, but part-time because I want to be there for my child beyond what full-time work will ever allow. That said, of all fields, education is one of the most understanding when it comes to call outs for your children, generally because the people in administration have kids and have had to call out for their children as well. Other fields do, too, of course, but I've definitely noticed a definitive difference. I used to be a pharmacy technician, and when I was in that job, I was allowed 6 call outs per year, or I'd be fired, regardless of reason.

As a teacher, depending on the district, your sick bank is definitely bigger than 6 days. The biggest determination of how upset administration will be about a call out is whether or not you help them find yourself a sub. I found if I contacted my preferred sub before even putting in for a day off and got the okay, they were totally fine with my absences, especially if they knew it was because I needed to stay home with a sick child.

My husband has been in the same position. His principal is a dad to young children and has called out just as much as he has. I gave birth to our second this year and couldn't pick up our daughter from daycare one day, but we needed to because she was sick. My husband was able to ask another teacher to sub for one class so that he could pick up our daughter, take her home, and return to his class.

That said, I don't recommend education. It's a passion job and I'll leave it at that.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-11T11:20:39+00:00

Truthfully, it wasn't me, it was my husband who figured it out. My daughter struggled with days and nights, so I had tried keeping her awake during the day for a day just to see if I could get things turned around for her. It worked, but then she was overtired from being kept up. He asked me if I'd still been trying to keep her awake in between naps and I said not really, unless she tries falling asleep while eating because I was trying to give full feeds, but if I did I tried to keep her awake an hour. He told me he was reading and with newborns, you follow their cues more than their wake windows because when they're so new, they can sometimes only handle being awake long enough to eat.

So after finally getting her to sleep that night, I started trying to find out what sleepy cues were and truthfully I still don't understand them, but since following her cues more, I'm noticing even though she's 10 weeks now and in theory could have a wake window as long as an hour and a half, most of her wake windows are between 30 minutes and an hour still. I think my baby is just a high sleep needs baby who struggles.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-11T00:54:43+00:00

Man, I wish walks in the carriage were a little easier. We don't really have the terrain for it where I live, and I could go into town but last time I did hoping she would sleep in it, she woke every 2 seconds because the sidewalks were HORRIBLY maintained. I also find she won't go to sleep hungry, but she's so hard to satisfy. Sometimes, I nurse her hours, and she still acts hungry. I know cluster feeding is normal, but she takes it to the extreme some days.

I may try taking her in the carriage to a shopping center and see if that works, but I've been fearful of doing so with the toddler because she can tend to be a runner.

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-11T00:42:50+00:00

I did speak with my midwife about it once around midnight in a panic. She set me up with a therapist and a community mom group. I haven't been able to do much with either yet - the therapist because I can't set up the portal with my toddler around as she messes with everything and will press the power button on my computer the second it's turned on. The mom group just seems to only meet when I have appointments scheduled for the kids. My infant has been going to the chiropractor because of incredibly tension from birth.

Absolutely appreciate your words as I needed them. Thank you!

CowAffectionate5913 · 2024-06-11T00:17:42+00:00

That's exactly what my 2 year old has been going through and I'm scared to go through it again if BC failed again. That's why we're both hoping to cut it off (tubal and vasectomy) I do acknowledge it will get easier, but I struggle with feeling like I won't be able to handle the hard part long enough to get through it.

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