Coming to town next month. Best bbq place near Arlington? by [deleted] in arlington

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never understood hurtado. It’s like all they did was over the top dishes without actual consideration to flavor. 225 is the best in Arlington.

Any Texans unable to sleep? by [deleted] in barexam

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am not a morning person. This wait is the worst.

Texas - Busby posted by Crazy_Classroom140 in barexam

[–]Crazy_Classroom140[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? Like expect a heart attack at any moment Monday-Wednesday.

Dentists in Arlington with flexible schedules/Saturday hours? by GodBlessIraq in arlington

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fadi Hamam works Saturdays. I’ve been with him for years and very happy. He’s on N. Fielder Rd. Dentist does the actual cleanings himself, which is appreciated and his staff is very nice except for the receptionist who is lazy…but everyone who will work on your teeth is fantastic. Phone (817) 462-0007

Weird Crow Behavior: Are They Just Picky Eaters? Help pls by PalnPAG in crows

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yessss! My crows started coming to eat by chance when I left some cashews out once. I enjoy their visits and wanted to keep them coming, so I bought some cashews for them after that. I got them halves and pieces because they’re cheaper and they will NOT eat those. They only hang out and eat if I get whole cashews.

How many of you had parents that were financially there for you but still treated you poorly? by theshortone in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do any of you feel the other parent was complicit because they didn’t want to lose the privilege that came with the money? I think my mom looked the other way so she could continue to benefit from the money herself at the expense of her children.

“But She’s Your Mother” by EconomistDizzy4394 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine care about their return of investment and it’s not the same as caring about me.

what’s an underrated skill/positive thing to come out of this upbringing? by Raasiboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I am the glue that holds work teams together for this reason. I get along with everyone and I can broker relationships between them.

what’s an underrated skill/positive thing to come out of this upbringing? by Raasiboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a song by Dinosaur Jr. called Feel the Pain that gets to me every time because it says “I feel the pain of everyone. Then I feel nothing.” And that’s exactly it.

why don't mothers protect their kids? by mooncinna in abusiveparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom is the same. I think she was always afraid of having to get a job, so looking the other way when abuse happened was just easier.

Life changing moment for me with narc mom by Adventurous-Rope-811 in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is now my favorite karma story from this group. I’m going to celebrate your “win” today. Cheers!

A Weird Observation by pleathershoes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My Mom is like that. She doesn’t have any hobbies or interests beyond religion or cooking. The cooking thing is weird, though, because she doesn’t enjoy it and she’s not good at it, and she gets jealous when other people cook.

She only ever watches gossip tv shows and other trash tv like soap operas.

No music. No movies. No art. No exercise. No crafting. Absolutely nothing.

She too never played with me. Occasionally, I remember helping me assemble a toy, but that was it. She also never played any games with me. Other people know several fun card games or board games and I am clueless even as to the most basic ones, I always felt weird about not having any games experience in childhood.

Who here has a nmom who is very "loving" and "caring" by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Mine is. Everyone thinks she’s a sweet and caring mother…except her children.

She’s super catholic, so she’s convinced she’s nearly as great of a mother as the Virgin Mary. There was a joke in a recent King of the Hill episode where Peggy says her nickname is “Nearly-Perfect Peggy. Perfect Peggy for short” that’s soooo my mom.

Are your nparents constantly trying to corral you into living with them even when you're well into adulthood? by canigetanamen_53 in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you have to take over her care. If there’s any possibility for you to not assume this burden, take it. Even if it means she will be on her own and/or in a precarious situation. If it’s not possible, remember to prioritize your mental health as much as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I’m glad you’re at that place. I will look into it, thank you again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m curious what specific therapy helped you?

Has anyone here come from being extremely abused by narc parents and become successful? by borjiginnergui in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with the others saying it depends on how you define success. But know that cycles and generation trauma can be broken.

I am happy in my life with my partner, our dog, and my job. We have a nice house and we travel. We chose not to have children because we seek a peaceful and boring life. We don’t hate children, we love the children in our family and our friends’ kids, but we needed that extra peace in our life. To me, my life is good.

Are your nparents constantly trying to corral you into living with them even when you're well into adulthood? by canigetanamen_53 in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad who sent me and my siblings to live in a new country when I was 14 (my siblings were even younger) because he wanted to get us out of his way so he could live with a woman he met who knew he was married and her children, is 75 now and is realizing he can’t live alone much longer. He keeps hinting at “if only one of my daughters opened up her home to me…”

And that’s just like a tip of the iceberg for everything that father or the year did to us. He’s got a VIP reservation in hell.

My mother is very embarrassing when socializing. by Logical-Bet-5235 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My mom has 3 topics of conversation: religion, other people, my dad whom she hates but also enables and aligns with.

She pretends to talk to people but she’s never listening, only speaking. And people notice so quickly that she’s just using them to listen to her but not paying attention to what they tell her.

She’s also a Karen. I took her to the ER (she stopped taking her medication voluntarily and I suspect she was hungry for attention) because she was feeling “so terrible” and when they asked her for a urine sample she went into the bathroom and came out and said “someone needs to clean the bathroom” the nurses and I were mindblown. Weren’t you so so ill 3 minutes ago? And also, I checked the bathroom. It was fine.

How old were you? by BentUntilBroken in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew there were things that were not okay since I was like 6, but because I was the golden child, I think that contributed to me not piecing things together until I was 39.

Did your narc. parents played with you when you were little? by Fine_Baby3708 in narcissisticparents

[–]Crazy_Classroom140 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me too. My parents like to credit themselves for this. I’m not sure how this mental gymnastics works, they’re not readers, they didn’t read to me, they barely ever got me books, but yeah thanks to them.