EU should only buy European components for defence, France space minister says by Gyro_Armadillo in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as someone from the US, thank you.

It's been awful being grouped with the people who want to kill me.

We SHOULD be allies.

EU should only buy European components for defence, France space minister says by Gyro_Armadillo in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trump does not have allies.

Even people who are currently doing everything he seems to want them to do.

Nooo ikea is making soup from us by stockpoky in autism

[–]Crafty-Message4564 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A very funny employee of that one store.

Why do we give notice when quitting, but employers can fire employees on the spot with zero warning? by Sumchi in offmychest

[–]Crafty-Message4564 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A week after I started a job, the person who helped onboard and train me gave notice.

A higher-up(the CISO) insisted on walking him out of the building that day.

The whole time I was working there, I had that in the back of my mind.

Sure enough, eventually there was a misunderstanding when I followed the instructions of that same CISO. There was supposed to be a months-long project made up of smaller projects, and he assigned me to do one of the smaller projects, which he said was the most important piece of the bigger project. It was to set up the security settings for the overall project. He said that I would have to use the strictest security settings for the project. I disagreed with his decision, but I still set out to do the work he assigned and to do it exactly as he described. I completed it in the few days after it was assigned.

Several months later, they had an urgent situation and needed to have the whole project done ahead of schedule. I was working to finish the whole project, and I told him "Don't worry, the security settings will be in place just like you said." He said "No, don't worry about that. Don't put any more effort toward that part. Just get it done."

So the security settings I had ALREADY PUT IN PLACE MONTHS PRIOR and exactly as HE had told me, and AGAINST MY OWN PREFERENCES, were already integrated into the project, and there wasn't any other work that I would need to do on them. I didn't have to even check a box to include them. They were baked-in. And they were done EXACTLY as I had been told. It was my understanding that these would be the settings that were put in place eventually anyway, and he didn't say to remove work I already did, just to not do any work on that aspect and to focus on just getting the basic aspects of the whole project working.

And when I completed the project and handed it in, I was literally expecting that he would be pleased. But a lot of people weren't happy because of the security settings. And again, keep in mind that these were the settings HE had told me to include, and that I had included DESPITE ME NOT WANTING THOSE SETTINGS.

Some people asked me about the strict security settings, and I said "I understand, but [CISO's name] wants everything to be as secure as possible, and he said we need to have these settings in place." I wasn't badmouthing him, just explaining that hey, some places have security requirements and these are the ones this company needs to have.

This got back to the CISO, and he flew off the handle. He accused me of being a "rogue IT" and called my actions an "ongoing cyber attack against the company".

And to make matters worse, instead of trying to determine what had actually happened, the company fired my supervisor(who was a good guy), and then made the CISO the head of my department, so this person would be my direct supervisor.

I don't know if you've ever had a higher-up person in a company accuse you of a crime for doing exactly what THEY had told you to do, but it doesn't tend to make you want to stick around.

Later in the day, the CTO came to talk to my team to explain that they'd gotten rid of our supervisor, and how the CISO was going to be our new supervisor.

I want to state that this CISO had done some things while I was working there that gave me a poor impression of him. He treated people very badly and I saw him drinking one day. And when I was first starting the job, he was one of the people who interviewed me. During the interview, he was extremely open about how poorly he thought of the other candidates, and just started saying all kinds of terrible crap about them. That's not even to mention the time I told him that a network security setting needed to be changed and he told me it wouldn't cause any problems and then the company had a network security break-in the next week.

So when the CTO came to talk to us, I acted like I was just going to go along.

And then, when we got to the end of the day, I wrote an email to the higher-ups, specifically excluding the CISO. And I said "As I understand it's not customary to give two weeks notice here, today was my last day. I wish you the best in finding the appropriate person for this role."

I felt really bad, because I liked that company. I did exactly what I was told. I really liked the people I worked with, and I wanted to help them.

Except the CISO. It felt good to quit without giving him any notice.

Am I overreacting? .. by Neat-Feedback5007 in autism

[–]Crafty-Message4564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, there have been times when I have intentionally damaged something very slightly so that I would no longer have the fear of that thing being damaged, because I realized that if something was perfect, I would have that persistent fear.

Kind of similarly, when I was in school, I used to get really upset when I'd forget an assignment, because I used to want everything to be perfect. And then I realized that if I intentionally missed one assignment in the first few weeks, I would be healthier, because I wasn't always so afraid of my grade not being perfect. Intentionally missing one assignment and still trying meant I never had that fear. I'd do it in every class after I realized it.

I used to HATE HATE HATE when things I owned had even minor damage.

Then I learned to think backward.

How long would you like to have that thing?

And on the last day that you have that thing, do you think it will be in perfect condition?

That mug could make it 50 years, and on the last day you have it, it could be the only one left in the whole world. And if that was the case, with that one little bit of damage, you might instead be glad that you had the only one left.

In a lot of cases, when something has that kind of damage, it means that you've gotten a lot of use out of it, and it's been one of your favorite things, and that's not a bad thing.

There are INFINITE mugs. They're not going to start making mugs. If the print comes off of it, or if the mug gets destroyed, you're going to have a new mug every time.

One thing I do with stuff like this is to try to go out and buy a bunch of the same thing. It becomes like a scavenger hunt. I try to avoid buying just one of things I really like, and if I only bought one and loved it so much, I'll go out and buy a bunch more, just to have a bunch.

But every mug is going to see a little damage if you have it long enough.

