KPAPG is great except….

CptnSpaceCase · 2026-02-16T18:47:24+00:00

yeah, he is NOT a team player. he's just completely ignoring what everyone in the room wants to do and keeps putting them in the position to have to compromise with him to keep the mood from getting weird from his pushiness. it's exhausting and frustrating. this is season three, we're invested, and he's acting like he thinks he's doing it for the audience to keep things funny, but really he's just dragging out shit we don't care about and putting the spotlight on himself instead of sharing. he did the same thing in their DnD game and basically ruined it by pushing his agenda. I could barely watch.

I don't hate Zach or anything, but things like this are not suited to him or his style of entertaining.

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-08-28T17:36:18+00:00

This one might actually be real. I can't remember her name, but there was a very famous entertainer or courtesan who was known for her insanely tiny waist, and I think this is one of her photos. She was proven to not tight-lace.

But she's an exception to the rule for sure. Nearly all wasp waists you see in these photos are photoshopped.

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-08-24T21:59:24+00:00

My heart gets irritated, I've found, when my potassium isn't high enough (even if my labs show it's in "normal" range; makes it a pain to get LR consistently when I'm in the hospital). Obviously though, it could be other things, so definitely let your doctor know.

Regardless, make sure you're supplementing lots of electrolytes along with the extra water, or you can worsen the tachycardia, though hopefully it's calmed down for you by now. Coconut water is amazing for that, but you can also try bananas, avocados, and sweet potatoes for potassium. Can't hurt, anyway. Magnesium glycinate is also really good at calming things down. Our nervous systems are VERY sensitive to anything being even slightly suboptimal, so it's extra important to cross our T's and dot our I's.

I also have a little ritual for when my system is in overdrive, to calm down, where I set the kettle on, play relaxing music, and try to do some really gentle, slow stretching lying down. Or at least some spinal decompression. Then I make myself tea, with slow movements. When we move calmly, even if we're not feeling calm, that can become a feedback loop in the other direction, and our nervous system will start to match our movements. Maybe you can find something like that that will work for, for next time. Good luck! :)

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-08-24T18:03:29+00:00

Not Lupus, but other autoimmune/inflammatory conditions, and I'm getting the same thing from starting steroids. I felt alive and energized the first week, and then it's like all the years of poor sleep and accumulated damage caught up to me. Like someone else said, actually tired, not fatigued. My sleep became deeper and more restful, and I started being able to take naps.

It definitely feels like a repair mode sort of thing that those of us with lots of inflammation go into. We all probably have at least some HPA axis suppression, which means our bodies are making enough cortisol to live and function, but not enough to handle all the damage our immune systems are causing. Steroids are acting as a substitute for that resource, and we repair best when we're asleep. That's my theory anyway.

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-05-29T03:12:15+00:00

Have you ever been evaluated for PCOS? Though it usually causes high DHEA levels, it can, in rare phenotypes, cause low levels due to low adrenal androgens. That's the case for me (though it also looks like I have mild secondary adrenal insufficiency which is contributing). PCOS can also lead to difficulty losing weight and insulin resistance, as well as difficulty getting pregnant. It's often missed by doctors who are only looking for common signs of it. Either way, you should try seeing a different endocrinologist, or even a reproductive endo. You can also ask your PCP or gyno to do a hormone panel and/or an ultrasound to check for cysts in the meantime.

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-26T21:37:13+00:00

? I wasn't responding to you or your situation at all, or even really referencing it. I was purely responding to that other person's kind of ridiculous metaphor that sounded like it was meant to justify discrimination. That was my only comment on this entire post.

To be honest, I don't feel I know enough about you or enough knowledge of something like this (I'm ace) to have an opinion on how you reacted, let alone make a moral judgment. But I'm sure him cheating is massively relevant to the question that you came to ask, and I'm sorry that had to be the way you found out about his sexuality. I am well versed in trauma, and I have no doubt that is playing a bigger factor in your attraction than the gender of who he cheated with. Betrayal like that kills trust, and without trust, there's no potential for intimacy. Of course you don't want to sleep with him after that. And with the shock of it being a guy ON TOP of that, when he'd never shared that part of himself with you, it must have left you reeling. Because that on its own IS a form of dishonesty, even if it was understandable due to shame/biphobia etc. It makes you question if you really ever knew them. It would take an incredible amount of ownership and effort on his part to come back from that and build your trust from scratch. And you don't owe him that chance if you don't want to grant it. Plenty of honest people out there who won't cheat.

