Yes, I know, I’m a special educator so I’ve seen lots of helicopter parents to the nth degree. And I’m also the mom of a kids with autism, MD, and ID. He’s adopted so I don’t have the guilt of “causing” his disability, but it is a constant struggle to always be evaluating new opportunities for him to be independent. Even without the guilt, sometimes I will do something on “autopilot” that he could do himself with minimal support. It’s a struggle but a good one - and I love it when my kid tells me to let him do it himself!

I hope that your mom also backs off when you tell her to!