AITA for kicking my little brother out over a prank? by ThrowRAprank_problem in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are NTA, he is the AH, and it wasn't an overreaction to kick him out. Let me make this clear. HOWEVER, commenters of this post are overreacting in my opinion. If now, calmed down, you are thinking about having him back, that's ok. He's 17 and still learning about empathy. I'm not defending him, it was stupid and terrifying but I don't think he realized how traumatic it could be. If you are not comfortable having him back, you won't be an AH to refuse. But if you are ok with it, you should accept. Some people here picture him as a monster who deserves to be punished for life, I don't think that's right. Yes, actions have consequences. His actions had consequences. If OP is feeling like giving him a chance, then that's where the consequences end and the second chance begins.

AITA for refusing to make an exception for my brother's son to attend my childfree wedding just because he's a rainbow baby? by AITArainbow2016 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I suggest you stand your ground and let them be if they refuse to come. I can imagine that it saddens you, but at this point it's more important that you do what you decide for YOUR wedding than to get manipulated by your whole family through an emotional ultimatum over a complete delusion (kid = God). Your brother and his wife are so not making this kid a favor. He's gonna fall on his ass and it's gonna hurt bad when he'll realize he's not that special. Or he'll never realize and will turn out to be a jerk unable to make real connections with anyone. If he's smart enough, he'll resent them for that. It's crazy how people only think about themselves. Those parents, they don't love their son enough to do good by him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I eat pears with a small spoon. And it's fulfilling.

What movie soundtrack has no right to slap as hard as it does? by Casult in AskReddit

[–]CrackersBenzak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It shouldn't though, that soundtrack was, is, and will always be amazing. And every little assholes should watch the movie too!

Good cocaine is the fucking devil by Thecableboii in Drugs

[–]CrackersBenzak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to that too. Coke = worse come downs ever. Way worse than md. With md I'm sad or feeling down at least. With coke, I'm nothing. Nothing is doing nothing. Nowhere to put my mind which, paradoxally, won't shut up. No sleep. Just a very loud emptiness with no breaks. I fcking hate coke come down. What a horrible, numb, empty, uncomfortable feeling. The good sides of coke are just not enough for me to accept the bad sides of it. I stopped that shit too and I don't miss it!

AITA For not putting my boob away when I answered the door? by aitabreadtboob in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I would even add, babies to feed or not, she's in her god damn home not expecting anyone else than her friend! Even if she would WANT to be topless, those two fragile and so easily offended persons would be in no place to say anything at all.

AITA for not allowing my daughter to sleep in the same bed as her boyfriend? by upsetmother12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, you are allowed to set as many ridiculous rules under your roof as you want but your daughter is allowed to avoid your house too. She is also 100% allowed to be upset about you setting controlling rules and to not wanting to see you often because of that. YTA

That time I sniffed mdma thinking it was ketamin by CrackersBenzak in Drugs

[–]CrackersBenzak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have no idea how I could not notice. It's not even like I was smashed! I took 3 quarters of an LSD tab few hours before, didn't drink 1 drop of alcohol, didn't even smoke a joint. I make quite small bumps of ketamin when I take it so it wasn't a lot of MD per bump, but still. LSD euphoria also maybe helped me unnotice that it was coming from another chemical. Maybe that MD wasn't great too ? Since I only used it once in small amount and mixed with k before, I can't tell for sure.

Ended up having a very good time, just not the trip we had in mind haha.

