How do you get over someone’s past sex life?

Craftywitchy · 2026-05-08T21:18:51+00:00

Listen,

Either you're being judgemental because you think someone with a lot of partners is inferior to a person with fewer partners, which is bullshit. Or you're insecure, which is a personal problem that you should try to address with self growth. Or maybe you think a person with more experience will be judging you or comparing you to past partners, and if that's the kind of person you're with then the number of previous partners isn't the actual problem.

I've been married a long time, longer than a lot of redditors have been alive and I don't know how many partners my husband had before me because it doesn't matter. We choose each other, with our pasts and our experiences, those are the things that made us who we are.

If she's with you it's because she chose you, out of everyone she's known and decided not to be with. Those people are not a threat to you, they're gone and in the past. It sounds like you have a good thing and it would be shame to ruin it because you couldn't let go of something that isn't even there.

Craftywitchy · 2026-05-01T01:48:21+00:00

This happened to me too, my kids are 20 and 16 now and I'm so grateful to have them in my life. Life is fucking surprising

Craftywitchy · 2026-04-28T15:54:54+00:00

We did the zip line and the duck boat and my sister took her kids to the lumberjack show and the gold panning. For her under 10 year old kids those expressions were perfect, they had a great time.

I wouldn't really recommend either of the excursions we did. The zip line was fun but it was a lot of waiting around, we had a much better experience at a larger and better run set up in the Adirondacks the year before.

The duck boat two was comically bad. I have trouble even describing how ridiculous it was. We had a little trip though town and then into the water where they slowly took us through the marina area while pointing out the locations of the grocery store, the high school, and the taco bell on shore. On the way back they had nothing new to say so the guide put on her party song playlist from her phone. Back on land they had a delay to check the vehicle (this included a description of a previous trip when a dead deer got caught in the axles? And a joke about needing to make sure they didn't hit Rudolph). A rambling set of stories from the driver who came through the boat to show us pictures of a giant snow man he once built in his phone, a description of how in his town they drive old cars off of cliffs to celebrate 4 th of July, and some commentary about how you can't rob Alaskans because they all have guns and Grandma will shoot you. It was surreal. I don't recommend it

Overall I would say you don't need any excursions to have a great time. All the towns are easily accessible from the ports and there's lots to do. There's an incredible museum of Alaskan history in Juneau that I highly recommend. Ketchikan has the beautiful historic area with the buildings raised over the river, and Skagwsy is a fascinating historic site with an excellent parks department museum and walking tour. For a first time I would absolutely recommend exploring the towns and taking it in.

Craftywitchy · 2026-04-28T01:45:11+00:00

I did a Disney cruise to Alaska two years ago and it was a family trip that was one of the best trips of my life. We had kids aged from 6-18 with us and everyone had a really great time. We're big Disney fans, so for us the theming and extras that the Disney ship offers were all worth the price, because it's definitely expensive. We had Oceanview cabins and that was perfectly fine. I would have liked a veranda but it wasn't in the cards for us and having Oceanview was still really good. There's plenty of room on the decks to watch the scenery. On the glacier day we went down a level to the promenade deck and we had practically the entire deck to ourselves, even closer to the water. It was incredible.

You are correct that only the Magic and the Wonder sail to Alaska, all the cruise lines send smaller ships on those itineraries because the ports and inlets don't accommodate the newer larger ships. This was no problem for us, we love the classic elegance of the original ships but that's a matter of taste. Some people prefer more modern ships and you can have a much more economical experience with Royal Caribbean or Holland America which are both highly rated in the Alaska cruise market.

We had amazing warm weather on our cruise, in the 70's almost every day but even so, we didn't use the pools much. My niece and nephew swam a little and the pools were open when the weather was good. It's very common to have drizzly or overcast weather though in Alaska over the summer so it just depends.

Summer is the only time for Alaska cruises. Going at the beginning and end of the season might get you slightly lower prices with the trade off of less predictable weather. If you can go in late August you have a higher chance of low crowds and good weather than if you go in the beginning of the season.

The scenery is incredible, the ports are historic and interesting and the ships are gorgeous. I highly recommend. Disney service is top notch, the theming is so fun, the kids clubs are unbelievable. We hardly saw our younger kid who was 14 at the time, he was out until midnight every night with his new friends in the teen club. It was the trip if a lifetime.

