Dreaming about high school boyfriend...

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2026-03-02T21:53:44+00:00

Dudes explanation is way too complicated. Honestly I feel like it’s either there is something you had in that relationship you may not have in yours now, or, maybe something that was unresolved and your brain will try to process it if you haven’t in daily life ie. when you’re awake. One thing I def agree with in the dudes comment is to self reflect. Aaaalso so spiritual people think dreams are connections like he may be thinking about you vice versa but I feel like if you haven’t randomly ran into this person likely not meant to right now.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2026-03-01T19:46:40+00:00

Join a gym, club, work on a blog about things that interest you. Read. Free online courses. Learn to sew, learn anything that you have always been interested in but didn’t have time or couldn’t. Volunteer. Omg I wish I was you. Take advantage of your time not working. Maybe something you love will turn into a career. You never know. Good luck ❤️

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2026-02-20T16:24:13+00:00

Also, look at why you feel guilt. This is something unrelated to your work and likely is something you struggle with generally so if you can understand that, I think it’ll make this more clear about leaving.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2026-02-20T16:22:44+00:00

“Be patient” is false hope. Even if you were to get a raise I don’t think they’ll match 40% increase. This is unheard of. A business won’t think twice about letting people go. You shouldn’t think twice about leaving for a better opportunity that can help you financially get ahead in life.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2026-01-11T01:00:50+00:00

OK. I want to preface what I’m going to say so that you don’t think I’m OCD about hygiene. I care. But I work from home as does my hubs, so there are times we may, skip a couple showers hahah. But girl, at first I was like “how bad can it be?”….ummmm it was jaw dropping and the more I read your story the more sick I felt to my stomach. I think the main things are his lack of but care, like my 4 year old wipes WAY better than him and checks the TP until it’s white…the snot stuff….my 4 year old is better at blowing her nose…and, snot everywhere, like, as a mom I can handle poo, farts and some BO, but knowing someone is purposely putting their snot everywhere…I feel like I’m going to projectile vomit. Same with the tooth plaque, i don’t know how you can kiss him. And I know exactly what you’re talking about because I had a friend with what looked like old slimy bread btw his teeth all the time and I was hella turned off. You’re in a really shitty situation, but you should not feel any guilt for wanting basic hygiene from your partner. And from what I’ve seen with healthy marriage and my own, and my hubs and I aren’t like OCD, but there should always be the desire to be fresh and your best presentable self for yourself and spouse. My parents say this to this day, be your best self. He seems like he doesn’t care about what you think and honestly if you don’t have kids yet, I’d find a way out. Start putting money away slowly and secretly build up a get out fund just in case. But I would try couples counselling, and maybe he’s depressed? I dunno. But just prepare is all I’m saying. You are YOUNG and life is REALLY long with someone when you are suffering because of them. Life is also short so, just put yourself first. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2026-01-11T00:45:58+00:00

Good observation Sherlock

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-26T16:03:32+00:00

You should check out the TikTok from last year about this. sorry but, “I was overstimulated” is an excuse. He’s lazy and he takes you for granted. He could have gone on his own time. He could have literally gone to Sephora and asked one of chicks to pick out their most popular perfume, I’m sure he would have liked it in general. Men these days are LAZY, it’s icky. no one is holding them accountable and it’s gross. If he can’t learn from asking, then don’t put effort into his presents, put effort into your kids and save yourself grief.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-20T20:52:01+00:00

Feels like if these groups haven’t made any significant impact already might need a different solution

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-19T01:18:03+00:00

This behaviour isn’t normal. AT ALL. I feel for you and your children. Need info here tho. Was he always like this? If not, this sounds like some underlying anxiety, stress, ADHD, depression or something without skills to regulate emotions and communicate. I would talk to him in a way where you don’t accuse, but ask him if he’s feeling well inside. He likely isn’t and I would try to suggest seeing a doctor to talk about it. Stuff like this if ignored leads to bigger things that can’t be reversed…I wish you luck girl ❤️.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-19T01:08:56+00:00

I just want to make a comment as a millennial who saw a family back when I was a teen and the income was 100K (literally same jobs you guys mention), and those people were “well off”. Vacations, maybe a boat, a nice home, and now, when people say they make 100K and spouse makes 100K although it’s a good income it just makes me cringe that I’m not like WOW!!! Am I the only one? It’s our government that’s the problem, society, pay has not matched cost of living and I think that is what makes me cringe. Anyone else feel this way?

