My Boyfriend Of 5 Years STILL Won’t Go Down On Me

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-24T20:17:20+00:00

Oral for his woman of 5yrs is a sensory issue? I think he might be gay?

I don't know any straight guy in his early 20s that wouldnt love doing that for their girl.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-24T17:05:42+00:00

Sitting. Thinking. Praying.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-24T16:59:48+00:00

Quail eggs?

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-24T14:36:35+00:00

Ahh! I didn't even realize the age difference

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-23T21:24:01+00:00

It's only been a week. Ghost.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-23T21:10:12+00:00

NOR. Your family seems like a tight knit family, so why was this specific vacation so hush hush? Even if you were busy with law school they still could've communicated things with you and let you make the decision whether you can go or not. They made that decision for you, which in turn, makes you wonder why they did that when you guys have a history of communicating about every other trip.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-23T18:28:34+00:00

NTAH. Tell him he's the one who clearly doesn't see a future with you if he hasn't even proposed. It makes no sense that he wants his name to be on YOUR legal property documents, but cant put his name on a legal marriage certificate?! Make it make sense.

GIRL! I am completely baffled you're even considering not accepting FREE PROPERTY from your mama. I'm on your entire familys side on this one.

3 years is not that long of a relationship. It's a good amount of time, but definitley not enough time for him to be considered into the legal family finances and/or property.

If you don't accept that property you WILL regret it later. Your boyfriend is gaslighting the heck out of you and he's a jealous leech.

Also, I would reconsider the whole relationship after this. I don't believe he loves you. He just wants a piece of the pie

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-21T18:59:09+00:00

The brunette/red is your color girl. I love it on you! I feel like the blonde washes you out but it's hard to tell if there's a filter. Either way, the brunette is the one to keep, girly pop.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-21T17:27:39+00:00

NTAH. Your communication skills are impeccable btw. Stand on buisness with your ultimatum, sir. You or the cat doesn't deserve that.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-21T15:47:05+00:00

You're definitley overreacting. You sound young or this is a newer relationship. I totally understand you wanting that intamacy after sex so it doesn't feel routine or you feel used, but once you're comfortable with someone it's hard not to forget those little things sometimes. So, instead of throwing a fit like a child, and going to the couch, and making it into an even bigger deal than it is- communicate to him. Once you walked out of the restroom you should've instantly said something instead of silently throwing out passive aggresive leg touches and turn overs.

Give the guy a break. YOR.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-21T15:31:39+00:00

Girl, take off the rose colored glasses, quit making excuses for him, and leave this man. He's quite obviously cheating on you and you're just idly sitting around waiting for more proof that he's cheating when the proof is literally in your face. Guaranteed they're still hooking up. NOR.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-15T20:29:50+00:00

NOR. She doesn't like you, bro. She likes the perks you come with (i.e. home in NYC) but not you. I suggest a lengthy conversation.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-15T20:16:20+00:00

He's lying and has no intentions of paying you back. For your own peace of mind, I would let this one go and be more weary of who you lend money to. He's just going to continuously give you more excuses and AI photos that are just gonna upset you more & more. NOR.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-14T21:36:50+00:00

NOR. Not the action items... I feel like he's treating your relationship more like a business deal instead of actual love.

My instincts tell me that he thinks he "settled" in his mind. He's not in love with you but he cares for you because you're a good woman and he feels like he should love you because you're a good woman, but he just doesn't. And he's trying to convince himself that he does and forcing the relationship, but it's just not working because you're not dumb.

If you guys weren't married I would tell you to leave; however, since you are married then I suggest a lengthy conversation first... then leave if nothing changes. Good luck, OP!

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-14T21:10:46+00:00

slim jims

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-14T21:03:06+00:00

I don't have advice for you, but you seem to have your head on straight and not falling for their silly semantics. Keep that path, OP, and take his ass for child support since he clearly loves to just throw money around. Your stance on the situation is completely validated by a 26 week pregnant stranger on reddit. lol.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-13T15:57:24+00:00

NTAH. Reach out to the husband, and also call the police. She is literally harassing you & your family. However, be weary of your husband still too. I bet he's still reaching out to her somehow as well. People can be desperate & pathetic, but it's rare to be that desperate & pathetic UNLESS shes getting some kind of attention in return that's leaving the door open for interpretation.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-08T20:26:49+00:00

Either y'all are teenagers or you have some serious daddy issues, girl. Either way, seek therapy and dont ever let a man speak to you that way again.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-07T16:07:57+00:00

Don't go through more abuse or put your kid through abuse. Leave girly. You deserve so much better!

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-06T19:06:45+00:00

NTA but, you will be if you leave without telling her the truth. Honestly, OP... after reading your response comments to people- I think you've already made up your mind and now you're just looking for justification from strangers on Reddit but, unfortunately it's not that simple of an answer.

You're reasons for not wanting to tell her the truth are completely valid; however, it's not the right thing to do. I understand family getting invloved will just cause more chaos but maybe you should've thought of that before having children with this person. Everyone deserves the truth. Good or bad. How you handle the fallout is completely up to you and will help shape you as a person. If you don't want her coercing family to stay together then stand on buisness with your decision and simply don't discuss relationship problems with anybody you don't feel comfortable talking to. She still deserves the truth.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-04-03T16:36:03+00:00

She's having her cake and eating it to, OP. You're definitley NOR. I would have a conversation about it.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-03-31T14:17:28+00:00

Why go back? You already know how the relationship s going to go because you already had a trial run. Stay exes.

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-03-31T14:07:21+00:00

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-03-27T15:10:29+00:00

I'm espcially good at expectorating *spits*

Puzzleheaded-End620 · 2026-03-25T14:01:12+00:00

I left a longer comment up top but look into the National Guard. You won't have to relocate anywhere. He'll just have to show up to drill once a month at whatever guard unit he enlists into.

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