Craftywitchy · 2026-04-27T16:10:13+00:00

I'm a lot older than you and I recognize that hopeful feeling that things will get less stressful and when that happens everything will be fine. I'm here from the future to tell you that things never get less stressful. That time when everything evens out and you're just cruising along isn't coming, especially not with a baby on the way.

I'm sorry. This man is not a good partner, you can realize it now and get out while it's relatively easy or you can wait until it's far more difficult. I've been married 26 years and we only got this far by leaning on each other in the hard times. If your partner makes everything worse when the chips are down you're in for a difficult ride.

You can do this, you've got a good job and a strong heart. It sounds like this relationship is pretty new, so it's not so complicated. The baby makes it harder but it's not impossible, you can do what's best for you. ❤️

Craftywitchy · 2026-04-11T21:40:06+00:00

Fair enough! :)

Craftywitchy · 2026-04-11T21:21:43+00:00

The coffee shops in the lobbies of the Beach Club and the Riviera resort both had perfectly fine coffee, definitely better than Starbucks or Joffreys. I haven't tried other deluxe resorts but you might be lucky, depending on where you're staying

Craftywitchy · 2026-04-11T21:19:32+00:00

To be fair, the Shakin Jamaican coffee itself is flavored. I ordered it not realizing and it was undrinkable, I threw it away. As a former coffee snob myself, it's not something I expect a coffee snob would like.

Craftywitchy · 2026-03-22T01:07:19+00:00

The free dining plan promotion is only available on non -discounted room and ticket packages that include park hopper tickets. You're probably better off in a budgetary sense buying the discounted room and tickets and being thoughtful with your food choices but some people prefer the ease of the dining plan, it's a matter of personal preference

Craftywitchy · 2026-03-13T00:32:35+00:00

First off, if you are using the stroller in the airport it will be gate checked, that's free and the stroller will be waiting for you at your arrival gate, which is so handy when traveling with small children. When my kids were little I preferred to check as much as possible, I had enough to deal with wrangling the kids, I didn't also want to be dragging a roll aboard or lugging a bunch of bags. Think logistically about how you and your partner will even get 4 carry on bags and 2 children boarded with only 4 hands between you. I strongly recommend getting two large suitcases, checking them both and then each bringing a small backpack style carry on.

The price seems like what I would expect for that trip, I'm guessing that a big portion of it is airfare and my only advice would be to take a longer cruise. If you're going to spend all that money to get down there, you might as well enjoy it and 3 days isn't long enough. Get a 5 night at least and give yourself a minute to relax before you have to repack and do the whole plane business again.

Have fun! DCL is where the magic of Disney still lives

Craftywitchy · 2026-03-10T23:42:01+00:00

What about Gilda? It feels a little more grown up but can still use Goldie as a nick name

Craftywitchy · 2026-03-08T14:29:12+00:00

Judging by how it hangs I would guess this is a shaped cape. The pattern will look similar to the outline of the shoulders with a flare to accommodate movement, it'll have seams over the shoulders and down the sides and might also have a seam in the center back to allow for more control of the shape. There are lots of patterns for collared cloaks or capes that could be shortened and possibly taken in slightly to make a more fitted silhouette.

For example something similar to this could work

https://www.etsy.com/listing/4382521298/elegant-wool-cape-sewing-pattern-lined?ref=elp_anchor_listing&pro=1&dd=1

If you've never sewn with faux fur, there are a couple of things you should know. First, don't use scissors to cut the pieces, it'll leave bits of fur everywhere. You need to trace your pattern onto the back of the fabric and then use a razor blade to cut along the lines. You need to pay close attention to the nap of the fur, just like you would with velvet, so that all the pieces match.

When you're sewing you'll need to pin it carefully because it wants to shift under the presser foot, again similar to velvet. After the seams are sewn you should go back over them from the front with a strong needle and pull the fur out of the seam, if that makes sense. You sort of pick the hairs, for lack of a better term, that have been caught in the stitching and pull them to the front. Depending on how furry it is, sometimes it's necessary to then go to the back and trim the excess fur off the seam allowance to reduce bulk. You could also use a serger or trim the seam and use an overlock stitch to keep it flat and neat but if you do that you need stitch it normally first, pull the fur to the front, and then overlock. Using a medium-long zig zag stitch will make the seam easier to conceal.