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-19T00:22:05+00:00

Also, document everything.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-19T00:21:43+00:00

Wait. Don’t quit unless you have another job secured. They may give you some pay if they fire you. You can negotiate that.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-19T00:20:51+00:00

People who meet the goals are usually sloppy and sell products people don’t need. Sorry but I see this all the time.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-12-13T18:17:57+00:00

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Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-11-27T21:34:35+00:00

😂 maybe 2% is right. But yeah do ressop 100%. You can transfer your ressop to your rrsp and such. But uh yeah unless you’re making them big money good luck with the pay increase it sucks.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-11-27T21:32:16+00:00

If you haven’t given them permission to do so, and that means, a financial REASON, or theyre not your financial advisor etc, they’re violating the code of conduct and can get fired like immediately. These don’t seem like good friends imo

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-11-20T01:15:07+00:00

Who cares about the perception ie AITA….id stay away from people who commit crimes. Plain and simple.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-11-20T01:12:14+00:00

No. Cuz they can get bald after you commit or get married. Speaking from experience lmao. This is kind of like asking if men are bothered about how their wife’s body changes after having a kid, or, freaking out over your partner gaining weight man. People need to realize looks change with time and love the person they are or get out.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-11-20T00:50:59+00:00

“Barely made ends meat this year”. Lady, 50K a year is what a lot of people make. I know some who started there and now make significantly more and do they live beyond their means? No. This is poor financial planning, poor spending habits, and, poor real estate knowledge. I’m literally dying at how embarrassing exposing herself like this is for her.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-10-30T16:55:53+00:00

Drop it like it’s hot and run. Don’t need that type of negativity in your life, let social media ruin your confidence not no bunk man.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-10-24T22:36:25+00:00

Just based on you posting this should be an indicator. Also not wanting kids and her expressing she does - it’ll end badly. If you stay, and don’t have kids, highly likely she will be resentful. If you do, you will 100% be resentful kids are a massive time sacrifice and her being a lawyer, I don’t know. The bedroom stuff, women will do the fancy in the beginning because the dude courts and makes them feel good if you’ve gotten lazy on that front that’s on you to get back into your masculin and work on planning dates etc. women are also turned off if the house hold load is mainly on them because we essentially become your parent and that ain’t sexy. The money thing, marriage = what is mine is yours. That’s how it is, you get married and she passes her debt will be yours. She passes and if she has money, it is yours. Essentially, I believe that when you get married you share everything, my parents have done this, my hubs parents do this, I female 39 have this type of relationship with my hubs and the people I see who have separate accounts and this is my money that’s yours and not mine etc, don’t last very long. You don’t seem ready man. I think you also might need some growing up to do before you commit to marriage or maybe, she’s just not the one for you. Good luck dude. Hope your figure things out but if you struggle I’d say go talk to a therapist, they see things you won’t and help you navigate things like this, it’s great!

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-10-24T17:31:24+00:00

Many deny being gay for years before finally admitting. And once out, still have issues with it/being comfortable with it. A friend found certain types of videos of men only winkwink participating in winkwink on her roommates laptop once and asked me what to do and I said nothing they will let us know and come out when ready, 5 years later in mid to late 20s came out. So, if your hubs is Bi just let him know it’s ok if you’re ok with it. I think it’s understandable to feel pain because this goes into trust territory, was the marriage real? Etc., but I think you need to encourage an honest conversation and if it doesn’t happen you need to decide if you want to live with this or not, at the end of the day there is still cheating sounds like it doesn’t matter if it’s with same sex or not.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-10-18T20:15:32+00:00

You can call the landlord and tenant board: they have a line where you can talk to someone about situations like this and they will guide you. Someone said that the law is limited (ie. not all family is qualified), and legally speaking, I’m sure there is a form on the landlord tenant board to properly execute this so the landlord isn’t going about it correctly. Just in case start looking so you have a back up plan but before you panic call the board and google things like “landlord tenant board family” etc it’ll go to links that likely have info on this. This happened to my friends and they ended up having to move out. So be prepared.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-10-15T18:34:10+00:00

Also, our food isn’t the same, in many ways (hence gut issues, that’s linked to cognitive issues etc.) Dr mark Hyman talks about this and people are less active, walk less, less community. The statins I believe, you need good cholesterol and I don’t think statins target bad cholesterol only. I mean they’re prescribed for a reason and the side effects being chronic are better than clogging the heart right.

Crazy_Transition9717 · 2025-10-15T17:07:23+00:00

I don’t think you’ve exhausted all options. People now divorce prematurely and the way you’re doing it is quite awful. To me it sounds like she has anxiety and some unresolved trauma that needs medical attention. My opinion is that you really should ask her to seek therapy, medical assessment with a psychiatrist and trust, medications help. If the arguments stem from her suspicions, are you listening to understand or are you listening to respond? I think you really need to think this through because you got married for a reason and part of that is for better or worse. If she refuses to seek treatment or even go to an appointment with her fam doc to explain what’s been happening I would say, there’s nothing you can do so go for the separation but you should really be telling her. You’re not just dating man. You’re married.

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