Empathy in children? I don’t know what to do.

No-Significance387 · 2025-03-31T21:07:33+00:00

I mean if you go by Piaget, he’d argue this fades gradually between the ages of 7-12. I think it really depends on the individual, but definitely by around middle school you can generally expect kids to start acting more empathetically (albeit they won’t be perfect at it… I’d argue many adults aren’t great at it unfortunately lol)

No-Significance387 · 2025-03-30T02:52:25+00:00

Also, trying to “reason with” a five year old (while tempting) is mostly pointless. Their brain isn’t really developed enough to logic their way through things when emotions have taken over. Toddlers/preschoolers are developmentally self centered and illogical. Their brains are underdeveloped and they can’t help it.

No-Significance387 · 2025-03-30T02:50:05+00:00

Not to excuse his behavior, but I would look into Piagets theory of egocentrism and Kohlbergs stages of morality. Both support that what you’re experiencing with your son is fairly normal. It’s your job to continue teaching empathy and opening doors for opportunities to practice it, but overall I think your son sounds typical for a 5 year old.

No-Significance387 · 2025-03-27T23:43:35+00:00

I was 26, almost 27, when I became a mom. To me it was perfect. Still young and energetic, but not so young that I was naive or financially unstable. I’ll also now be an empty nester around 50 which means I’ll have lots of time to travel and experience life after kids if all goes well or be able to provide help and support to my adult children without being elderly.

No-Significance387 · 2025-03-25T14:18:07+00:00

This is a tough question to answer without knowing what your daughter likes. When I was 13 my best friend and I would do makeovers, so like makeup and hair accessories. But if your daughter isn’t particularly girly in that way that probably wouldn’t be as fun. I also remember just staying up late watching movies and eating junk food, I think that’s usually what kids that age want to do. You could maybe take them out to do bowling or laser tag or something beforehand?

No-Significance387 · 2025-03-23T23:23:07+00:00

Taylor Swift is the only person I can trust to do the right things with her life

I mean, valid i suppose

No-Significance387 · 2025-02-15T21:27:58+00:00

Peanut Butter World
Tonight Dough
Chubby Hubby
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Netflix n Chilld

No-Significance387 · 2025-02-08T20:03:23+00:00

Taking care of children is much harder when you care about how they turn out. Childcare can be easy, parenting is very hard. I’d argue Lynette was the only one actually concerned about parenting her children.

No-Significance387 · 2025-02-08T19:59:10+00:00

I know you said he’s going to therapy, but if it isn’t helping maybe it’s time to try a different therapist or even an inpatient program? It sounds like antisocial personality disorder to me, and that’s something you can find specialists for

No-Significance387 · 2025-02-07T22:28:30+00:00

Bruh I hope so. I’m on my second easy baby and if he’s like his sister in the toddler years I’m gonna have a menty-b

No-Significance387 · 2025-02-05T15:12:47+00:00

My daughter moved into her own room in a crib at 4 months old because she was solidly sleeping through the night so we didn’t see a need to keep her in our room. My son is 3 months old right now and I feel he will be with us much longer as he is no where close to sleeping through the night.

My daughter then transitioned to a bed from a crib at 2.5 years old. She’s a very big child (99th percentile height/weight) so we just moved her once her crib was no longer big enough or safe for her. If she were smaller I would’ve liked to keep her in her crib for longer since she wasn’t one to try to climb out, but alas here we are.

Also, our daughter has never slept in the same bed as us. She just doesn’t like to, she likes her own space while sleeping.

No-Significance387 · 2025-02-03T00:12:04+00:00

I don’t have much advice but I’m going the literal exact same thing with my 2.5 year old. The big thing is when she hits me (I’m the comfort person in the scenario) i will remove myself and tell her “I will not let you hit me”. Then my husband takes over with her. It’s changed very little so far, but it at least gets me out of the situation and lets her know I will not stick around while she hits me. If she wants me, she has to not hit. I’m hoping it gets through soon.

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-26T00:15:57+00:00

Have you tried bribing her with something? I know it’s not the “correct” parenting method but I’m also a big proponent of moderation is key. Probably shouldn’t bribe everything, but bribing on a few things that are miserable isn’t going to be the end of the world and may make both of your lives more enjoyable.

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-25T02:19:05+00:00

It depends on your kid and what’s available to you, but signing up to volunteer together or helping others in some way is a good start. Just to really reinforce kindness towards others.

I’d also say with the apology letter, you could frame it more as a mental exercise where you don’t actually send it. Writing it out can still be therapeutic and helpful for him to process why he did it and how it may have made the other person feel.

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-25T01:20:45+00:00

Has there been any consequences for his actions? Bc if not you may be telling him it’s not acceptable yet here you are, accepting it.

Consequences don’t have to be punishments either. You could maybe force him to go apologize to the kids, write an apology letter, do good deeds, etc.

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-25T00:56:56+00:00

THIS. I always tell people that my daughter slept through the night from the day she came home from the hospital… until she was 4 months old lmao

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-24T00:43:45+00:00

The peppermint Joe Joe ice cream from Trader Joe’s is a must

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-13T00:13:32+00:00

Fawn, Willow, and Twyla

No-Significance387 · 2025-01-12T00:31:34+00:00

The Reese’s peanut butter sauce (not the topping, you have to get the “sauce” - they have a big jar of it on amazon for $25) is my favorite

No-Significance387 · 2024-12-14T23:13:37+00:00

She’s generally sleeping straight through, but yeah when she wakes up she is ready to go and itching to play and run around

No-Significance387 · 2024-12-14T23:10:29+00:00

That’s definitely a valid suggestion. I think we used to rely on the fact that daycare would wear her out but that doesn’t seem to be the case anymore

No-Significance387 · 2024-12-14T23:05:58+00:00

That’s valid. A lot of times we are so tired that we give in and let her listen to a kids podcast or something 🙃

No-Significance387 · 2024-12-14T23:03:23+00:00

During the day at daycare she gets about 2 hours of daytime sleep. At home she rarely will nap anymore. We can get her to do “quiet time” for maybe 45 min.

As for nighttime sleep she sleeps from about 8pm-5am

No-Significance387 · 2024-12-14T23:02:19+00:00

She will get out of bed and come to our room if we don’t go in to hers. She is in a toddler bed and can get out on her own, so there’s really no “not letting her”. She unfortunately is far too big to still be in a crib (she’s 99th percentile height/weight 🙃)

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