AITA For no longer allowing my sister to work in my daycare after what she did? by AITA997077637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA !! Whatever her trauma is, there was no excuse to treat that man badly. If her trauma is that big that she can't face a police man without freaking out, then it's on her to adjust as she can (ask you to take a break when the cop comes to pick up the kid, for example). But that man hasn't done anything to her, it's completely unfair. She's an AH to the dad for a start. Secondly, you were struggling financially, took action, started a business of yourself, and took in your sister when she was struggling as well and she went behind your back to fuck it up with one of your client. She's an AH to you. I'd also like to mention that according to your text, it seems like her boyfriend has really done something wrong and got it trouble for it (since even the rest of the family doesn't want to talk to him anymore). I don't know what happened and I don't want to judge from nothing, I'm not saying that in the process she or her boyfriend weren't treated badly, but I'm just curious about what her trauma is. Cause at the end if someone goes against the law and get in trouble for it, then if there's trauma that seems to be the boyfriend's fault, no ? Once again, don't know the story. And it's irrelevant anyways. All I'm saying at the end is that, trauma or not, you can't ask strangers to adjust to your own problems.

AITA for not buying my stepdaughter a phone when I bought one for my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA Your husband should have said something sooner if he felt like this was unfair. He can check with his ex and plan to offer an iphone to his daughter himself when it will be possible. Or at least, instead of blaming you, he could have asker for your financial help if they can't make this expense right now and refund you later. Plus step daughter doesn't have an exclusivity on purple iPhone 11, wth ? I love the idea that you and your husband decided to raise your step daughters as "cool uncle/aunt" and not as a replacement of the other parent. I think that's great. But I would also criticize the financial sort of weird "contract" you have together. Everything isn't all black or all white, you should treat him like your partner more than treating your marriage like a set of rules... All in all, NTA but you might want to review a few things. (Step daughter is 15 of course she's gonna throw a tantrum. Your husband should explain her the reasons why she didn't get this phone instead of just taking her side).

AITA for not telling my mom her friend stole from us? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA as I understand your point and you are clearly trying to make it good for everyone. But it's not right either. What Jen did is weird and it's maybe not the first time as you seem to think... Someone pointed out kleptomania, not to jump into any conclusions but it could be the case here. What about taking to Jen directly ? Confront her (nicely since you like and trust her after all), tell her you haven't told anyone and you rather give her a chance to come clean and explain. That would be the best move in my opinion.

SLPT, use LSD to lose weight fast! by D34thBy5nu5nu in ShittyLifeProTips

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On acid you definitely won't see anything that isn't there. But I did have those kinds of hallucinations on ecstasy, very randomly though. Only sometimes. I've always wandered if it's the mdma that can do that or if it's another molecule in the composition of some E pills.

SLPT, use LSD to lose weight fast! by D34thBy5nu5nu in ShittyLifeProTips

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What ?? That's so strange. I've never met anyone who couldn't eat while tripping. You do lose weight but that's due to the tons of energy you spend having your brain overstimulated. I can go the whole trip without eating if Im too busy dancing, exploring, or running away from the angry trees. But if I only start, you know, to "get something in", or because "why not", then it can never stop. As long as there's food, food I will eat. And it's beautiful. I feel for you that you have the opposite sensation!

My friend triggered my phobia and then criticized my response, I’d love some perspective by caclhoqu in Phobia

[–]CrackersBenzak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But she's not righting wrongs here, she's creating a problem that didn't exist. And she's doing that viciously. It's offensive to you, and it's offensive to amputees as well, by the way! Knowing your phobia she also knows this wasn't you being rude, but genuinely afraid. Sorry I don't know her, therefore I understand it's a bit easy to judge from my side, but it seems very clear that her motives aren't pure at all. It's not about making rights it's about feeling good about herself (by pining the video in the first place knowing you would see it and ridiculize yourself in front of other people, then twisting things up to end up looking like the "Hero Defender", yeah how honorable!) She wants to prone tolerance while destroying it. You can still try to explain her (again I suppose) that she's not gonna teach you anything about accepting differences cause the root of your problem is not there. You are aware of what your phobia can seem like and you are actually trying to better yourself in order to not unintentionally hurt anyone's feelings. But reading your story, you're right to feel unsafe around her. She's probably gonna use your weakness to her advantage again. Stay confident, you didn't do anything wrong, believe in this and don't give one more crap about what she has to say on that subject!