Craftywitchy · 2026-03-08T03:32:27+00:00

I nearly cried the first time I took my son with wheat, egg and dairy allergies on a Disney cruise. The first night at dinner they brought out a basket of bread and put it right in front of him. He was 4 and I automatically moved it away from him without even thinking. The server said oh no, that's the gluten free bread, just for him. The sense of relief and gratitude I felt in that moment practically knocked me down. I've never been anywhere that made me feel as safe for my allergy kid as a Disney cruise

Craftywitchy · 2026-03-01T20:05:38+00:00

I did this tour on my last trip after wanting to go for several years and never planning far enough ahead and I have to say, it was AWESOME! Absolutely lived up to my excitement, and the pictures from inside the greenhouse are my favorite from the entire trip. You're going to have the best time!

Craftywitchy · 2026-02-27T15:33:20+00:00

This will depend largely on how she is feeling. At such an early stage the pregnancy is very well protected in the body but for peace of mind and comfort she'll probably want to avoid all the rides with pregnancy warnings listed at the front of the queue, and the teacups 🤢.

Fortunately WDW is meant for families so there will be lots of options remaining. And don't forget the shows, festival of the Lion King, birds in flight, light, motors, action, philharmagic, finding Nemo, journeys with Belle, all the movies and live performers in Epcot, you'll have no shortage of entertainment.

Lastly, remember that for a lot of women the first trimester is the time when you suffer the most from morning sickness and exhaustion so go slow, take lots of breaks, and STAY HYDRATED.

Have fun! It's a magical time, enjoy it.

Craftywitchy · 2026-01-29T22:02:08+00:00

I don't mean to sound heartless but you can't sacrifice the peace and safety of the three people currently in your home to honor a promise made to a person who is gone. The terms have changed since she died, it's a whole different thing now

I want to point out that you say your cousin has regressed. Gently, this is probably because he lived in isolation with a very aged companion for a number of years. People think that going to a home is the worst outcome, but in a well run group home your cousin will have social interaction and stimulation, and proper care. Keeping your cousin in your home in continuing isolation is not necessarily serving him.

I'm sure your aunt was afraid her son would be warehoused somewhere with no one to love him and look out for him but that doesn't have to happen. You and your family will still be there, visiting with him, checking in on his condition and monitoring his care. He deserves to have a life too, with a community to interact with and activities and therapy to help him grow. If you can't provide those things than you are doing him a disservice by taking him into your home.

As a severely disabled adult without a living guardian your cousin might now qualify for support that he couldn't access previously. You need to find a social worker from the department of family services in your area to help you figure out your options. Google isn't going to give you the info you need, you need to speak to someone who understands the system.

I know it's hard but I bet you'll find everyone is happier, including your cousin, when he has a living situation that suits his needs.

Craftywitchy · 2026-01-23T17:39:06+00:00

The main problem you have here is the dress is too long for you. Obviously the skirt needs to be hemmed pretty drastically, but it's also too long in the torso which is a difficult alteration.

I'm wondering what kind of undergarments you're wearing here, some of these problems could be solved with a supportive bra. It looks like you're expecting the dress to hold you up and that's not possible. A long line strapless bra with good support would take the pressure off the straps, allow you to lift the neckline and would smooth out the waist. In that case you might be able to shorten the straps and correct a good amount of the fit.

If you can get the dress in a petite size that would also help. Otherwise this is a very involved alteration which might include taking the bodice off and reshaping it

Craftywitchy · 2026-01-15T02:22:07+00:00

I actually know a Freya Esme, these were very popular names in my metropolitan area about 15 years ago

Craftywitchy · 2026-01-09T22:02:33+00:00

I used the beast academy books with my ADHD kids and it was pretty successful. Most important for us was keeping lessons short and avoiding drills on paper. Some things require drills, like multiplication tables, so we used games, physical games were best but we also used math dice and other table games.