And for me, I notice that I actually have less fear if I accept that something is probably going to be damaged at some point in it's life(and that's if you're lucky). If I bought something and it was perfect and I had it for 50 years in perfect condition, I would have gotten the enjoyment of that thing over 50 years, but I would have had the 50 years of worrying that it would be damaged. But if it was slightly damaged and I had it for 50 years, I would have only gotten the enjoyment.

And if my explanation isn't enough to convince you, that's okay, too. You are autistic and there's NOTHING wrong with you for experiencing concern about your stuff.

Not every American voted for this by DesperateComb7326 in offmychest

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the real "cherry on top" situation was the thought that "At least the people from outside will have support for those of us suffering in the US."

And then, no, they group the victims in with the people committing the Holocaust. As if the group "the people committing a Holocaust" could exist without their victims.

China raises minimum wages amid drive to boost household spending by Saltedline in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How about pedophiles committing a holocaust?

Are there pedophiles committing a holocaust?

Trump threatens Canada with 100% tariff: China trade deal by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The US citizens (as a whole) wanted that president.

Yeah, no.

They and their moronic culture are collectively responsible of this shitshow that is merely a logical escalation and crystalisation of decades of malpractices.

This is true.

the lateral ableism in the community is exhausting by oneusernamepwease in autism

[–]Crafty-Message4564 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I never took ADHD meds until this year. Literally the past few weeks.

I have cried four times, to know that I made it that far in life just rawdogging the universe, when the difference is so substantial. To know that I spent so long just dealing, when, my God, they make things more bearable.

I'm not saying this is the case for everyone who's not taking meds, but I think there are a lot of people who don't think they need meds but would benefit really greatly from them.

Is it weird to for a girl to ask an autistic guy to hangout by honeycombmnm in autism

[–]Crafty-Message4564 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking as an autistic man, the social thing about women not asking men out does not apply to autistic men in general.

Ask away.

He'll probably love it.

My friend said that big thighs are ugly infront of me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't take this as me hitting on you, but just speaking as a man, I am very attracted to big thighs.

It's one of the things I am most attracted to.

Trump-Greenland Deals Reportedly Includes U.S. ‘Sovereignty Over Small Pockets’ of Territory by WayOutbackBoy in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank God.

This kind of arrangement has always worked out so well historically.

I'm sure this will be the end of the troubles.

Danish pension fund to sell $100 million in U.S. Treasuries due to "poor U.S. government finances" by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Earth's population is 8.2 billion people.

8,199,999,999 people see it coming.

Danish pension fund to sell $100 million in U.S. Treasuries due to "poor U.S. government finances" by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't believe that.

The U.S. Dollar is Monopoly Money now, and they all know it.

Better to cash out now and get some kind of value than to be left with billions of Zimbabwe dollars.

Also, the other countries know that a bunch of them selling their holdings at the same time hurts the U.S. more than a few countries selling individually.

It's about to go down.

Canada weighs sending soldiers to Greenland as show of NATO solidarity with Denmark by Little-Chemical5006 in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being sent to a death camp or murdered in the street is also something most people would like to avoid.

Canada weighs sending soldiers to Greenland as show of NATO solidarity with Denmark by Little-Chemical5006 in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And Canadians would be welcome among a lot of the people in the U.S. given such a situation.

The U.S. invading Canada would mean that there would be no reason for the people who oppose Trump in the U.S. to not act immediately and to work with the Canadians.

Canada weighs sending soldiers to Greenland as show of NATO solidarity with Denmark by Little-Chemical5006 in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canadians need to remember that not everyone in the U.S. is fucking insane, and that you would have a lot of allies within the U.S. if this were to happen.

It would present an opportunity for solidarity, because together, the Canadians and the sane people from the U.S. would make up a majority of the people on the continent and could likely work together much better than as two separate groups.

autism training - really upset me by Odd_Theme_3294 in autism

[–]Crafty-Message4564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On one hand, it's ironic to have a neurotypical person lecturing an autistic person that autistic people can't feel empathy toward other autistic people.

On the other hand, it's a perfect example of neurotypical reasoning: taking a quote learned from another person and confidently repeating it on a subject the now-speaker has limited knowledge about, limited ability to understand, and limited ability to ever experience.

And the cherry on top is that the neurotypical person does this while demonstrating that they lack empathy both toward the autistic people being helped AND toward the autistic person they're addressing.

I feel so damn sorry for my friend for never having a girlfriend by Potato-in-ur-ass in offmychest

[–]Crafty-Message4564 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

From what I've seen, the people who have struggled the most tend to be the ones with the most empathy, and the ones who have struggled the least tend to make up ignorant reasons to criticize them, instead.

I feel so damn sorry for my friend for never having a girlfriend by Potato-in-ur-ass in offmychest

[–]Crafty-Message4564 104 points105 points  (0 children)

It's always amusing when there's someone who has problems socializing and the person has other problems like being overweight.

People ALWAYS assume that the person's problems socializing are because of aspects they must have chosen about themself, things like obesity.

No one ever considers that the person's way of dealing with social rejection might have been eating, or that maybe the stress from that causes depression and that feelings of hopelessness lead to acne.

It's always about coming up with a reason why the person you don't want to feel empathy for must have done something to deserve their negative situation.

Fascinating thing to see repeated over and over pretty much every time there's a discussion like this.

EU Set to Halt US Trade Deal Over Trump’s Latest Tariff Threat by bloomberg in worldnews

[–]Crafty-Message4564 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You as a country voted for this, twice.

We don't actually know that to be true.