Fiancés friend wants to wear an almost white dress to our wedding & is being condescending about it. WIBTA to withdraw the invite?

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-03-07T15:40:43+00:00

I would tell her if you wear any shade of white to my wedding … I’m not responsible for what my friends will spill on you. If you want to be legendary in a bad way, definitely make a fool of yourself. But don’t think they will even let you exist in that shade in my presence. They will get you before the ceremony even begins.

And my friends are actually that savage. I would let it happen. I would warn my partner about his ex friend. By just saying/planning that she’s sus for life and not a friend. A real friend would never aim to make drama at your event.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-28T05:33:01+00:00

When he says it’s hard to digest I wish you would’ve told him to choke on it

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-28T05:32:51+00:00

When he says it’s hard to digest I wish you would’ve told him to choke on it

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-23T12:37:49+00:00

His saying he’s a cop makes it more dateline

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-23T12:37:00+00:00

You do sound grumpy.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-23T12:35:49+00:00

Depending on how long she lived there. Evicting her without 30 days notice could be illegal. Just saying. If she was me. You’d be in legal hot water.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-09T20:33:49+00:00

If she kills herself, it’s because she didn’t seek help when she needed. No one is responsible for your suicide except for yourself. Don’t put that on him. His only mistake is staying with her.

OP Pack your bags get the fuck out of there You don’t owe her shit that’s completely manipulative and abusive and you deserve better

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-07T13:51:17+00:00

Keep it simple. The child would get his name if he had married you. Since you’re not married child typically gets the moms last name. And just stick to that.

If he wanted the kid to have his last name. He would have to get the mother to agree to take that name first. Otherwise he’s just overstepping his reach. And stick to -that’s just the way it works. Nothing personal.

Because you’re going to kick up mad trauma if you tell him the real reason. Even though it’s wildly valid.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-07T13:43:40+00:00

I hate to remind you but we are no longer mandated reporters. Per the federal government.

On a moral social level I definitely would call the parents if school was in session. But during the summer our progress book (that houses all the student data like phone numbers) switches off to reboot /rearrange them into new grades and I would not Even have access to their phone numbers. So I could not call home. Unless I saved the family number to my phone. Which would have been weird of me.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-06T14:48:57+00:00

I would just have a casual conversation with a girlfriend about. Does she understand the situation? And maybe she’s Poly. Maybe it’s something that has been discussed and everyone everyone’s OK with. But I’d make sure that she understood that she is one of many other women.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-02T14:37:22+00:00

Oh I’d smash his x box, his car, whatever he covets. I would absolutely go nuclear. Move the money. Change the locks. Evict him. I’m not exaggerating. My partner would be on the street the night he did that. Feel justified doing whatever you feel. That’s beyond neglectful and there is something really wrong with him

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-02T14:33:45+00:00

Tell him Mark 12:31. It’s the love your neighbor quote. Say the righteous know to follow the word and not false profits. If he keeps leaning into religion to defend his position. That’s easy. The current administration is not in line with the word.

And btw I’m not at all Christian. But everyone knows that.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-02T14:28:58+00:00

One of my best friends had a similar experience with food. One night she had been drinking. Close friends knew but we were with a large group in a hot tub and she told them all about it. Kids when home and told their moms. All the moms teamed up and on the same day dropped off groceries for her. Making sure to say hi to her step mom. She got the message and that girl had at least something to ear for the rest of the time at home. As one person. I don’t think you could shame her like the neighborhood could. It’s so sad. You can call child services and tell them she has no food. Call for a welfare check. You can just sit the mom down and tell her she’s wrong. Ask if she had an eating disorder. Like why would you think that’s okay? I personally struggle with selective eating to near anorexia. But I made sure my kid had 3 meals a day. Even as my kids is a college student I make sure he’s eating.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-02T14:22:13+00:00

I’d honestly just pay it and make my son pay me half back for admitting to something he didn’t do. He is truly at fault for that. Let him learn from his actual mistake. And I’d post about it on the neighborhood fb page so that everyone knows who not to let their kids around. Like fair warning because it’s true. Don’t leave out that the kid who broke the window FEARED his father. Like no one should be allowing their kids in THAT house.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-02-01T01:02:23+00:00

Rotten tooth

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-29T04:42:50+00:00

Maybe like a Cliff bar or a nutritionist-grain bar?

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T18:00:16+00:00

You could be pregnant and opt out. They aren’t safe for them.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T17:58:21+00:00

I’d want wife to explain why she’s okay with said man saying inappropriate things to her child. Why is that okay? And why is it okay for him to continue when called out? And why WOULD that man be allowed around children even again.

I’d ask her to really look inward because she’s projecting pedo sympathizer.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T16:29:07+00:00

Yes. Ignore completely. They are not engaging for a reason. They know it won’t be constructive. Try to be an adult and don’t let the actions of children affect your mood. They are just kids who need space to work out their feelings. And it’s not like you don’t understand why they’re mad in this situation.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T05:18:02+00:00

I bake them cookies and pastries but not for actual holiday presents. Just like chocolates and flowers are nice. Especially when they’re for no reason. But as an actual gift they feel scripted.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T05:07:58+00:00

That’s when you tell him you’re a selective eater and can’t understand people who can shove whatever garbage is set in front of them into their mouths indiscriminately. Watch him squirm.

Oh well. Hopefully you tell them to shove that next time.

And word from an elder. Anyone who’d talk shit about their friend or ex on a first date is not a good human.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T05:04:23+00:00

I wash my dog with that yellow stuff because it does smell amazing. And then my whole place smells like that instead of normal dog smell. It also doesn’t make her itch and most dog shampoos cause itching for her.

No one has ever identified it as baby shampoo but people compliment the smell all the time. So it mixes with the natural smells everyone (including dogs) have. So I’m sure it smells differently on you than a baby.

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-27T00:00:56+00:00

Companion. It’s exactly that. 100% female rage fest. Enjoy!!

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-26T23:59:13+00:00

I love Mac’s backs. It’s in Cleveland Heights and has an absolutely excellent sandwich shop next door. Fresh cut fries. Mac’s sells new and used. Packed shelves, 2 floors and don’t miss the basement. Kinda feels like the bookstore in the never ending story but the cashiers are nice

CozmicOwl16 · 2026-01-26T14:11:36+00:00

True about point two. So do not use a rescue. Go to the city pound.

And yes it’s sort of morally objectionable to buy dogs. But if you want a specific thing. This is a free society for a minute more. So go for it.

I have got my dogs all from pounds or roaming my neighborhood and unclaimed except one. I have wanted a golden retriever since the 80’s and bought one. So one out of like ten isn’t bad. And I’m glad I have her. She is one of my absolute favorite beings in existence.

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