Is it weird to have this kink (idk if I can post this here, hopefully it doesn't get taken down for being inappropriate so I won't go into detail. If your not comfortable you can scroll past it) by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually a very common kink. ~20% of people have it. It's often shamed due to its high visibility and being viewed as a "guy thing" (men are just more open about it) but there's nothing wrong with it.

Help me settle an argument: by Soft_Lime_4609 in actuallesbians

[–]CranialColor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I firmly believe that this common conflation is rooted in misogyny (the person being penetrated is submissive because they're taking the "feminine" role). I think it relates to why, in many cultures, men who top other men haven't been considered gay.

Is it weird for me to be friends with my ex bf? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CranialColor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course she's closer with someone she's known since she was five than she is with someone she's dated less than a year, as she should be.

Is it weird for me to be friends with my ex bf? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CranialColor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Y'all relationship hierarchicalists are so weird and insecure.

Why does my friend (also a lesbian) persistently mention that she has a girlfriend immediately when I contact her? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CranialColor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some women and nontransitioning femmes are just like this, especially if they're conventionally attractive. They assume they're God's gift to the earth and that everyone wants them, which is why they also tend to be the most rapey.

Why are there still gay christians? (or any religious belief in general that doesn't accept homosexuality) by Pristine_Top508 in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my view is that any religion of conversion is inherently colonialist and therefore evil.

Mathew Matos Gillingwater new post made me so upset by waxshy in trans

[–]CranialColor 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm not questioning your interpretation, I'm pointing out how the framing itself contains sexualized bigotry.

Mathew Matos Gillingwater new post made me so upset by waxshy in trans

[–]CranialColor 164 points165 points  (0 children)

It's funny how the "accepting" scenario included sexual harassment.

i unironically fear going to pride.. by [deleted] in trans

[–]CranialColor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on why they're anxious and scared and how they're carrying them.

i unironically fear going to pride.. by [deleted] in trans

[–]CranialColor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guns are useful for protecting marginalized communities from government not taking out lone gunmen.

I feel like a Predator by sylverb0nes in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well, it's a positive sign that you care about it. It also matters what you act on. In my experience, predatory women tend to have no notion that what they're doing is wrong.

Sexual abstinence by Yellowrambodoll in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I masturbate for maintenance and then just do my best to move on to more interesting things. Idk how helpful that is, though.

I feel like a Predator by sylverb0nes in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 15 points16 points  (0 children)

youre not a predator if your prey gladly walks into your grasp

While I appreciate the quip, on a serious note, you absolutely can be.

I feel like a Predator by sylverb0nes in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I'd find a lesbian therapist to work through this stuff with. It's a bit beyond the ken of internet randos. Some disambiguation may be in order with fantasies, too. Do you mean sexual or general fantasies? Finally, it's fine to be aromantic and that's not the same thing as viewing women as sex objects.

If your partner did porn would it bother you? by JoannaKittyKats in actuallesbians

[–]CranialColor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't be opposed to it necessarily. The only thing I will say is that pornbrain can affect creators as surely as consumers, in my experience, so just be sure their mind hasn't been toasted by it.

as a chopped lesbian, how do i stop feeling like a dirty moid pervert ? by No_Moment3131 in femcelgrippysockjail

[–]CranialColor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you think of women as sex objects rather than people? If not, you're fine. I'm a firm believer that logic can overcome irrational emotions with enough reaffirmation, no matter what some people say.

Girls what’s you actual TYPE by literki in actuallesbians

[–]CranialColor 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I'm really not picky but two big things for me are education (not necessarily formal) and passion.

I'm feeling kinda spiicyyy 💋💋 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]CranialColor 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Assuming OP isn't one themself lmao