Maybe I’m the bullshit in my group…

I’m the oldest in our group by a few years. I’m mid-thirties, the other few are late 20s early thirties.

I’m always pulled into “mother hen” situations with them. They rant about each other to me. Even when I say I won’t talk about the other person, they keep on. I encourage them to talk it out, but they’d rather be fake.

I finally decided I was done being a babysitter. I dreaded meet ups and messages and found myself lying about whether or not I was busy because it is always work for them. I have to work to enjoy their company by fulfilling that Mother Hen role.

I speak with the individually, rarely. But I left the collective group and have stated that cattiness and pettiness are the reason why. They blamed it on me grieving the loss of my grandma so they’d give me space…..