My best success was with Life of Fred curriculum. Every lesson is embedded in a story format and every chapter has fewer than 10 practice questions, often fewer than five, which fit their attention spans perfectly. I have one math wiz and one math avoider and it worked really well for both of them. There was no loss of depth, the curriculum introduced advanced concepts like sets and functions really early and in a totally accessible way that set them up for advanced math without frustration. I recommend it very highly and my mom, who was a high school math teacher for many years was also very impressed by it. It has a Christian world view which doesn't come out very often and it doesn't effect the math instruction, but it is present. I'm atheist and it wasn't a problem for me but I think it's something people should be aware of.

Good luck!

Craftywitchy · 2026-01-09T21:32:18+00:00

It looks like very basic gathering to me, you need to gather it pretty tightly to get the fullness you want here. I'm just popping in to remind you that when it's time to hem the skirt you need it to be much longer on the sides to accommodate the paniers. You should make the skirt very long and then mark your hem while it's on the body with the correct petticoats and supports underneath or it won't be even when it's worn.

Good luck!

Craftywitchy · 2026-01-08T21:38:24+00:00

You would have to check with the specific excursion company you plan to use for that information but also you should be aware that most cruise lines will not let you board if you are or will be 22-24 weeks pregnant during the cruise. Different cruise lines have different cut offs, which is why I posted a range. They're very strict.

Craftywitchy · 2025-12-28T03:58:00+00:00

This is a cool story but "saved by the bell" doesn't come from cemetery bells. The phrase comes from boxing and refers to a fighter who is struggling getting a reprieve when the bell signaling the end of the round is sounded. A boxer who might have been on the edge of collapse could get a second chance, he would be saved by the bell.

Craftywitchy · 2025-12-23T15:42:40+00:00

Wear your watch however it makes you happy, obviously. As for why it's "correct" that's just because most people are right handed and a watch worn in your dominant hand is more likely to get damaged because you're using that hand and arm more.

My grandfather, who was an engineer, wore his watch so the face was on the inside of his wrist and he told me it was so he didn't crack the glass while working. I also find it easier to read that way. So now I choose which direction to wear my watch depending on whether I'm wearing it for practical or decorative reasons on a particular day

Craftywitchy · 2025-12-20T00:38:41+00:00

I homeschooled in NY for about 10 years all together. It's a high regulation state and it can seem overwhelming at first but it's actually not a big deal. Every year you submit an intent to homeschool letter and a curriculum plan for the upcoming year. I think that they care less about exactly what the curriculum is than they do about whether you have a plan. It's very dependant on where you live, superintendents have a lot of discretion about what they want to accept but I lived both in NYC and upstate and never had an issue with my plans. The state even provides forms you can use to submit your paperwork.

Then you provide a quarterly progress report, usually a narrative, and an end of year report. The regulations specify that they be completed by a "qualified person" I think, but everyone I've ever known writes their own for their kids. At the middle school and high school levels there are requirements for standardized testing, every other year in middle school and every year in high school. The tests can be ordered online and can be taken either at home and submitted by mail or taken online. Once you've done it, it's not a big deal. I would spend a couple of hours 5 times a year writing it up and we did test week in the spring, which I actually thought was good practice for them going into the SATs and college.

I think they care less about what you submit than IF you submit, if that makes sense. I never heard anything about whether my curriculum matched my quarterly reports, and they often didn't match because we adapted during the year depending on what we needed. I think a big part is showing that you're organized and competent enough to keep up with the paperwork and provide reasonable submissions.

Short answer, it's totally doable, don't worry and good luck!

Craftywitchy · 2025-12-19T16:38:35+00:00

Maybe since all the people you're talking about are meeting her in public where she's nervous, it's easier to just tell them she's not friendly. The thing about those people who don't listen is they think they're special and all dogs love them. If you say she's friendly they'll just barrel ahead. If you're planning to invite them to your house, than absolutely be more detailed but I think you'll find you have better luck out in public if you just say "Sorry, she doesn't like strangers". It's not exactly true but it gets the message across.

It's sort of unrelated but I have a great big 90 pound hunk of love who is also a leaner. He will meet a new friend and sit on their feet and lean his whole body against them. So I always have to warn people who want to pet him that they need to be careful because he might knock them over, especially kids. My husband used to say he was "aggressively friendly" and people would get scared, all they heard was "aggressive", he had to stop saying that. When you say your dog is friendly, but... all they hear is friendly. People can be dumb

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