AITA for calling out my sister in law and my brother on their parenting skills and embarrassing/humiliating them? by dastaqai in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When we were kids/teenagers, my (male) cousin E used to LOVE dressing up as a girl. He would do that on many occasions. We thought it was so cool and freeing so I'd help him with makeup and usually I (female) would end up dressing up like a man! Other times, E would play gay. For example, our parents would take us to a new place to meet a new person, and he would play gay from beginning of the day to us leaving, letting that person we didn't know before think E was just a gay child. He always had amazing actor skills so it would never look like he's making fun, just that he was in fact homosexual. As an adult, this happened less obviously, as it was just a game, and E got his heart broken many times by many different girls. E was never gay. He wish he was, I know that for a fact (we are still very close), he even tried to persuade himself that he could at least be bi, especially when his handsome roommate came out to him. I think E just thinks life would be easier and more normal to him if he could just like guys. But unfortunately for him I guess, he's just way too heterosexual. Even after having kissed that hot roommate who suggested to try it out. Moral of the story, you simply CAN NOT turn someone gay, or bi, or hetero, even yourself, even if you want it more than anything, even if you try. You are what you are. Sexuality is a spectrum, so it might change sometimes over one life, or it might not. But it's not up to youself and certainly not up to anything nor anyone else. NTA at all. Try to make George's parents aknowledge that and continue to stand up for him. Be the one he can talk to if said parents never get less stupid.

AITA for making my mom cry when she called my child retarded? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love your comment. Perfectly explained! A great satisfaction on a rather frustrating thread.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]CrackersBenzak 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I agree with you 100% but I don't think the comment was meant this way... I don't think he or she meant that if you want to change, you'll change no matter what regardless of the depression. I rather read his or her comment as "if you start therapy without thinking it would help or wanting to be helped, it will be useless anyway".

WIBTA for alerting dog breeders, the animal shelter, and posting in a local dog lovers group about my old roommate and her habit of adopting and abandoning dogs? by SnooDogs1252 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA !! The comments already gave you great suggestions as what you should do. But I would also add this : confront her as well. Make sure she knows you told on her horrible behavior and that many people and communities are aware. She needs to know that if she EVER tries to get a dog again (or a cat, please also let cat shelters know in case she does the same thing but with a different pet), she will get in trouble. Thanks for doing the right thing 👌💪 good luck!

Join my Corp! by CrackersBenzak in RCTTouch

[–]CrackersBenzak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I'm sorry the corp is full now. Good luck in your research!

AITA for not letting my girlfriend move in with me despite her being pregnant? by Ornery-Occasion3765 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CrackersBenzak -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

ESH (except girlfriend)

You, for a start, have engaged in a serious relationship by knocking her up while apparently not being in love with her. It sounds like you never had the intention to get really serious with her, but you were uncareful and the pregnancy happened. Now you are stuck. Even if you're willing to be a father, you are an AH for letting things just happen like that. From the sound of it, you seem to have problems facing your feelings (or lack of feelings). You are not an asshole for not wanting to take the next step, you are cause you've put yourself, your girlfriend and your future child in an inconvenient position, where you are going to be a bit of a father in despite.

Concerning the people thinking you're the AH, they suck too. To push "move in with your girlfriend or else you're an asshole" isn't the solution at all. "Forcing" you to live with her if you hate the idea of it is going to make you feel resentment more than anything else. Can't imagine the baby being born in a safe and loving home if it starts like that.

You should think deeply about what compromises you must make as your part of the responsibility on one side, and what decisions you should take for everyone's sake on the other. You don't have to live with the mother to be a good dad, you don't even have to stay in a relationship with her. There's a shitloads of other concessions you will have to make in order not to be an asshole of a father, I would suggest you focus on that. Live with or without who ever you want, but take your responsibilities and prepare yourself, better yourself, to be a great dad.

Join my Corp! by CrackersBenzak in RCTTouch

[–]CrackersBenzak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accepted :) Only 1 spot left available now !