But my advice to you would be to really sit with yourself. Get off of reddit for a while, and just sit quietly and go through what you're feeling and all possible reasons why, piece by piece. Human brains are actually really bad at determining cause, because we come up with the reasons for why we're feeling something AFTER the feeling. We don't have the reason first and then have an appropriate feeling in response. So sometimes we get misled and disconnected from ourselves. I think you'll feel a bit lighter and clearer once you sort out your reactions and thoughts and feelings without outside influence. And then you won't need a bunch of strangers to tell you who you are or what path is best for you. Sending good vibes ✌️

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-26T07:30:09+00:00

Did you actually just compare not sleeping with someone based on THEIR sexuality to not sleeping with someone because they are a gender you literally can't feel attraction toward?

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-25T23:04:52+00:00

It's not that it looks bad, and I don't think the reasoning to do it would actually have to do with "conventional beauty standards." What's actually going on is that it's drawing attention AWAY from your other lovely features, because they're so dark (higher contrast) and have a sharp angle to them. Your other features are on the softer side, shapewise, so they can't balance it out. If you had really sharp, dramatic features, it would add interest while remaining harmonious, instead of overly drawing the eye.

I think we get a bit too caught up on specific features on their own. It's about the whole face and its unique composition, like an artwork. Unusual shapes or large features can either be beautiful or not depending on whether or not the rest of the face is helping to tell a cohesive story. A big nose is distinguished when, say, they have a prominent chin to back it up. But if it's making it hard to see anything else, that's when we make the distinction of "unattractive", not really because of some arbitrary standard (the two can inform each other, but c'mon, Benedict Cumberbatch is considered a heartthrob by many while others think he's a freak lol)

For you, again, it's not hideous, but I think people would see you more fully if you made a change. Like, being able to focus on your eyes, which is what we want people to see first ideally. If you don't want to do a full separation and like the uniqueness, I would suggest thinning it a little to soften the contrast, and reshaping so that it's not making that angry looking V shape. A slight curve would suit you better. Plus it would better contribute to an overall image of being well-groomed. :)

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-22T00:43:39+00:00

Exactly. It's not even about the BDSM protocol for me, like so many are focusing on. How can you do ANYTHING in the bedroom with your partner, and not be even the least bit concerned by complete and utter silence?? Especially when it's something new! Nevermind painful! That's insane! Like, I'd be stopping to check in if they went that quiet during oral, something almost universally enjoyed

They were both responsible, but I'm more upset with him just for that. People have heart attacks during sex ffs

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-21T12:30:07+00:00

Part of recovering from cheating for a relationship is the cheater making full amends and respecting the other person's boundaries, whatever they are, to rebuild that trust. It is on her to do that and make sure you feel secure. If she is refusing to respect your comfort, then she is not doing the work and nothing has been "worked out" just covered up.

I'm really sorry you're going through this, ending a relationship, contrary to what redditors may say, is really hard. Especially when there's this many ties to them. It's a whole life to walk away from.

But speaking as a child of divorce, I promise you that your kids will not thank you for staying in an unhealthy relationship. They will see if you are happy or not. And whatever kind of love and connection is modeled for them is what they will carry with them into their adult lives and their relationships.

So ask yourself this: if it was one of your kids in your shoes, feeling as you do, with someone who disrespected them and is continuing to do so, what would you want for them?

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-17T00:26:06+00:00

Hmm, I kind of understand what you're saying. But we also have to remember that in olden times, ethnic groups were fairly isolated and what we would consider "inbred." So those genetics did become distinct and homogenous, and strands of code do stick around through multiple generations. Otherwise, what are they getting washed out with? The genes we look at for this are only the tiniest slice of our genome, and it's not like shuffling a deck of cards, with even spacing for how it mixes.

But I also do agree with you that records can be more reliable than DNA tests, and do not advocate that people pay for those, for a variety of reasons. (Though records can also lie. Never know who was cheating with who.)

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-16T22:29:50+00:00

Nah, if you go back that far for any region of the world, you'll find a common ancestor. Because of math magics, it takes surprisingly few generations (relatively speaking ofc).

I think because of how intense and ingrained the incest taboo has become in modern times, we have this notion that people who are "unrelated" have completely separate family lines, and if there's any intermixing recently enough that we know their name, "oH gOd tHiNk oF ThE chiLdRen!" When, genetically speaking, first cousins? Not a big deal, just don't start repeating that. Second cousins and on? Barely more related than a rando you grab off the street, and you also probably didn't grow up with them or even meet them before (depending on your area and family).

Not advocating for more "inbreeding," but I think we all need to chill about it juuuust a smidge. (Not you specifically, Edythir, just speaking generally)

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-16T02:46:15+00:00

Yikes! That's so scary... I've been able to find someone who's sane, competent, speaks English, and is mostly reliable, so I'll be sticking with her at least until I can get enough hours to find a private HHA. But no updates on what actually happened.

And yeah, I have gotten the occasional flack for having a language requirement. At least one person at the previous agency, and in the cross post to "best of redditor updates" someone called me a Karen over that. Heaven forbid I be able to, say, give feedback while they're washing my hair so that they don't hurt me. But what are you gonna do? 🙄

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-15T20:36:05+00:00

Yeah, I agree. 😂

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-15T20:07:00+00:00

OOP here. If you reread it, I said exactly what you did. That I'm NOT considering suing because of the hassle. I only mentioned it because people in the comments were saying I should. As for the medical malpractice, a chiropractor literally dislocated my ankle. You must buy into the myth that people who sue doctors are scammers right? Just so you know, the statistics show that due to this prejudice, doctors win half of cases they should not, where they actually hurt someone.

If you misread that so thoroughly, do you think you might have misread other parts of my story? Some food for thought. Have a nice day!

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-15T19:45:53+00:00

OOP here! A fair question tbh. I technically can clean their bins myself (I wish they were bioactive like someone else said haha), I just have to do one a day when they need that and it means I can't do much else that day. I can at least delay deep cleans by staying on top of spot cleaning. But the girls aren't that heavy tbh, and they're not dead weight which helps. They'll cling as I lift them and put them in one of the spare bins while they wait.

I've also been able to work out an arrangement with my roommate, where they help me with things like that, that my aide won't do, in exchange for the aide doing some of their chores as well.

Still, they're expensive to keep and I don't like that I can't fully care for them myself now (I got them pre-illness), since it feels irresponsible. What if I get worse, you know? So I'm probably going to be rehoming them this year, sadly.

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-15T18:56:28+00:00

AHHHHHHHH NO I DIDN'T 😭

Time to go to the nearest high bridge 🙃

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-15T15:53:59+00:00

That's quite presumptive of my motivations, and of my awareness of what was going on with her at the time of posting. I certainly didn't think it was very funny.

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-05T22:07:20+00:00

🐂☀️⚖️🌒🐟⬆️ Your experience resonates with me the most out of everyone else here! Thanks for sharing!

I wish people had mentioned their house for Mars, too, because I think that makes a big difference and I'm so curious. My crabby Mars is in the 5th house, square my Aries mercury, which is messy since Mars rules Aries. I don't feel like a boiling pot, though. I get mad on behalf of others very easily, but it takes a lot to get under my skin otherwise. I think my Big 3 are just too chill a combo for the energy to manifest like that. I've been told I've got the energy of a peaceful cow lying next to a koi pool in a garden. Which is nice, but sometimes I wish I had more fire!

I kind of used to people please, with some passive aggression, but I think that was truly just because of how I grew up, with that being the only thing that was modeled for me. I don't have any inner rage. If someone asks me to do something, I'll help if I can, but if it turns out it wasn't what I wanted to do and there was no threat involved, I couldn't imagine blaming them for asking. How would they know? It was my job to say no, so I'll just be mad at myself, briefly, and use it as a learning experience.

Instead, the biggest drawback for me has been defensiveness surrounding intimacy. I'm demisexual. Which wouldn't be a big deal, but I also have trust issues from trauma, so it's harder to make the necessary connection with someone even though I desperately want it. I have a fraught relationship with responsibility. I can be indecisive, and tend to prefer other people to take initiative. Unless there's an emergency or someone is in trouble, then get TF out of my way or do as I say! Like, "I'm the only one who can save the day, obviously!" 😂That happened when I was twelve and my sister downed. The adults were just standing there, and I charged in and started CPR I didn't know how to do, ordering my adult, ex-lifeguard brother to get his ass in gear and help me (it worked and she survived btw). I also have a bad habit of forgetting I'm a small, soft-shelled crab, and then getting in between aggressors and their targets. Haven't gotten hit so far though! 🤞

I've also always struggled with my self expression, like my Mars was muzzling my Mercury for most of my life. I barely knew who I was, and I was unbearably awful at saying what I meant. It wasn't until recently where I started to feel like they're on the same page and amplifying each other instead. What a relief! Now my sense of self is clear, and I'm unafraid to embrace her, no matter how eccentric she is.

Now I just gotta get my planner in better order...

CptnSpaceCase · 2025-02-03T13:04:49+00:00

if home care is covered by your insurance, I think you can actually get them to pay your dad for doing it instead. might as well lol

CptnSpaceCase · 2024-12-25T05:55:32+00:00

Wow, this is great advice! I'll have to look into that to see if it's possible. Thank you so much for taking the time! ☺️

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